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The Doctor.

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29. Bullying is chronic harassment and intimidation against a weaker person.
Tue May 22, 2012, 07:26 PM
May 2012

It's a very fine distinction, I'll grant, but once you resort to their tactics, it's not 'bullying' as you've balanced the 'relationship'.

Bullying is an imbalanced relationship. Fighting back is 'fighting back', not 'bullying'.

And if you like that explanation... ag_dude May 2012 #1
Which is a bullshit response. The Doctor. May 2012 #6
Okay, sorry, violence IS the answer. ag_dude May 2012 #7
To violence? Yes. The Doctor. May 2012 #9
I just ignored the idiots. ag_dude May 2012 #11
That's how I did and do handle it, and have found it quite effective. cbayer May 2012 #14
You are lucky that you did not deal with actual bullies. The Doctor. May 2012 #39
Please explain for the rest of us how to "ignore" being physically attacked. (nt) Posteritatis May 2012 #60
You can't Aerows May 2012 #66
Wow. That you could even imagine that the bullying of the Bush Administration The Doctor. May 2012 #35
It doesn't work every time, but it worked when I punched a bully in the nose rustydog May 2012 #49
You are correct, sir gratuitous May 2012 #12
There is no "Church of Redemptive Violence". The Doctor. May 2012 #75
Actually the Neocons bullied this country into two wars because NO ONE stood up to them. sabrina 1 May 2012 #55
+1 nt laundry_queen May 2012 #97
some ways i agree and some i don't cindyperry2010 May 2012 #2
Wow, really bad advice nobodyspecial May 2012 #3
Then you have no concept of the psychology of a bully. The Doctor. May 2012 #8
A person can understand you and still think you are wrong. ag_dude May 2012 #10
I find the OP amusing. pintobean May 2012 #18
That's right. The Doctor. May 2012 #77
Oh, there's substance there. pintobean May 2012 #80
You've contradicted nothing. Nor have I 'contradicted' myself at all. The Doctor. May 2012 #87
It took a while to pintobean May 2012 #88
Funny that you behave other than a well-adjusted married man. The Doctor. May 2012 #92
Thank you, Dr. Fraud. pintobean May 2012 #93
Correct. I understood what the OP was saying nobodyspecial May 2012 #21
If you understand me when I tell you the Earth revolves around the sun, The Doctor. May 2012 #26
The earth revolves around the sun nobodyspecial May 2012 #48
So, when a bully beat the crap out of you... The Doctor. May 2012 #76
No, it's not 'verifiable' to those who cannot understand the science behind it. The Doctor. May 2012 #86
you're providing us some tasty irony with this thread. thank you. dionysus May 2012 #84
And you are providing... um... The Doctor. May 2012 #85
you just proved my point. dionysus May 2012 #89
You just proved mine: The Doctor. May 2012 #91
maybe. but insulting everyone who dares disagree with you does nothing more than make you look dionysus May 2012 #95
It's funny, a guy with 6 hidden posts pintobean May 2012 #99
Calling someone 'misinformed' or 'ignorant' The Doctor. Jun 2012 #100
So the bully is beating you. jeff47 May 2012 #70
My hubby was bullied in school abelenkpe May 2012 #4
It's unfortunate that sinking to 'animal' behavior is the only thing that tends to work. The Doctor. May 2012 #23
True. HappyMe May 2012 #42
I will always retaliate against people. Comrade_McKenzie May 2012 #5
Bullying a bully doesn't solve the problem.... cynatnite May 2012 #13
? The Doctor. May 2012 #24
You said lower yourself to their level... cynatnite May 2012 #28
Bullying is chronic harassment and intimidation against a weaker person. The Doctor. May 2012 #29
Here is what you said... cynatnite May 2012 #34
If the person is weaker, how do they become "stronger" than the bully treestar May 2012 #38
A lot of kids stay small. i am one of them. Manifestor_of_Light May 2012 #47
Big guys (like me)... Cave_Johnson May 2012 #64
I used that tactic Aerows May 2012 #67
They don't have to be stronger. jeff47 May 2012 #71
How does one "demonstrate they are going to hurt" the bully? treestar May 2012 #83
No. Hit them. jeff47 May 2012 #90
the linebacker threatening the bully, imo, is an effective use of elehhhhna May 2012 #15
People like to pretend we are all descended from angels Demeter May 2012 #16
Yep. laundry_queen May 2012 #98
Wow. I would love to respond to you reasonably, but, frankly cbayer May 2012 #17
Ummm... yeah. The Doctor. May 2012 #25
"Since I'm not a bully, that doesn't work on me." ellisonz May 2012 #41
Well, this worked at Gitmo cthulu2016 May 2012 #19
No one stopped the bullies at GITMO. The Doctor. May 2012 #31
I disagree with the term counter-bullying. A credible "deterrent" is sufficient to stop a bully. Selatius May 2012 #20
In JR high, I joined the wrestling team. lumberjack_jeff May 2012 #22
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Not one for making distinctions, are you? The Doctor. May 2012 #30
Post removed Post removed May 2012 #32
So, nothing intelligent or salient to say? The Doctor. May 2012 #36
You're wrong... ellisonz May 2012 #33
Saying "I love you" while getting your head dunked in a toilet is not very effective. (nt) jeff47 May 2012 #69
That legitimizes what they do treestar May 2012 #37
I was smaller. The Doctor. May 2012 #40
I didn't do a thing treestar May 2012 #44
+ Infinity. I hate when people punish kids for defending themselves. Odin2005 May 2012 #43
Thank you. HappyMe May 2012 #45
Violence may be one way to make a bully move on to someone else, ZombieHorde May 2012 #46
Bullies don't want a fight. rrneck May 2012 #50
Violence and psychological abuse is not the answer. NCTraveler May 2012 #51
I wouldn't call it "counter-bullying". I just call it "taking up for myself" and you are correct.... phleshdef May 2012 #52
I see nothing wrong with that outlook Zanzoobar May 2012 #53
At what cost? Robb May 2012 #54
"Every single time" implies more than once - that it didn't work the first time REP May 2012 #56
Not sure what you're failing to grasp here. The Doctor. May 2012 #58
When I was 12 and didn't know other ways, yes it worked REP May 2012 #59
I agree with you on all points. Edweird May 2012 #57
I stopped one bully at school with a swift kick to the nuts. backscatter712 May 2012 #61
Yeah, and I would have been expelled . . . . HughBeaumont May 2012 #62
The Bullying Ritual silentwarrior May 2012 #63
Excellent piece of insight. The Doctor. May 2012 #79
I see what "you" did there Capt. Obvious May 2012 #65
You "Failed" to put your "Thumbs Up" The Doctor. May 2012 #74
"Lame" Capt. Obvious May 2012 #81
You're quite sharp. That's pretty much exactly what I was saying. The Doctor. May 2012 #82
Sometimes your inner berserker is your best friend... Buns_of_Fire May 2012 #68
+1,000. But, you can't bully a bully. It's called defending yourself - lynne May 2012 #72
Agreed if someone's life isn't on the line just1voice May 2012 #73
I oppose counter-bullying, but I am for self-defense bluestateguy May 2012 #78
There is a profound difference between force and violence. Force is appropriate. WriteWrong May 2012 #94
It's called self-defense, and it is fine IMO. RedCappedBandit May 2012 #96
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