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In reply to the discussion: Sad and Confused...My friend shot his mother on Mother's Day [View all]MADem
(135,425 posts)It's tough work and they do it well and compassionately. They're more up to speed than I am on the Hows and Whys and Wherefores of "the system" and the courts and how ceding "authority" can work for people--if they'd only put aside their pride and realize when they can't handle it anymore. I've heard enough from them to know that they know what they're talking about, though!
It's one thing to care for someone as part of a large team for seven hours a day, who may need to be medicated, and watched, and corrected--it's another thing to try to do that ALONE around the clock. A friken SAINT can't do it! A health care worker can get help with a shout, is on a fixed shift, and can go HOME at the end of it.
A family member trying to do all that caregiving is on a never ending treadmill. Sometimes, it's best to just give up the "stuff," simplify, and move on--if doing that ensures that your loved one is in a safe environment and the family member keeps their sanity, it's more than worth it.