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Tue May 15, 2012, 10:41 PM

EFerrari (163,986 posts)

44. I'm so sorry.

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113 replies	Author	Time	Post
Sad and Confused...My friend shot his mother on Mother's Day [View all]	titaniumsalute	May 2012	OP
That is horribly horribly sad.	mucifer	May 2012	#1
So sad and, you're right, this shouldn't happen in a wealthy country like this...	polichick	May 2012	#2
Very sad. Many of us are dealing with this -	TBF	May 2012	#3
So sorry to read about this	mazzarro	May 2012	#4
oh my...	dana_b	May 2012	#5
I am terribly, terribly sorry to read this.	BlueIris	May 2012	#6
Why euthanasia isn't legal?	metalbot	May 2012	#7
We don't really know what kind of life his mom had.	Hoyt	May 2012	#12
Should I ever get dementia...	awoke_in_2003	May 2012	#78
Same here.	AtheistCrusader	May 2012	#82
I second that. I watch my grandmother take care of my grandpa.	Thav	May 2012	#89
"I hope I never put my family through that"...	awoke_in_2003	May 2012	#99
euthansia	kardonb	May 2012	#22
Well, then we have to face the facts.	MsPithy	May 2012	#38
We do have euthanasia - it's called "hospice." At the least at-home version...	DesertDiamond	May 2012	#60
Oh, stop it. Hospice does not put people on morphine drips to cause their deaths!	sinkingfeeling	May 2012	#69
Hospice does not kill people if they don't die soon enough!	obamanut2012	May 2012	#71
Ugh, correlation/causation.	AtheistCrusader	May 2012	#83
That's one of the most bullshit posts I've ever fucking read.	Codeine	May 2012	#84
I'm guessing you recently lost someone close to you	mn9driver	May 2012	#85
what an incredibly kind and compassionate response	renate	May 2012	#86
You're nicer than I am.	a la izquierda	May 2012	#104
My grandfather died three days ago in hospice.	a la izquierda	May 2012	#103
Some things are worse than death	gadjitfreek	May 2012	#61
I agree with you and your post 100%. Thanks for sharing.	titaniumsalute	May 2012	#70
Yeah - why should humans be allowed dignity and respite like dogs	dmallind	May 2012	#81
I'm really sorry. We better find better ways to care for the elderly.	Hoyt	May 2012	#8
Edited for correction:	Baitball Blogger	May 2012	#9
I misread it too. I believe he has been a friend of the OP for 15 years.	ScreamingMeemie	May 2012	#10
thanks. I made the necessary correction.	Baitball Blogger	May 2012	#14
That is devastating.	ScreamingMeemie	May 2012	#11
Compassion.	Gregorian	May 2012	#13
This may be a wealthy country for some, but it's sorely lacking in many	RKP5637	May 2012	#15
No nursing home would take her?	ingac70	May 2012	#16
If you don't have cash on the barrelhead, nursing homes don't want you.	KatyaR	May 2012	#17
You are fortunate that your state hasn't cut that yet	jtuck004	May 2012	#55
So sad!	One Voice	May 2012	#18
+1	freshwest	May 2012	#43
This is a tragic story...	liberalmuse	May 2012	#19
It happens in an uncivilized, immoral country, run by greedy zealots	ProfessionalLeftist	May 2012	#20
It sounds like he couldn't take it anymore.	dkf	May 2012	#21
The official cause on my Dad's death certificate was dementia	panader0	May 2012	#23
OMG that is awful. I feel for you.	glinda	May 2012	#53
I can sympathize with the friend	NotThisTime	May 2012	#67
I'm terribly sorry. But I know the feeling.	Buns_of_Fire	May 2012	#24
So sad for your friend. He is a hero who broke.	patrice	May 2012	#25
Oh my God, I am so sorry for your friend and his family. There was noone to help this poor man?	Ecumenist	May 2012	#26
Why don't people remember that they have to put on their own oxygen mask first?	WillowTree	May 2012	#27
This is a truly horrible story	bupkus	May 2012	#28
After taking care of both my elderly parents (dad with Alzheimer's) until their deaths,	enough	May 2012	#29
Growing up I heard my parents say they would	Betsy Ross	May 2012	#32
It's exactly that inability to take action that prevents the dementia sufferer from doing what	enough	May 2012	#33
The medical directive will not solve this problem	Betsy Ross	May 2012	#34
I am so sorry to hear about your friend	abelenkpe	May 2012	#30
My deepest sympathies	Betsy Ross	May 2012	#31
.	Coyote_Bandit	May 2012	#35
This is horrible but my husband	bkkyosemite	May 2012	#36
If he had no income because he cared for her for so long and if he was	glinda	May 2012	#51
Oh, wow, I am just so terribly sorry!	Rhiannon12866	May 2012	#37
Worked in the Home Health Care industry for a couple of years	cr8tvlde	May 2012	#39
He should have "walked away" (legally speaking) years ago.	MADem	May 2012	#40
I wish I could rec your post.	Kaleva	May 2012	#42
I have relatives who work caring for people who are at the end of the line.	MADem	May 2012	#47
He probably could have kept the house	yankeepants	May 2012	#54
Here's how I view it--it's not a question of total time in the saddle, it's a question of Quality	MADem	May 2012	#63
You are probably right...	ElboRuum	May 2012	#74
The most compassionate thing people can do is admit when they can't handle it.	MADem	May 2012	#79
Oh, don't get me wrong, I agree 100%.	ElboRuum	May 2012	#80
I know what you mean. Pity someone didn't take him aside and give him the old pep talk.	MADem	May 2012	#95
A promise is a promise.	peace13	May 2012	#91
When your "promise" puts the life of your loved one and the person providing care in danger, it's	MADem	May 2012	#94
Well said.	yankeepants	May 2012	#100
And in breaking the promise, what you told your mom is that you REALLY CARE.	MADem	May 2012	#107
You were insinuating that the man put his own interest in front of his mother's.	peace13	May 2012	#102
I was not insinuating anything, the word is "callous" and I wasn't that either, and you are	MADem	May 2012	#106
Yes, callous, that's the word.	peace13	May 2012	#110
Peace back at you.	MADem	May 2012	#111
This.	redqueen	May 2012	#96
Guilt is a powerful thing	mainer	May 2012	#108
You did the right thing, and you know it in your heart. I agree, though, that guilt can make	MADem	May 2012	#109
This is exactly what they want.	Atypical Liberal	May 2012	#41
I'm so sorry.	EFerrari	May 2012	#44
How awful. Alzheimer's really can't be treated at home unless one has an	Cleita	May 2012	#45
K&R....this is sad on so many levels....n/t	unkachuck	May 2012	#46
That's so very sad...	one_voice	May 2012	#48
An observation and suggestion	jerseyjack	May 2012	#49
On a similar observance...wealthy couples can pay to stay together	glinda	May 2012	#50
OMG!	Odin2005	May 2012	#52
What a tragedy all around.	Beacool	May 2012	#56
My father had dementia and I took care of him for 3years	Raine	May 2012	#57
Wow. You have my admiration.	MADem	May 2012	#97
So sorry to hear about your friend	goclark	May 2012	#58
Nah...I had two beers and went home.	titaniumsalute	May 2012	#75
This message was self-deleted by its author	DesertDiamond	May 2012	#59
I'm not comfortable with your post.	cali	May 2012	#62
Sorry this happened. I don't know how your friend stood it as long as he did. nt	raccoon	May 2012	#64
I don't know what to say, other than...	Ferretherder	May 2012	#65
So sorry.	Boudica the Lyoness	May 2012	#66
This is why I have The Plan.	lapislzi	May 2012	#68
I respect you for making such a Plan.	crim son	May 2012	#77
Alzheimer's is a hellish disease. I prayed for my mother's death even though she was in a nursing	jwirr	May 2012	#72
I'll answer your last question.	ElboRuum	May 2012	#73
Very Sad.	deathrind	May 2012	#76
Sir Terry Pratchett: "I'll die before the endgame"	LongTomH	May 2012	#87
I don't want to/can't afford to die in Switzerland	lapislzi	May 2012	#90
This nation is only powerful for the wealthy. It's shit for everyone else. nt	valerief	May 2012	#88
My husband's been diagnosed with dementia.	Rozlee	May 2012	#92
Condolences dear titaniumsalute	Smilo	May 2012	#93
In answer to your question, it happens because	WHEN CRABS ROAR	May 2012	#98
I wonder why he didn't put her in a nursing home?	Honeycombe8	May 2012	#101
He probably promised her he wouldn't	queenjane	May 2012	#105
Either that or	titaniumsalute	May 2012	#112
So, killing her is better?	nobodyspecial	May 2012	#113

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