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Jane Austin

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57. Because it's one of the few places

Tue May 5, 2015, 09:59 PM

May 2015

A thoroughgoing narcissist can have a captive audience and be the complete center of attention while getting to hear the sound of their own voice for nearly an hour.

It's disgusting, but they get away with it because they are doing it in the "name of the Lord".

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Ever been to a funeral where the preacher screams at the bereaved? [View all] Tsiyu May 2015 OP

I went to one like that - it was obnoxious. Baptist minister asked Lil Missy May 2015 #1

That sounds like total self-absorption and exploitation Tsiyu May 2015 #4

scary funeral Liberal_in_LA May 2015 #2

Not scary for me, because the man's threats only mean something to those who believe them Tsiyu May 2015 #5

Yeah, exactly. Warren DeMontague May 2015 #61

The family hired him; must've had an idea of what they were in for REP May 2015 #3

Our family has memorial services where we remember the person Tsiyu May 2015 #7

"Clergy usually don't do funerals gratis" awoke_in_2003 May 2015 #17

These days most clegy charge a good sum csziggy May 2015 #47

Wow... awoke_in_2003 May 2015 #49

Yeah, it was startling csziggy May 2015 #50

Nope. I've mostly been to the kind where you check the program during the eulogy winter is coming May 2015 #6

Aha Tsiyu May 2015 #8

I think the poster is talking about a funeral where the deceased is raised so high ScreamingMeemie May 2015 #10

Ah I see Tsiyu May 2015 #13

Yes. This. winter is coming May 2015 #19

My grandma's funeral was like this gollygee May 2015 #9

Well, this woman may have wanted that; I don't know. Tsiyu May 2015 #14

Yes, pastor began a tirade about one of us in the audience being next, kids were terrified... AuntPatsy May 2015 #11

So you think they're nuts, too? Tsiyu May 2015 #15

Most funerals I have been to did not have a church service. Raine1967 May 2015 #12

I do not know Tsiyu May 2015 #16

My guess is Southern Baptist or some sort of "unaffiliated" fundy church. winter is coming May 2015 #20

100% Runningdawg May 2015 #23

Some priests ( I don't know how many) want to do the funeral Mass hedgehog May 2015 #84

Last funeral I went to was a couple of weeks ago. The Velveteen Ocelot May 2015 #18

Lovely and peaceful Tsiyu May 2015 #29

No (nt) bigwillq May 2015 #21

Nope B2G May 2015 #22

When my dad died, we had to listened to one of those awful preachers. procon May 2015 #24

I wish you had been at this funeral! Tsiyu May 2015 #31

I was at one where the "preacher" editorialized about the young woman's lifestyle Sen. Walter Sobchak May 2015 #25

That must have been awful Tsiyu May 2015 #33

Future historians will have a laugh at the neanderthals belief in god NoJusticeNoPeace May 2015 #26

The last funeral I was at was a tad uncomfortable AndreaCG May 2015 #27

Screamed? LWolf May 2015 #28

Isn't that just so lazy? Tsiyu May 2015 #36

Yes. LWolf May 2015 #83

That is just so cruel Tsiyu May 2015 #86

I think that's a Baptist thing theboss May 2015 #30

I went to a graveside service for an elderly aunt DefenseLawyer May 2015 #32

I think I would have had to walk out Tsiyu May 2015 #37

Yes I've been to one like that. janlyn May 2015 #45

Last funeral I was at, the pastor was cool. backscatter712 May 2015 #34

God or Jesus or Allah is supposed to be a comfort when you grieve Tsiyu May 2015 #39

At my wife's funeral, I delivered the eulogy myself derby378 May 2015 #35

I remember you posting about Ginny's funeral Tsiyu May 2015 #40

Thank you... derby378 May 2015 #44

I hope Tsiyu May 2015 #59

Many funerals I have attended in the South mention the deceased briefly.... alphafemale May 2015 #38

I guess that's what they're used to Tsiyu May 2015 #42

I've been to more than a few of them malaise May 2015 #41

It does no good, really, does it? Tsiyu May 2015 #43

Pisses off everyone malaise May 2015 #46

lol Tsiyu May 2015 #48

Not yet. zappaman May 2015 #51

WEll, come on down! Tsiyu May 2015 #54

My Father's funeral was all fire and brimstone, as near as i can tell because of his 2nd wife's Warren DeMontague May 2015 #52

"Jarring" is an excellent description Tsiyu May 2015 #55

You know, At the time I just quietly rolled my eyes. Warren DeMontague May 2015 #58

Park us in a chair Tsiyu May 2015 #62

I was at a funeral once where the minister screamed at the family of the deceased!!! MADem May 2015 #53

Those of us who come from more compassionate traditions Tsiyu May 2015 #56

They were prepared for it. MADem May 2015 #63

Good for them! Tsiyu May 2015 #70

I will say, it was a strange experience--almost like something that would make MADem May 2015 #87

Maybe they left specific instructions to that effect. Warren DeMontague May 2015 #60

I think the minister had a "special relationship" with the deceased, i.e., I think he MADem May 2015 #65

Because it's one of the few places Jane Austin May 2015 #57

Well, Jane Austin Tsiyu May 2015 #64

I have no idea who selected the preacher Go Vols May 2015 #66

Yeah, won't happen in my family ever Tsiyu May 2015 #71

That happened at my grandmother's funeral laundry_queen May 2015 #67

Maybe it's some Super Secret PsyOps Tsiyu May 2015 #72

Close Generic Brad May 2015 #68

I'm sure that was just what she needed to hear in her time of sorrow Tsiyu May 2015 #73

I experienced this. I had to snatch my eulogy out of their hands Quayblue May 2015 #69

Thank you Quayblue, for the wonderful hugs Tsiyu May 2015 #75

Just came back from a service in Omaha and could not believe akbacchus_BC May 2015 #74

Everything's a racket Tsiyu May 2015 #76

Not only that, we paid for my son-in-law's name to be inscribed on the casket, and moments before akbacchus_BC May 2015 #77

That's horrible. Tsiyu May 2015 #79

Lots of manipulative and abusive gurus in all the different cults. Yorktown May 2015 #78

Pretty much with you there Tsiyu May 2015 #80

Wow, great, a fellow Flying Spaghetti Monster Believer. Yorktown May 2015 #81

I'm one of the Rigatoni Order Tsiyu May 2015 #85

I think some are just innept HeiressofBickworth May 2015 #82

Maybe it's a shield they wear to block all the sad people? Tsiyu May 2015 #88

Yes, it was some version of Baptist. JustABozoOnThisBus May 2015 #89

Yeah, we all tell the truth Tsiyu May 2015 #90

Out the guy by putting him on You Tube vinny9698 May 2015 #91

Excellent idea AndreaCG May 2015 #92

They broadcast these guys on the local radio Tsiyu May 2015 #93