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Tue May 8, 2012, 12:43 PM

49. I saw a man wash a dish only once when I was growing up.

That was my dad after Mom had a miscarriage. He got suds all over the kitchen, and my sister and I laughed so much that we both got spankings and put to bed while it was still daylight out.

My cousin was breastfeeding her child (early 80s) with a blanket over those parts, and her husband told her it was gross and undignified to be doing that in front of him, her mother, aunt, and cousin. She left the room crying, and I scolded him for not going to the birth of his child, her doing all the work while he sits back in his lazy-boy chair. My mom and aunt pulled me out of the room and told me not to talk to a man like that in his house.

Father and uncles who had girls prior to getting their boy would loudly discuss how disappointed they were time and again with each birth.

It's amazing to me that I or any woman could view men as equals rather than superiors considering how pervasive the lessons of the inferiority of females were.

Good paying jobs with a high school degree were/are out-of-reach for women due to sexual harassment. I know of several women who became truck drivers, but couldn't handle the sexual harassment. I've been denied positions as a landscaper, and after many years, I've met women who have owned their own landscaping businesses. They said that it's a misnomer that women can't handle the large mowers. In their experience, women are better at handling the mowers than men.

CNA jobs pay crappy, the hours are bad, and it breaks your back. But that's women's work. Plumbing, construction, networking jobs (I've been told to not even try for networking jobs because, "Do you see any women in the NOC?") are usually out-of-reach for the majority of women.

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