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patrice

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1. Absolutely NO ONE ever asked if it was good for ALL of us to get married & have kids.
Mon May 7, 2012, 05:38 PM
May 2012

Everyone was on auto-pilot about marriage and kids and, GUESS WHAT, a bunch of us got it wrong!!

Growing up female [View all] noiretextatique May 2012 OP
Absolutely NO ONE ever asked if it was good for ALL of us to get married & have kids. patrice May 2012 #1
I'm 50, and had about the same list as you. LiberalLoner May 2012 #2
sorry you were a victim of rape Liberal_in_LA May 2012 #20
I am in my mid 50's Mojorabbit May 2012 #22
Me too. Birth control pills were a lifesaver! nolabear May 2012 #35
I am SO sorry about what happened to you when you were a little girl renate May 2012 #55
Thank you all. It really was just one more item on the list. I had an horrific childhood and the LiberalLoner May 2012 #65
I can't tell you how thrilled I am to read that you "have such a happy life now" renate May 2012 #77
Thank you! I feel as if I've escaped a concentration camp. Sometimes I do still feel guilt that LiberalLoner May 2012 #83
"I also was adamant from a very early age that I did not want to have babies" noiretextatique May 2012 #94
1989: Dad tells me that he doesn't support college just so I can get my MRS degree Starry Messenger May 2012 #3
Oh, I remember than one! Flight attendant was considered one of the best things that patrice May 2012 #14
I was supposed to be a nurse DevonRex May 2012 #26
omg. Starry Messenger May 2012 #28
mine was odd. i knew men were better/superior/higher on the heirarchy/boss seabeyond May 2012 #4
Spanking women - I love Lucy. And Lucy wasn't like an equal partner. She was what's-his-names Liberal_in_LA May 2012 #21
I am older than you The Velveteen Ocelot May 2012 #5
53 ??? jaysunb May 2012 #6
I tried to join a baseball team... cynatnite May 2012 #7
i took mechanical drawing cause girls werent suppose to. in HS, i forget. seabeyond May 2012 #8
i took mechanical drawing too--7th or 8th grade Scout May 2012 #12
i was Az., and Ca. and a little younger. i dont ever recall a rule i had to wear a dress seabeyond May 2012 #15
Ha MadrasT May 2012 #44
"I tried to join a baseball team..." KansDem May 2012 #16
There was talk around school about the 2 girls taking shop. lol Liberal_in_LA May 2012 #23
I took shop in 8th grade..... Darth_Kitten May 2012 #29
We had to take both in junior high. Jennicut May 2012 #52
They refused to allow girls in shop in the south in the early 60s Warpy May 2012 #73
You're exaggerating a bit slackmaster May 2012 #9
Piano and clarinet were acceptable. The Velveteen Ocelot May 2012 #10
My aunt, who recently turned 74, plays the lever harp beautifully slackmaster May 2012 #13
still going strong today. boys play the drums, girls play the harp...some of them. Liberal_in_LA May 2012 #18
I used to know a guy who played the harp... Neoma May 2012 #60
saxaphones were for boys also Liberal_in_LA May 2012 #19
Yeah, it depended on where you lived. My mom grew up in a small town, where everyone had to do Brickbat May 2012 #41
My mom and her sister learned piano. They can still play some 1 piano/4 hands pieces they remember. slackmaster May 2012 #84
no, it was very much dependent on where you lived Skittles May 2012 #27
I had a job like that at about the same time MadrasT May 2012 #45
um...no i am not all "exaggerating" noiretextatique May 2012 #85
I am 73 and was a teenager in the '50s, RebelOne May 2012 #11
I........er.......HORSE? Skittles May 2012 #78
girls had to take typing & home ec. Boys took wood shop / metal shop. I was the last class with Liberal_in_LA May 2012 #17
I'm too young to have experienced any of this XemaSab May 2012 #24
I'm 62 frazzled May 2012 #25
"You need to take typing in case you need a job." davsand May 2012 #30
I lived in IL for a couple of years too and remember those snow pants. nolabear May 2012 #36
For me it was, "learn to type but don't let anyone in your workplace know you know how" Iris May 2012 #39
I grew up in the 70s and 80s LadyHawkAZ May 2012 #31
These responses are all well and good... but CAG May 2012 #32
Ha, ha, ha! roody May 2012 #34
I graduated High School in 1964 HeiressofBickworth May 2012 #33
I got mixed messages. laundry_queen May 2012 #37
Sexual harassment started in elementary school for me as well. redqueen May 2012 #38
i could not play saxophone in elementary school because i was a girl guardian May 2012 #40
not sure why, but my school had that rule noiretextatique May 2012 #90
After I graduated from high school I had a choice...Stay home an be a waitress, salesgirl or secreta Auntie Bush May 2012 #42
Oh, yeah. 57 here, and the saxophone thing: I thought I was the only one! pink-o May 2012 #43
Remember the jobs listed in the classified ads under headings designating Skidmore May 2012 #46
I'm a few years older than you. Like you, I couldn't wear pants to school, but it was the whole 12 raccoon May 2012 #47
In the mid-70s, there was an ad comparing a Volkswagen and a chair. EFerrari May 2012 #48
i remember wanting to be a boy noiretextatique May 2012 #95
I saw a man wash a dish only once when I was growing up. shcrane71 May 2012 #49
Wow. My dad washed dishes all the time. gkhouston May 2012 #62
Even my younger brother (in his 30s) doesn't wash dishes. shcrane71 May 2012 #66
men never did "women's work" in our house noiretextatique May 2012 #89
Another example of how most times, when a kid gets a spanking, it's because of the adult's anger raccoon May 2012 #79
I was always shocked when my Mother told me she had to wear skirts in college. Jennicut May 2012 #50
life before panty hose and after the JFK assassination librechik May 2012 #51
I would just like to share this with you: juice feast May 2012 #53
What a nasty post, whether you write "no offense" sufrommich May 2012 #56
making friends all over, I see librechik May 2012 #58
LOL. While you were being born into second wave feminism EFerrari May 2012 #59
How nice of you to share your thoughtless cluenessness, before being PPR'ed yet again. n/t gkhouston May 2012 #64
purposely try to offend and throw out no offense meant? really? here, pull this finger. nt seabeyond May 2012 #67
When somebody says "no offense" The Velveteen Ocelot May 2012 #76
oh...FUCK...that noiretextatique May 2012 #86
Don't forget the segregated employment classified ads. sufrommich May 2012 #54
i remember those noiretextatique May 2012 #96
Mom vacuuming in high heels and pearls lapislzi May 2012 #57
I played on the state all-star softball team (early 1960s) but wasn't allowed to play baseball. Waiting For Everyman May 2012 #61
Yeah, I remember having to wear dresses to school. gkhouston May 2012 #63
I grew up in a cesspit of emotional, psychological and sexual violence. BlueIris May 2012 #68
seem minor by comparison.... that it does. nt seabeyond May 2012 #69
yeah me too...plus a debilitating chronic illness BlancheSplanchnik May 2012 #70
too damned depressing.... lol, ya. but, seabeyond May 2012 #71
awwww, thanks sea BlancheSplanchnik May 2012 #81
Thanks for sharing it, Blanche. Amaril May 2012 #75
thanks Amaril :) BlancheSplanchnik May 2012 #80
i can relate noiretextatique May 2012 #87
I'm a little older than you. When I was in high school I was approached by the Air Force. Arkansas Granny May 2012 #72
i wanted to go into the Air Force noiretextatique May 2012 #93
I'm 49 Amaril May 2012 #74
i have an aversion to "serving" to this day noiretextatique May 2012 #88
I'm a little younger but remember the 70s well - TBF May 2012 #82
thank god i had a few older cousins noiretextatique May 2012 #91
i played drums in the marching band in high school noiretextatique May 2012 #92
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