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In reply to the discussion: Baby died after mom left in SUV while at work [View all]Fumesucker
(45,851 posts)77. Our conscious mind uses our memory as a tool but it doesn't control it completely.
You cannot accept that it just might happen to you or someone you love or care about, they all have to be "bad parents", different somehow from you and your loved ones.
This is a lot more like lightning than you can allow yourself to believe, it could happen to anyone given the perfect storm of circumstances combined with what would otherwise be as you put it, a minor booboo.
The minor booboo can turn into tragedy for anyone given the right set of circumstances, that's the point of what the research both of actual incidents and cognitive science shows.
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Just so ridiculous. Do people who post shit like that on forums EVER do any kind of
Iris
May 2012
#83
I have twice driven past daycare on my way to work, with two of my boys in the back seat.
Skinner
May 2012
#121
How can you punish them worse than the punishment they will live for the rest of their lives with?
Fumesucker
May 2012
#26
Interesting how the article predicts so accurately some people's reactions..
Fumesucker
May 2012
#41
I can accurately predict how most people will respond to a variety of stories
4th law of robotics
May 2012
#45
As I said in my first post, you have a psychological need to see these parents as different from you
Fumesucker
May 2012
#54
You do not have complete control over your memory unless Susan Calvin really was your designer..
Fumesucker
May 2012
#152
As far as our memory is concerned it is no different than forgetting your wallet..
Fumesucker
May 2012
#40
Our conscious mind uses our memory as a tool but it doesn't control it completely.
Fumesucker
May 2012
#77
The sparing use of emoticons showed the poster was a really serious person.
Fumesucker
May 2012
#158
Thanks for posting that, Fumesucker. I immediately thought of Gene Weingarten's articles.
CBHagman
May 2012
#79
I do. I am a parent. I can imagine this happening. It never happened to me, but it could happen.
yardwork
May 2012
#100
i get it. i had the baby almost exclusively. it was as natural as anything for me
seabeyond
May 2012
#181
" I can't explain how I could have forgotten my baby girl" i think probably if honest
seabeyond
May 2012
#182
BRING CAR SEATS BACK TO THE FRONT SEAT! This never happened till they are forced to be in
Lionessa
May 2012
#5
it is still possible to compare deaths via each mode and select the optimum route.
JVS
May 2012
#113
How about putting the diaper bag or something the child needs in the front seat?
proud2BlibKansan
May 2012
#9
Excellent counter idea. That would work. Let's spread it around, clearly it's needed since
Lionessa
May 2012
#25
Another possibility for new cars - have an alarm go off if too much weight in the child seat spot
MH1
May 2012
#67
I took off one shoe. It reminded me when I put it on that I needed to remember something.
Luminous Animal
May 2012
#87
That's unusual. Most cars don't, and the LATCH anchors are generally only in back.
LeftyMom
May 2012
#57
My point is to re-design rather than continue with BS reasons to keep them in the back, fix it.
Lionessa
May 2012
#59
The back seat is still safer because it's the farthest point from the point of impact.
LeftyMom
May 2012
#63
It isn't safer when it makes the driver less safe in his/her actions trying to tend
Lionessa
May 2012
#101
My Prius automatically disables the front airbag if a certain weight range is in the front seat.
MH1
May 2012
#69
I've read articles where they recommend leaving your cellphone in the car seat
4th law of robotics
May 2012
#46
As a society I think we need to warn more people away from parenting instead of idealizing it.
LeftyMom
May 2012
#43
Clearly only the superhuman are capable of not killing their kids through neglect
4th law of robotics
May 2012
#89
You keep making the comparison to things like brakes going out or lightning
4th law of robotics
May 2012
#184
You know, clearly it is b/c no one can predict what every day of the next 18-20 years will be like
Iris
May 2012
#112
How do you know if you can cope with the stresses before you have a child?
uppityperson
May 2012
#154
Summer season. I was actually hoping this year we'd get by without any of these terrible stories
riderinthestorm
May 2012
#61
I know. Gawd, I know. If my 14 yr old hadn't shouted loud enough, that would've been me.
riderinthestorm
May 2012
#74
Read this Pulitzer prize winning article if you want to understand how it could happen.
undeterred
May 2012
#64
Similar to the time before sensors when people backed over their children in driveways
Iris
May 2012
#82
There had ben talk of weight sensor alarms in car seats to prevent this.
FedUpWithIt All
May 2012
#99
Public awareness and education are the keys to preventing this kind of tragedy
DesertRat
May 2012
#105
Here's someone it *almost* happened to, his child was saved by a quirk of fate..
Fumesucker
May 2012
#116
This article really opened my eyes. Several have linked it in this thread:
proud2BlibKansan
May 2012
#132
Maybe this thread can help remind people to take that extra second to glance at the back seat...
cynatnite
May 2012
#147
I left my kid in the car. And I DEFY any poster on this board who would DARE blame me.
msanthrope
May 2012
#131
But do you understand how easily I could have been walking into work, or into something else
msanthrope
May 2012
#168
9 years ago. I still get a tremor thinking about it. The people who don't 'get' this
msanthrope
May 2012
#167
Someone needs to invent a motion detector/alarm inside automobiles, after being turned off.
tawadi
May 2012
#136
Often it seems they skip going to child care and leave the kid in the back when they park at work..
Fumesucker
May 2012
#164