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Sarah Ibarruri

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23. I agree with you Mineral Man. People want to look nice to the opposite sex. The problem is...
Thu Dec 22, 2011, 01:58 PM
Dec 2011

Everyone wants to look nice when trying to impress. Men and women, both.

However, when men and women dress up, women are generally depicted under-dressed, whereas men are depicted nicely dressed, but covered up. And as they grow up surrounded by these messages, when children grow up, males will continue to be covered up, while women will continue to expose their nude bodies.

The thing is this: women will have breasts whether they're exposed or covered, and women with a good shape will have a good shape whether they're wearing a dress that covers it or exposes it. Women can be VERY sexy and attractive without being half-nude.

The media, Hollywood, advertisements, magazines, books, etc., generally depict women under-dressed and exposed. There's absolutely no need to wear a hijab to look nice, but there's also no need to have the underwear peeking out from under a skirt that doesn't really even cover it.

There's also the fact that there's a rejection of women that don't fit the Hollywood stereotype of 'Hollywood female beauty.' I was discussing this with someone the other day. The Barbara Walters of the world are no longer acceptable even in the evening news. Now it must be women with the look of Hollywood star wannabes, and/or women who have undergone 'the knife.' Some female anchors even have cleavage. I used to watch the news from France (France 24???). Anyway, the anchors there look like ordinary women, some are in their 50s, and don't expose parts of their bodies.

Of course, since we're surrounded by all this here, it's hard to notice it. We've all grown accustomed to surgically-altered, exposed women, and have come to think of it as the norm. The problem is that little girls are growing up with this surrounding them. It's a very bad aspect of unbridled capitalism, that unless we make a point of noticing, will sit in our brains as the norm.

dehumanizes. my half mexican niece, had a choice of 8 girls. 7 darker hair, darker eyes. ONE seabeyond Dec 2011 #1
Pretty awful. It's horrible that kids are exposed to these messages from the media and society. nt Sarah Ibarruri Dec 2011 #2
See if you can follow this JustAnotherGen Dec 2011 #4
when did we give up the power of our sexuality and self-image to Hugh Hefner seabeyond Dec 2011 #7
I think they pretty much took it, don't you think? whathehell Dec 2011 #14
if the guys are yelling boobies, boobies, strip for me and the girl says seabeyond Dec 2011 #25
Well, that's the way I used to respond to guys when I was young whathehell Dec 2011 #33
you have to look at their environment today. they have been raised being pornified. seabeyond Dec 2011 #35
Yes, you certainly have a point there....EVERYTHING was different then whathehell Dec 2011 #36
a couple things. VS use to be about the woman and empowering her sexuality. it was all about her. seabeyond Dec 2011 #37
Good point JustAnotherGen Dec 2011 #43
Thanks for sharing this article, Sarah. The articles nails it. left coaster Dec 2011 #3
Quite true. Unfortunately, unless it gets pointed out to us we often don't notice it. Sarah Ibarruri Dec 2011 #5
One Reason Women RobinA Dec 2011 #10
Very true. And we buy it because the media does have an influence upon our thinking Sarah Ibarruri Dec 2011 #18
That's interesting. Sometimes, it's hard to define the difference between MineralMan Dec 2011 #12
I agree with you Mineral Man. People want to look nice to the opposite sex. The problem is... Sarah Ibarruri Dec 2011 #23
You're right. The evening news, especially on MineralMan Dec 2011 #28
So true, Mineral Man, it's so out of place. nt Sarah Ibarruri Dec 2011 #32
everyone of my conversations conclude, though an issue for women, it is mans, too. human issue seabeyond Dec 2011 #30
Just like that stupid Piperline Ad obamanut2012 Dec 2011 #6
Thanks! Which Piperline ad? I don't think I saw it. nt Sarah Ibarruri Dec 2011 #8
This thread obamanut2012 Dec 2011 #9
Interesting. And women are supposed to take that lightly and not get upset by it. Sarah Ibarruri Dec 2011 #11
I think women should take that seriously, and communicate their frustration with that ad MineralMan Dec 2011 #13
Thank you, Mineral Man. It's good to see when someone gets it. We're so inundated by Sarah Ibarruri Dec 2011 #16
I'm not a father, so I can't speak to my own reaction, but MineralMan Dec 2011 #19
Yup obamanut2012 Dec 2011 #15
Yeah! We need to be happy and smile through it all! nt Sarah Ibarruri Dec 2011 #17
I didn't say that we needed to lighten up. MineralMan Dec 2011 #20
I never said you did, nor even mentioned you obamanut2012 Dec 2011 #21
Sorry. I thought you were referring to one of my posts MineralMan Dec 2011 #26
Okay obamanut2012 Dec 2011 #27
Love this piece... redqueen Dec 2011 #22
You're welcome, Redqueen! nt Sarah Ibarruri Dec 2011 #24
women smear their faces with colored mud...errr...makeup. Why? cost $$ billions a year nt msongs Dec 2011 #29
It's very expensive! The beauty industry makes a mint off women. nt Sarah Ibarruri Dec 2011 #31
i am bummed. this was a very good OP. can you edit and put it back in? seabeyond Dec 2011 #34
I would love to read this OP. While I'm sure I'd agree with the case being made, retread Dec 2011 #38
I'm not sure what you mean, but I'll be glad to do it, if you explain lol Sarah Ibarruri Dec 2011 #39
NEVER MIND! I SAW IT! I'll edit. nt Sarah Ibarruri Dec 2011 #40
I edited it and put it back, then I recommended it. nt Sarah Ibarruri Dec 2011 #41
k&r Starry Messenger Dec 2011 #42
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