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In the discussion thread: update on my husband. [View all]

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Fri Apr 13, 2012, 09:16 AM

lunatica (28,852 posts)

163. Dearest DesertFlower

This is very sad news, but I can tell you that the palliative care he'll be getting is the best in the world. Hospice is run by saints who I swear get to go to Heaven in the fast lane, and they don't have to stop or pay tolls to get in. My mother died at home with home hospice care. And they assign a social worker to the family. To the entire family. The social worker is there for you too.

Hospice will not let him suffer through the pain and they create a quiet environment. There is none of the clash and clatter that you normally hear in the hospitals. And the entire family, including little ones can visit any time and for as long as they want to.

((((((((( DesertFlower ))))))))))

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227 replies	Author	Time	Post
update on my husband. [View all]	DesertFlower	Apr 2012	OP
So sorry to hear of your troubles.	hedgehog	Apr 2012	#1
thank you. i'm not handling	DesertFlower	Apr 2012	#2
oh, honey,	elehhhhna	Apr 2012	#47
that's how we ALL go through it...	BlancheSplanchnik	Apr 2012	#182
Treasure this time together. It's a special intimacy to be present with someone	SharonAnn	Apr 2012	#191
i get in his bed with him we	DesertFlower	Apr 2012	#221
Desert Flower, my heart goes out to you.	Mimosa	Apr 2012	#225
That's perfectly okay. I'd probably be too.	AverageJoe90	Apr 2012	#227
I cannot imagine what you're going through...	one_voice	Apr 2012	#3
Praying for you and your husband.	Terra Alta	Apr 2012	#4
My heart and my prayers are with you	Spacemom	Apr 2012	#5
man, that's rough.......	dhill926	Apr 2012	#6
I am so sorry, DessertFlower!	sabrina 1	Apr 2012	#7
I'm really sorry to hear about your husband.	no_hypocrisy	Apr 2012	#8
So so sorry	XanaDUer	Apr 2012	#9
I am so sorry, DesertFlower.	femmocrat	Apr 2012	#10
Oh my dear DesertFlower...	CaliforniaPeggy	Apr 2012	#11
Thoughts and prayers, DR.	Mnemosyne	Apr 2012	#12
(Good Vibes)	ellisonz	Apr 2012	#13
I'm so sorry, DesertFlower.	PA Democrat	Apr 2012	#14
....	spanone	Apr 2012	#15
Oh DesertFlower	blaze	Apr 2012	#16
I'm so sorry - my prayers	jsmirman	Apr 2012	#17
I am so sorry to hear this.I'm sending comforting wishes to your family. My husband's aunt had	Justice wanted	Apr 2012	#18
DesertFlower, I am so terribly saddened to hear this. I can only imagine	GreenPartyVoter	Apr 2012	#19
i'm so sorry	JI7	Apr 2012	#20
I am so sorry. Hospice workers are angels -- they will help	gateley	Apr 2012	#21
Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers...	snacker	Apr 2012	#22
I am so sorry...	derby378	Apr 2012	#23
ah, baby... love to you. nt	seabeyond	Apr 2012	#24
Oh, dear. He is lucky to have you during this time.	Honeycombe8	Apr 2012	#25
HoneyCombe8....	Ecumenist	Apr 2012	#123
Good thoughts for you and your husband.	geckosfeet	Apr 2012	#26
I'm so very sorry	TorchTheWitch	Apr 2012	#27
My heart goes out to you ((DF)). I am so	arthritisR_US	Apr 2012	#28
I dont know you but your message touched me.	DCBob	Apr 2012	#29
Our deepest hope for a recovery from the Libs.	rurallib	Apr 2012	#30
Thoughts and prayers	KT2000	Apr 2012	#31
Oh dear	malaise	Apr 2012	#32
Words are so pathetically inadequate...	Fumesucker	Apr 2012	#33
+1....I have no words that can describe what you must be feeling.	yourout	Apr 2012	#71
OMG! DesertFlower, I am so sorry.	snappyturtle	Apr 2012	#34
so sorry to hear this DesertFlower	maddezmom	Apr 2012	#35
Extra prayers for you and your husband, DesertFlower.	badhair77	Apr 2012	#36
Bless you	mbuch64	Apr 2012	#37
I am so sorry, DessertFlower.	dmr	Apr 2012	#38
I'm so sorry DesertFlower.	Cleita	Apr 2012	#39
That's certainly true. When my mom died - there were hundreds of messages from DUers.	calimary	Apr 2012	#141
.	Coyote_Bandit	Apr 2012	#40
I'm so sorry.	Yo_Mama	Apr 2012	#41
Oh I'm so sorry to hear this.	proud2BlibKansan	Apr 2012	#42
You got it.	Ruby the Liberal	Apr 2012	#43
So sorry. I am sending good vibes to your husband,	RebelOne	Apr 2012	#44
I'm so sorry DesertFlower	cal04	Apr 2012	#45
Praying for both of you.	gkhouston	Apr 2012	#46
Losing one we love is so difficult. He is fortunate to have you to guide him through this.	michaz	Apr 2012	#48
Hugs	nadinbrzezinski	Apr 2012	#49
Oh no!	Mojorabbit	Apr 2012	#50
My heart is breaking for you and your family	goclark	Apr 2012	#51
The DU will keep you in our thoughts and prayers	Omaha Steve	Apr 2012	#52
Sending you thoughts and prayers to cope.	EmeraldCityGrl	Apr 2012	#53
I am so sorry, Desert Flower	Irishonly	Apr 2012	#54
Kind thoughts, prayers and good wishes...	Permanut	Apr 2012	#55
I'm so very sorry to read about this hardest time for you both.	Mira	Apr 2012	#56
OMG, I'm so sorry!	Odin2005	Apr 2012	#57
"...i'm asking for thoughts and prayers."	unkachuck	Apr 2012	#58
I'm so sorry	Liberal_in_LA	Apr 2012	#59
I'm very sorry. I lost my only brother to a brain tumor just six weeks ago.	stevedeshazer	Apr 2012	#60
I am sad to hear about your brother.	classof56	Apr 2012	#167
I'm so so sorry.	MoonRiver	Apr 2012	#61
I'm sorry isn't much help;	PDJane	Apr 2012	#62
Sending up a prayer on your behalf	nolaboy	Apr 2012	#63
My prayers are with you	abq e streeter	Apr 2012	#64
.	Cerridwen	Apr 2012	#65
Best wishes and thoughts during this most difficult time. nt	Old and In the Way	Apr 2012	#66
(((((DesertFlower)))))	beac	Apr 2012	#67
Best wishes for you and your husband.	FSogol	Apr 2012	#68
Oh my dear. I'm sorry.	nolabear	Apr 2012	#69
...	YvonneCa	Apr 2012	#70
I don't know what to say, but I care	DisgustipatedinCA	Apr 2012	#72
do you have a hospice nurse seeing you?	w8liftinglady	Apr 2012	#73
So very sorry, wishing you both strength in the weeks ahead. n/t	slipslidingaway	Apr 2012	#74
My heart goes out to you. Prayers	emilyg	Apr 2012	#75
My thoughts and warm wishes	frogmarch	Apr 2012	#76
I'm sorry.	OnyxCollie	Apr 2012	#77
I am so sorry	Lifelong Protester	Apr 2012	#78
I am so sorry. My thoughts are with you and your family.	CottonBear	Apr 2012	#79
Use hospice to keep yourself as strong as you can.	jtuck004	Apr 2012	#80
Love and prayers to you both...	1620rock	Apr 2012	#81
I am so sorry for your pain and your husband's pain.	riverbendviewgal	Apr 2012	#82
I'm so sorry, DesertFlower	polly7	Apr 2012	#83
My heart is with you, your husband and loved ones.	myrna minx	Apr 2012	#84
no words	Demonaut	Apr 2012	#85
Don't know what to say	Spirochete	Apr 2012	#86
Don't know you, but you have ours. n/t	Egalitarian Thug	Apr 2012	#87
So sorry to read this.	LoTechGuru	Apr 2012	#88
Terribly sorry to read about this, DesertFlower.	BlueIris	Apr 2012	#89
So sorry to hear your difficult news. Hospice is a service no one	FailureToCommunicate	Apr 2012	#90
I'm terribly sorry.	Beacool	Apr 2012	#91
I am so very sorry. My thoughts and prayres are with you and your husband.	snagglepuss	Apr 2012	#92
My heart is with you	MannyGoldstein	Apr 2012	#93
DF, am so sorry to hear of your husband's illness. My thoughts	akbacchus_BC	Apr 2012	#94
My thought are with you and your family now.	closeupready	Apr 2012	#95
thinking of you	roody	Apr 2012	#96
Oh dear dear Desertflower......there are no words for this	glinda	Apr 2012	#97
my thoughts are with youand hoping for the strength you need to get you and your family	azurnoir	Apr 2012	#98
Praying for you and your husband	rustydog	Apr 2012	#99
Very sorry to hear this...	virgdem	Apr 2012	#100
continue talking to him he may still at least hear your voice even if not	lunasun	Apr 2012	#101
Terrible--I am sorry. Prayers for you and him.	TwilightGardener	Apr 2012	#102
(((hug)))	WilliamPitt	Apr 2012	#103
no words just...	Historic NY	Apr 2012	#104
Words fail. I'm so sorry what you both face.	donheld	Apr 2012	#105
That sucks	zappaman	Apr 2012	#106
Dear DesertFlower	Iwillnevergiveup	Apr 2012	#107
Words fail me.	susanna	Apr 2012	#108
I'm so sorry... you are both in my prayers	renate	Apr 2012	#109
I'm so sorry...	ProgressoDem	Apr 2012	#110
I'm so sorry.	EFerrari	Apr 2012	#111
..............	Angry Dragon	Apr 2012	#112
I'm so sorry for your sad situation.	FLyellowdog	Apr 2012	#113
good vibes to you in your time of need	steve2470	Apr 2012	#114
Sending you hugs DesertFlower.	midnight	Apr 2012	#115
No words.. I send vibes of love.	The Wielding Truth	Apr 2012	#116
Oh! Desert flower!	longship	Apr 2012	#117
it ts sad but your not alone.	rpkgolf	Apr 2012	#118
Oh no, DesertFlower! I'm so sorry.	loudsue	Apr 2012	#119
Dear God, I'm so sorry Desert flower... I will pray for you indeed and keep you in my thought as	Ecumenist	Apr 2012	#120
Time hurts and time heals.	Festivito	Apr 2012	#121
have you checked into proton therapy at Loma Linda Hospital?	Liberty Belle	Apr 2012	#122
Truly nice wishes written by lots of people here. We are all at one.	schmice	Apr 2012	#124
With you in thoughts....	Tikki	Apr 2012	#125
hugs to you and wishing for the best for your husband	RainDog	Apr 2012	#126
i'm so sorry DesertFlower	barbtries	Apr 2012	#127
You and your husband have my prayers.	emsimon33	Apr 2012	#128
I wish there was something I could do to help.	AverageJoe90	Apr 2012	#129
((hugs))	NuttyFluffers	Apr 2012	#130
So sorry, DesertFlower.	Granny M	Apr 2012	#131
Sending clear light	eridani	Apr 2012	#132
I am so sorry. You and your husband are in my prayers.	IndyJones	Apr 2012	#133
I recently went through this with a family friend as close as a relative.	MADem	Apr 2012	#134
Sending you love and positive thoughts, DesertFower... ...	Surya Gayatri	Apr 2012	#135
Oh my, DesertFlower. I'm so sorry.	pacalo	Apr 2012	#136
I'm so sorry.	area51	Apr 2012	#137
I am so sorry.	Jim__	Apr 2012	#138
Aw shit. I'm sorry to hear this, DesertFlower. We just hit Year 36.	calimary	Apr 2012	#139
Please look up William Colley or the "Coley Toxins"	uponit7771	Apr 2012	#140
Thank you for keeping us updated and our thoughts and good vibes are with you	NNN0LHI	Apr 2012	#142
Sending you good thoughts	Borchkins	Apr 2012	#143
So very sorry for You & Your Hubby!!! I hope He is kept as comfortable as possible!! n/t	hue	Apr 2012	#144
I'm so sorry and will send you peaceful thoughts.	a la izquierda	Apr 2012	#145
So sorry, DesertFlower	Love Bug	Apr 2012	#146
I'm so sorry for your pain...	Phentex	Apr 2012	#147
My prayers are with you. nt	live love laugh	Apr 2012	#148
I so very sorry	Becka2515	Apr 2012	#149
No words from me can ease your pain, or his.	phylny	Apr 2012	#150
Keeping you & your husband in my thoughts.	peacefreak	Apr 2012	#151
I am so sorry for what you are going through.	cate94	Apr 2012	#152
OMGosh DesertFlower	a kennedy	Apr 2012	#153
We're so saddened to hear this, you and he have all our thoughts!	RKP5637	Apr 2012	#154
Thoughts and prayers are with you both...	OneGrassRoot	Apr 2012	#155
So very sorry to hear this news.	NEOhiodemocrat	Apr 2012	#156
Desert Flower, I am so sorry.	gademocrat7	Apr 2012	#157
I'm so sorry DesertFlower	Uben	Apr 2012	#158
Hoping that all the good thoughts and prayers sent your	Fla Dem	Apr 2012	#159
Hugs and encouragement.	JNelson6563	Apr 2012	#160
A good friend of mine is going through the exact same thing. Her husband is in a hospital bed	CTyankee	Apr 2012	#161
blessings of peace to you both	LiberalEsto	Apr 2012	#162
Dearest DesertFlower	lunatica	Apr 2012	#163
God bless you, DesertFlower.	colorado_ufo	Apr 2012	#164
DesertFlower you have my thoughts and prayers....	Little Star	Apr 2012	#165
My heart & thoughts go out to you & your beloved.	CrispyQ	Apr 2012	#166
...	SammyWinstonJack	Apr 2012	#168
Hugs, blessings and all good wishes.	classof56	Apr 2012	#169
I am so terribly sorry.	wendylaroux	Apr 2012	#170
hugs	auntAgonist	Apr 2012	#171
Praying for you and your husband.....	BlueDemKev	Apr 2012	#172
My heart is breaking for you, Desert Flower	PlanetBev	Apr 2012	#173
I'm so very sorry. I can't imagine a worse tragedy.	sinkingfeeling	Apr 2012	#174
So sorry to hear this. I wish you both peace.	AtomicKitten	Apr 2012	#175
I am so saddened to hear this	Sheepshank	Apr 2012	#176
May he go in peace...	Evasporque	Apr 2012	#177
You have my thoughts and prayers, DesertFlower.	babylonsister	Apr 2012	#178
I am so sorry, best wishes to you and peace to all.	uppityperson	Apr 2012	#179
more prayers, hugs and love headed your way	magical thyme	Apr 2012	#180
Hugs and peace to you both. nt	mentalsolstice	Apr 2012	#181
may peace be upon your heart	irisblue	Apr 2012	#183
I'm sorry to hear this	OhioChick	Apr 2012	#184
Keeping you in my thoughts and sending you & hubby lots of hugs for strength.	jillan	Apr 2012	#185
I am so very sorry this had to happen to you and your family.	dixiegrrrrl	Apr 2012	#186
Positive vibrations for you, your husband & family	RT Atlanta	Apr 2012	#187
It won't be easy	DFW	Apr 2012	#188
So very sorry. We are all with you.	LoisB	Apr 2012	#189
So sorry to hear this...	joeybee12	Apr 2012	#190
Very sorry about your husband	Catherine Vincent	Apr 2012	#192
You have my thoughts.	ZombieHorde	Apr 2012	#193
Sending thoughts of strength...	countryjake	Apr 2012	#194
I'm so sorry, DesertFlower. My husband is critically ill also & prognosis not good	catbyte	Apr 2012	#195
So sorry. Love can be shown in many ways even when he no longer remembers. A gentle touch	jwirr	Apr 2012	#196
After two years without my husband of 47 years, I can tell you a little of my experience.	juajen	Apr 2012	#197
I meant to include my thanks for the wonderful	juajen	Apr 2012	#198
I am so sorry.	yardwork	Apr 2012	#199
How terrible for you both	lillypaddle	Apr 2012	#200
I wish there was something	Zorra	Apr 2012	#201
Best wishes to you and your family	Aerows	Apr 2012	#202
I'm so sorry. What a horrible thing to have happen.	Vinca	Apr 2012	#203
so sorry to hear this	Vehl	Apr 2012	#204
You are not alone.	rudyb	Apr 2012	#205
I'm sorry, DesertFlower.	Blue_In_AK	Apr 2012	#206
Sorry to hear this. You and your husband are in my thoughts and prayers, DesertFlower.	Chorophyll	Apr 2012	#207
You take care (DF)	Greybnk48	Apr 2012	#208
Dearest DesertFlower, may you be surrounded with love and compassion during	japple	Apr 2012	#209
I can't begin to know the depths of your pain	HeiressofBickworth	Apr 2012	#210
Dearest	barb162	Apr 2012	#211
I send prayers of comfort and strength to you both. I am so sorry.	Dont call me Shirley	Apr 2012	#212
Sending strong thoughts and positive vibes	csziggy	Apr 2012	#213
((((positive thoughts))))	handmade34	Apr 2012	#214
I am so very sorry, DesertFlower	MissDeeds	Apr 2012	#215
I'm so sorry	Sienna86	Apr 2012	#216
I am so sorry	april	Apr 2012	#217
(((((((DesertFlower)))))))	WillyT	Apr 2012	#218
Thoughts and prayers.	Arctic Dave	Apr 2012	#219
Good Lord be with you!	LongTomH	Apr 2012	#220
DesertFlower *hugs*	Whoa_Nelly	Apr 2012	#222
I'm so very sorry.	FloridaJudy	Apr 2012	#223
I'm so sorry DesertFlower,	SunsetDreams	Apr 2012	#224
Damn. I'm so sorry.	GoCubsGo	Apr 2012	#226

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