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Showing Original Post only (View all)Men Who Make Virginity Pledges Struggle with Sex Once Married [View all]
http://www.livescience.com/47431-virginity-pledging-men-sexually-confused.html?1408449233
SAN FRANCISCO Men who make virginity pledges get strong social support to abstain from sex before the wedding night, but that backing disappears soon after they tie the knot, new research suggests.
These men are also taught to think of sex outside of marriage as animalistic and foul, but sacred within a marriage, according to a new study presented Aug. 17, here at the 109th American Sociological Association meeting.
As a result, male virginity pledgers can be somewhat confused and lost when it comes to sex after marriage, said study researcher Sarah Diefendorf, a sociology doctoral candidate at the University of Washington in Seattle. [The 10 Most Surprising Sex Statistics]
"They spend the first 20-something years of their lives being told that sex is wrong," Diefendorf told Live Science. "They're expected to make this transition from the beastly to the sacred, but they don't really have the tools to be able to do that effectively."
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It's dirty! It's beautiful! You need to avoid it! You need it to affirm your status!
ck4829
Aug 2014
#1
It only takes one time, if "the boys can swim" and the "lady-parts" are fertile!
bullwinkle428
Aug 2014
#11
Pregnant or not ... I would think the main thing is = are they happy?
Tuesday Afternoon
Aug 2014
#18
Everybody was a virgin once. I would think a couple would enjoy learning each other and
Tuesday Afternoon
Aug 2014
#16
All that is germaine to this topic and should be explored and discussed by those who find it
Tuesday Afternoon
Aug 2014
#22
Are you implying that all the the people who were/are not subject to the control, and
Zorra
Aug 2014
#23
It appears to be a peer reviewed study. I'll see if I can find out more. nt
stevenleser
Aug 2014
#33
Not in a peer reviewed study. Peer review is when other scientists in the field review it and try to
stevenleser
Aug 2014
#71
Being taught it is wrong outside of marriage is a recipe for crappy or hasty marriages IMHO.
Warren DeMontague
Aug 2014
#74
No wonder the women don't like sex, either, after all the brainwashing.
Manifestor_of_Light
Aug 2014
#68
Overwhelmingly, yes. Every single time? No. But "I call BS" is not an adequate refutation. nt
stevenleser
Aug 2014
#81
Yeah, and people widely didn't abstain before marriage before the "sexual revolution", too.
Warren DeMontague
Aug 2014
#73
Sex is dirty and disgusting and you should share it only with the person you love.
Brickbat
Aug 2014
#29
Ahem... at least christian extremists don't cut off all external female genitalia
Quantess
Aug 2014
#59
"Virginity pledges" make even less sense in a society where people marry later!
LongTomH
Aug 2014
#47
"Sex is shameful, gross, and disgusting, meant only for the most special person in your life!"
arcane1
Aug 2014
#52
Our whole society told us sex was dirty and nasty in the 1960s and 70s.
Manifestor_of_Light
Aug 2014
#66