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In reply to the discussion: This message was self-deleted by its author [View all]SheilaT
(23,156 posts)of the evening that sex was off the table.
You did exercise rather poor judgement in getting so intoxicated that you wound up spending the night. However, that absolutely does not give him permission to do what he did. His justification that you looked uncomfortable is total bs -- he's trying to make himself look like he's concerned about you and then, despite your original statement, and your obvious intoxication, he totally took advantage of you.
There really isn't a clear line about when someone is too drunk to give consent, and that's often a problem in trying to bring charges in situations like this. But, when someone has clearly stated ahead of time, as you did, No Sex, and then is clearly passed out and not coherent, what he did probably does cross the line to rape.
I agree with the others who say you should do your best to have no contact with him in the future.