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In reply to the discussion: my friend said, "it is never, ever okay for white people to say (n-word)." [View all]wendylaroux
(2,925 posts)74. No it is not ok
to use any word that is used to denigrate any group of people. -----ANY GROUP OF PEOPLE.-----
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my friend said, "it is never, ever okay for white people to say (n-word)." [View all]
nofurylike
Apr 2012
OP
I don't like anyone using that word. Some words need to die. That one needs to die.
roguevalley
Apr 2012
#29
No, but just like my Black friends I've been using words since I was a toddler.
Schema Thing
Apr 2012
#50
that's a cheeky thing to say to someone like me. I'm a BLACK WOMAN MARRIED to a SOUTHERN
Ecumenist
Apr 2012
#62
yeah, I still don't get where you took something I didn't say from something I did say.
Schema Thing
Apr 2012
#89
Sorry Schema, but just because you feel entitled to use hate speech DOES NOT MAKE YOU BLACK or just
Ecumenist
Apr 2012
#94
Lecturing people? I'm not the only one who are READING YOUR WORDS AND GETTING THE SAME
Ecumenist
Apr 2012
#125
i inferred the same from "I've been using words since i was a toddler." since most have,
nofurylike
Apr 2012
#107
White here with a sister married to a black man. It bothers me also so you can imagine how it feels
jwirr
Apr 2012
#165
Some moron came up with the fundamentally flawed idea that using it everyday would reduce it's
Ecumenist
Apr 2012
#181
Well, the chance of becoming queen of anything other than a turnip or pumpkin festival
Ecumenist
Apr 2012
#183
Understood completely and realiser you're naive to think that you could become queen of anything
Ecumenist
Apr 2012
#209
It's not your fault that you're profoundly ignorant of the historical context this word came from,
sudopod
Apr 2012
#43
I just wanted to say "Thank You" for saying what I've been feeling for so long now.
EnviroBat
Apr 2012
#166
Amen, NoFuryLIke!.. Iam a black woman MARRIED to a white man and HE HAS NEVER USED THAT WORD
Ecumenist
Apr 2012
#2
I taught my kid the reason the word is wrong, beyond being crude and disrespectful, is that where
freshwest
Apr 2012
#28
Amen, FreshWest. It seems that the Trayvon Martin case is bringing out of the woodwork
Ecumenist
Apr 2012
#70
a crucially important aspect, "an 'action' word," thank you so much, freshwest!! and
nofurylike
Apr 2012
#97
I think, Hughee99, that you need to tell your sweet little girl what the word is, why she shouldn't
Ecumenist
Apr 2012
#13
that is insightful!!! yes! "being retroactively wrong ... they feel the need to defend"!!
nofurylike
Apr 2012
#98
great!! i reply tonight, but briefly: "when you say it quoting someone else ... " y'know? nt
nofurylike
Apr 2012
#198
having a *legal right* to say it is not a question raised by my post (though good question).
nofurylike
Apr 2012
#37
I agree NFL. I get embarrassed when I hear OTHER people say it. It's 100% wrong.
FarLeftFist
Apr 2012
#16
When we were kids and would pile up on each other playing, we'd call it "n***** pile."
Archae
Apr 2012
#18
And we called it a pig pile. I never heard the n-word until we were much older. I saw the first
jwirr
Apr 2012
#167
us too. one of the deepest, most intensely shame-filled lessons i ever learned was
nofurylike
Apr 2012
#103
So, because we're democrats/progressives, we should just go around caling browns and blacks "n*****s
Ecumenist
Apr 2012
#45
LaydeeBud, Frankly, I don't think that ANYONE should use this language because it's only
Ecumenist
Apr 2012
#127
That's Laydeebug, thankyouverymuch, and I agree with you, which is why that racist "friend" should
LaydeeBug
Apr 2012
#154
Don't twist what I was saying because you know damn well what my point was. Your attempt
Ecumenist
Apr 2012
#66
I'm not saying that nobody use them but there is a history behind certain words that prevent them
Ecumenist
Apr 2012
#81
There is a difference between making certain words part of a benign language...
derby378
Apr 2012
#158
To me PC is a rw term - in our family we do not use derogatory words to describe other races
jwirr
Apr 2012
#170
i sit in awe at the challenge for people to actually not be purposely offensive to others.
seabeyond
Apr 2012
#21
great discussion, and thank you so for recs!! must run, back later to reply more nt
nofurylike
Apr 2012
#42
first, i am not advocating censorship. that should not be necessary with principled
nofurylike
Apr 2012
#204
Tell your friend that it is no ok to refer to caucasian European Americans as "whire".
vr94rx7
Apr 2012
#57
I'm white. I would never use the N word. But I don't like the 'tude of your friend.
Honeycombe8
Apr 2012
#64
As a minority, I call BULLSHIT, and the fact that "your friend" says WHITE PEOPLE can't say it...
LaydeeBug
Apr 2012
#65
You know LayDeeBug, I have never understood people who claimed that blacks can't be racist.
Ecumenist
Apr 2012
#129
and it seems the OP's "friend" is an example of someone who wants to BE racist
LaydeeBug
Apr 2012
#146
Ain't it the truth! Just because SOME black folks use self-denigrating language DOES NOT
Ecumenist
Apr 2012
#133
I had two other people read this post and they both started laughing and saying that
Ecumenist
Apr 2012
#142
In my opinion white people should never use that word to refer to black people.
Vattel
Apr 2012
#112
NadinBrzezinski, I have no earthly idea why that student was offended by your research
Ecumenist
Apr 2012
#139
growing up in segregated Texas in the 50s I never remember hearing my white parents say it.
CTyankee
Apr 2012
#150
In many ways, I agree with you. I'm talking about people who are only mildly hiding
CTyankee
Apr 2012
#180
No. She revealed, through dialog, what the problem was. Everybody reading her book knew
CTyankee
Apr 2012
#194
I do hope that you and your friend would make allowances for artistic expression
slackmaster
Apr 2012
#164
I can call my brother a dumb bastard and get away with it. He's my brother.
Ikonoklast
Apr 2012
#174
great comments! thank you!! i apologize i couldn't reply yesterday, or till tonight. nt
nofurylike
Apr 2012
#197
i can understand that, absolutely! and an evening with Dick Gregory?! i would too!!
nofurylike
Apr 2012
#222
I figured it would be provocative enough that it would attract some unsuspecting folks
grantcart
Apr 2012
#229
i'm sorry my thread has outgrown my dial-up. i can reply to one or two posts
nofurylike
Apr 2012
#226
I don't know about "never, ever". Imagine a situation when terrorists set up a powerful bomb
Fool Count
Apr 2012
#227