my friend said, "it is never, ever okay for white people to say (n-word)." [View all]

she continued, "and the worst part of it, is that when you say it quoting someone else, you all always say it with such relish! it's as if you finally get the chance to say it where you can act as if it is not YOU saying it, so you really get off on saying it!"

the other day there was a thread on which that word was written, i think i counted, twenty times. i first thought i ought to write and post this then, but i didn't get a chance to then. the next day, there was another thread with it. today, there is another. maybe others i have not read.

the one loaded with it being left to stand gave permission for the second, and that, the next.

i knew i should post about the first one. the first utterance opened the floodgates for the next nineteen in that thread. so, of course, those would open it for the next and next.

"o! wheeee! i get to say IT!!!! and blame someone else!!!!"

that word (i will stick to saying this about whites saying it) is NEVER, EVER ANYTHING BUT A VULGAR, VILE, HURTFUL ATTACK ON ALL BLACKS.

how do you know it is never appropriate?

because black people have told you it is never appropriate.

so, how do you know when it is appropriate to use, or not?

it never is.

people go, "b-b-b-ut-but-but ... THEEEEEEEEEEY USE IT!!!!" why is is okay for THEEEEEEMMMMM to use it, but i get shit when i do?!!!!!"

well, let me try to put it in a way that white feminists might grasp why john lennon was being a racist prick when he put it in the title of a song that would further divide white feminists from women of color:

i am a d-ke who loves my c--t, but i would do anything in my power to stop anyone from ever, EVER calling YOU or anyone else either word in their vulgar senses; or from ever, EVER using either in those vulgar senses for ANY reason. in fact, if any man quotes me, i expect you to use "c-word." women? well, any woman has the right to determine that about her own personal beloved c--t, or another's she's been assured accepts that.

i hope not to read it on here anymore. it has been scary to see it go this far.