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Behind the Aegis

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Fri Feb 21, 2014, 01:20 AM

Feb 2014

Yes, the little things add up. I used to demonstrate this in my diversity training programs (and programs about stress) by having people hold a piece of paper, then half a ream, then a whole ream; it was to show that while some things may be small and petty, they can build up over time and be oppressive.

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This is NOT about the evils of straight, white, men, BUT, it is about the reality of one gay man. [View all] Behind the Aegis Feb 2014 OP

I'm pretty sure Hallmark has cards for gay couples Skittles Feb 2014 #1

The one in Tulsa I beleive carries a small selection. Behind the Aegis Feb 2014 #3

You are NOT an "other"! nt sheshe2 Feb 2014 #9

You aren't an "other" Aerows Feb 2014 #14

when I lived in Tulsa catrose Feb 2014 #16

LOL! I also found "Kosher for Passover" for ham in Tulsa. Behind the Aegis Feb 2014 #26

Oh no! I think that's the definition of FAIL! RBStevens Feb 2014 #61

Did you see the kosher shrimp too? EOM catrose Feb 2014 #65

Seconding aerows and sheshe1 here. You are no "other". AverageJoe90 Feb 2014 #49

I tried to buy a small Menorah in my town of almost 20,000 theHandpuppet Feb 2014 #52

"death by a thousand cuts" is a good way to describe it. Behind the Aegis Feb 2014 #71

as others have said... awoke_in_2003 Feb 2014 #80

also these "little things" are how a lot of people end up viewing the world JI7 Feb 2014 #2

^^^This^^^ n/t Gormy Cuss Feb 2014 #53

That is a very important point. redqueen Feb 2014 #57

This is very true. It adds the "human" touch to those of us looked at as "other." Behind the Aegis Feb 2014 #63

Congratulations on finding the right person -- 12 years together! pacalo Feb 2014 #4

Thanks so much! Behind the Aegis Feb 2014 #64

On the cards thing The Straight Story Feb 2014 #5

"Everyone in the US is more privileged than many other countries" Aerows Feb 2014 #10

When compared to say, Uganda, etc The Straight Story Feb 2014 #20

When I look at Scandanavian nations Aerows Feb 2014 #24

You can't fix society on any sort of timetable. jeff47 Feb 2014 #70

You are a real person to me, BtA!! Sissyk Feb 2014 #6

Thank you! Behind the Aegis Feb 2014 #8

You are a real person Aerows Feb 2014 #11

Great post. Boom Sound 416 Feb 2014 #7

Thanks for your response. Behind the Aegis Feb 2014 #21

Thank you Boom Sound 416 Feb 2014 #27

I'm not understanding something frazzled Feb 2014 #12

I don't understand the accusatory nature of your post. Behind the Aegis Feb 2014 #17

My understanding frazzled Feb 2014 #22

I think you are making this about some thing it is not, and for what reason, I don't know. Behind the Aegis Feb 2014 #25

I don't think that it should be controversial to say that LGBT people are disadvantaged. lumberjack_jeff Feb 2014 #13

Your first two statements are how I wanted the OP to be, not the third statement. Behind the Aegis Feb 2014 #18

Congratulations on your 12th anniversary LittleBlue Feb 2014 #15

Thank you very much. Behind the Aegis Feb 2014 #32

Happy Anniversary! sheshe2 Feb 2014 #19

Thanks sheshe2! Behind the Aegis Feb 2014 #23

Happy anniversary to both of you, BtA! Violet_Crumble Feb 2014 #28

Thank you! And yes, puppies are acceptable. Behind the Aegis Feb 2014 #30

Happy Anniversary. Warren DeMontague Feb 2014 #29

Thank ya, kind sir. Behind the Aegis Feb 2014 #34

bizarre op frwrfpos Feb 2014 #31

OK. What was bizarre about it? Behind the Aegis Feb 2014 #33

maybe im up to late frwrfpos Feb 2014 #35

No prob. The premise may be a bit convoluted, but basically... Behind the Aegis Feb 2014 #36

Im always up for thinking from a different perspective frwrfpos Feb 2014 #37

Basically, it was seeing things from a gay perspective. Behind the Aegis Feb 2014 #38

I'm happy for you, but I'm sorry you're still made to feel "different." nomorenomore08 Feb 2014 #39

What survey? I'd love to see it!! Behind the Aegis Feb 2014 #40

Luckily I have the link handy! Here you go: nomorenomore08 Feb 2014 #41

Much obliged! Behind the Aegis Feb 2014 #42

Sure! Of course! nomorenomore08 Feb 2014 #43

I always enjoy reading your postings, Bohunk68 Feb 2014 #44

Thanks so much. We are hoping the stay on the old law will soon be dropped... Behind the Aegis Feb 2014 #72

Happy Anniversary BtA maddezmom Feb 2014 #45

Thank you. It is good to see you! Behind the Aegis Feb 2014 #73

Congrats! gollygee Feb 2014 #46

Thanks and thank you for providing a personal touch. Behind the Aegis Feb 2014 #74

Happy anniversary, you two! Heidi Feb 2014 #47

Thank you (both)! ;) Behind the Aegis Feb 2014 #75

Marketing and distribution seveneyes Feb 2014 #48

This is a very thoughtful post MissMillie Feb 2014 #50

+1. nt bemildred Feb 2014 #51

Thank you for the post. NCTraveler Feb 2014 #54

"when you don't see yourself in the merchandise or see yourself in a "reserved" section, redqueen Feb 2014 #55

Look I didn't create the world we both find our selves in. upaloopa Feb 2014 #56

If that's all you carried with you from the OP... theHandpuppet Feb 2014 #58

That all you have to say upaloopa Feb 2014 #66

I don't think you need enlightenment theHandpuppet Feb 2014 #67

How many times in the past year have you posted about the upaloopa Feb 2014 #76

Pay attention theHandpuppet Feb 2014 #79

Happy anniversay BtA... one_voice Feb 2014 #59

Thank you! Behind the Aegis Feb 2014 #82

Happy anniversary. mitchtv Feb 2014 #60

Happy, Happy Anniversary!!!! joeybee12 Feb 2014 #62

K&R and Happy Anniversary! stevenleser Feb 2014 #68

~hugs you~ Marrah_G Feb 2014 #69

I an White. When I was looking for that 'perfect' Valentine card, I noticed most were White. RC Feb 2014 #77

Thanks for a thoughful post. DeadLetterOffice Feb 2014 #78

A very good example of something never MineralMan Feb 2014 #81