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In reply to the discussion: Are there women here who are not offended by the SI cover or Kate Upton's spread? [View all]Xolodno
(6,384 posts)...thought they were fine. They are adults making their own decisions, right or wrong. Simply hiding this stuff like some sort of quasi Sharia law isn't the answer to end women or men being "objectified". If fact, I would argue that it contributes to the problem.
People's attitude about sex and the human form needs promotion of maturity. But what we have is a Beavis and Butthead attitude where people say "heh heh heh....boobies", because we promote that "boobies" are something mysterious...so the juvenile attitude remains. If the attitude was like my wife's "they look sexy" and move's on. The market for this would be very small...and such discussions like this wouldn't even take place.
On the flip side, eradication of "sex objects" isn't the answer either. This where people get "uncomfortable"....there are times when I or my wife want to be treated like a piece of meat. It fulfills a base, but temporary emotion. I don't expect to come home every night and find her wearing subjective attire and playing a role that appeases us both. In fact, I nor her would want that as our relationship is based on far more and I think many can relate to this. But on the occasion where its a warranted sexual and sensual need that we agree and consent to...is not wrong.
And we look at "sex objects" in the media not say "heh heh heh...boobies", but rather get ideas and open up the imagination.
Sex sells these days and illicits behavior of "shaming" because of immaturity. If the view of sex were changed as something normal and healthy the discussion of the SI issue would be our favorite beaches to go au natural and the zero g would make us long for a time when you an your partner can experience intimacy in zero g.
There are a lot of problems with Americans attitude toward sexuality...but shaming it only makes it worse. As it adds to the mystery and sense of forbidden which creates its own allure.
The SI issue doesn't bother me, in fact, I forgot SI did a swimsuit issue. And when I saw the cover....I didn't care, nor did my wife...actually surprised to find out SI still prints a magazine.