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In reply to the discussion: Man Over pays Child Support, And visits his son too much, Sentenced to 180 Days in Jail [View all]kdmorris
(5,649 posts)And I wasn't trying to throw in a red herring. You maybe didn't state what you meant well, but it sounded to me like you were stating that the working parent should get the kids... in my case (and all cases are different) that would have meant custody went to my ex-husband, who was NOT a fit parent.
You have more power than you think. Request that child support be paid to her through the state. Call them and set up an account so that she can only get the money from there. Go back to court and request that you be allowed to claim then on your taxes.
Maybe you are just angry and want to rant, I don't know, but you've been applying your situation to all men for quite a few posts now. That's not right, any more than it's right that women are favored in custody arrangements.
I'm sorry about your personal situation. It sounds like it sucks. I'm just trying to point out that we all have stories. What you are doing sounds like applying a personal situation to an overall concept. Just as if I were (and I'm not before you freak out) to say that men don't deserve custody because they are all abusive assholes.