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In reply to the discussion: I hate to do this thread, but it seems to be time again: I'm a male survivor of abuse [View all]BainsBane
(52,999 posts)120. Not to me
And my guess is not to most people in this thread. I have argued for decades that female abusers should be treated exactly as male abusers are. I've had straight male friends laugh at that suggestion and insist a junior high boy violated by his teacher was "lucky." Studies show male victims abused by women are every bit as traumatized as boys and girls abused by men. Nor can I imagine any scenario where adult homosexual rape could possibly be less traumatic than heterosexual rape. I have no doubt that homophobia and bigotry more generally is as present in abuse support groups as anywhere else in society. I think you, Recursion and others are very brave to talk about your experiences here. I lack your courage.
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I hate to do this thread, but it seems to be time again: I'm a male survivor of abuse [View all]
Recursion
Nov 2013
OP
and you show us ALL, recursion, it can be done. both genders, abuse, huge issue and should be
seabeyond
Nov 2013
#17
my first experience with male abuse and the hypocrisy was my brother. decades ago.
seabeyond
Nov 2013
#32
In both my personal and professional life, I've had a lot to do with survivors--and perpetrators--
Jackpine Radical
Nov 2013
#39
Thank you for the brave and important post. We good men and women SO need one another.
nolabear
Nov 2013
#44
Very few abuse shelters for men. Pointing this out isn't delegitimizing women's abuse.
lumberjack_jeff
Nov 2013
#54
Thank you for this brave thread. I was an Army officer who was raped by a fellow
LiberalLoner
Nov 2013
#62
i could so see that though i had not thuoght of that. thanks for the insight. makes sense. nt
seabeyond
Nov 2013
#104
I have been floored by the number of men I've known that have acknowledged being molested
Number23
Nov 2013
#87
kinder? what, 186 rec in a heartfelt OP. and you say what in response? kinder. uh hu
seabeyond
Nov 2013
#99
on a related note, we men who have had mental health issues are in the same boat
steve2470
Nov 2013
#126