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chervilant

(8,267 posts)
100. Every time I think our species has regressed with regards to
Wed Nov 6, 2013, 09:34 PM
Nov 2013
relationship violence, some sensitive, erudite and courageous individual posts something that gives me hope -- as you've done herein.

I've been an advocate for survivors of relationship violence for better than thirty-five years. I am a survivor. I have enormous respect for every survivor who finds the courage to share their experiences so that they might help others. I have tremendous compassion for our fellow survivors who continue to suffer in silence and isolation.

Thank you for this post. You've given me hope.
Great post... trumad Nov 2013 #1
a member of my family is one. he is the best boy ever but hooked up with a roguevalley Nov 2013 #95
Thank you for this post! thucythucy Nov 2013 #2
Thank you Thucy! Recursion Nov 2013 #4
You're very welcome! thucythucy Nov 2013 #7
Here's the disparity Recursion Nov 2013 #9
There is one poster who is so angry with me boston bean Nov 2013 #13
I'm so sorry, boston bean Recursion Nov 2013 #16
Thanks, recursion. boston bean Nov 2013 #20
Oh, one of those? Recursion Nov 2013 #43
"A beat-down"? lumberjack_jeff Nov 2013 #59
... Whisp Nov 2013 #77
Sigh indeed... nt thucythucy Nov 2013 #15
I stress, "even on DU" Recursion Nov 2013 #18
+1 LiberalLoner Nov 2013 #60
I don't feel safe here either. pitbullgirl1965 Nov 2013 #71
if i could do so, I'd recomend your post as well as the op's post. n/t deafskeptic Nov 2013 #51
+a jillion n/t BlancheSplanchnik Nov 2013 #79
No words. IdaBriggs Nov 2013 #3
Thank you, Ida Recursion Nov 2013 #5
Then have another - and a kick because this is an AWESOME post. IdaBriggs Nov 2013 #6
Acknowledging and working to minimize violence against women boston bean Nov 2013 #8
Isn't it fucked up? Recursion Nov 2013 #14
It's just the strangest, backwards thing.... boston bean Nov 2013 #21
It doesn't, it didn't... whttevrr Nov 2013 #49
It's weird, no? Recursion Nov 2013 #57
Very weird... whttevrr Nov 2013 #61
This post is both courageous brer cat Nov 2013 #10
You are absolutely right. It isn't a contest. HappyMe Nov 2013 #11
Be well Recursion (((hug))). Big K& R nt riderinthestorm Nov 2013 #12
Thank you riderinthestorm! Recursion Nov 2013 #23
and you show us ALL, recursion, it can be done. both genders, abuse, huge issue and should be seabeyond Nov 2013 #17
Thank you so much seabeyond Recursion Nov 2013 #19
Thanks for the piece of insight. Festivito Nov 2013 #22
You stated that so simply, so eloquently. sheshe2 Nov 2013 #24
Thank you, sheshe2 Recursion Nov 2013 #26
Thank you for your post. cate94 Nov 2013 #25
Thank you for breaking the silence. moriah Nov 2013 #27
Thank you, thank you, thank you. Huge K&R and.... OneGrassRoot Nov 2013 #28
Thank you! Recursion Nov 2013 #30
As a fellow survivor, thank you. WCLinolVir Nov 2013 #29
k&r Starry Messenger Nov 2013 #31
my first experience with male abuse and the hypocrisy was my brother. decades ago. seabeyond Nov 2013 #32
Thank you Recursion Nov 2013 #33
All abuse is horrifying. All victims are just that - victims. MineralMan Nov 2013 #34
Thank you, Recursion..You make excellent points. n/t whathehell Nov 2013 #35
My heart goes to all abuse victims. JNelson6563 Nov 2013 #36
my mother was a severe BPD. BlancheSplanchnik Nov 2013 #82
Oh my dear! JNelson6563 Nov 2013 #108
thank you Julie. :) BlancheSplanchnik Nov 2013 #124
You have my support PasadenaTrudy Nov 2013 #37
It's none of my business, but was your abuser male or female? librechik Nov 2013 #38
My abuser was in a position of authority, and was evil. Recursion Nov 2013 #40
And that's all that matters, isn't it? n/t moriah Nov 2013 #46
Amen (nt) Recursion Nov 2013 #47
Of course, and as a fellow victim, I sympathize. librechik Nov 2013 #50
I am a cis-male Recursion Nov 2013 #52
I can assure you that there are psychopathic women, Ghost Dog Nov 2013 #112
I spoke to that.n/t librechik Nov 2013 #123
In both my personal and professional life, I've had a lot to do with survivors--and perpetrators-- Jackpine Radical Nov 2013 #39
Thank you Recursion Dorian Gray Nov 2013 #41
Good post! Marrah_G Nov 2013 #42
Thank you for the brave and important post. We good men and women SO need one another. nolabear Nov 2013 #44
Thank you nolabear Recursion Nov 2013 #45
I saw those threads... whttevrr Nov 2013 #48
I am so sorry you experienced abuse Grateful for Hope Nov 2013 #53
Very few abuse shelters for men. Pointing this out isn't delegitimizing women's abuse. lumberjack_jeff Nov 2013 #54
I'm with you brother. MindPilot Nov 2013 #55
Brother, you're not remotely alone Recursion Nov 2013 #56
Thank you for this brave thread. I was an Army officer who was raped by a fellow LiberalLoner Nov 2013 #62
So sorry for my dismissive "never the officers" language Recursion Nov 2013 #64
It's okay. No offense taken. :) LiberalLoner Nov 2013 #66
Don't go... whttevrr Nov 2013 #67
don't leave DU, LiberalLoner Skittles Nov 2013 #88
As another male survivor I stand with you on what you say Arcanetrance Nov 2013 #58
What else can I say, but hedgehog Nov 2013 #63
Fair points, and much appreciated. ancianita Nov 2013 #65
Seems to me a beating is a beating. Regardless of the gender of the victim. calimary Nov 2013 #68
Unfortunately, gay men are still under a lot of pressure to deny abuse-- eridani Nov 2013 #103
i could so see that though i had not thuoght of that. thanks for the insight. makes sense. nt seabeyond Nov 2013 #104
Standing with you, Recursion! Scruffy Rumbler Nov 2013 #69
I am sorry Recursion. I wish I had something better to say. nt msanthrope Nov 2013 #70
I also. riqster Nov 2013 #72
Three male survivors have opened up to me Warpy Nov 2013 #73
K&R valerief Nov 2013 #74
K&R me b zola Nov 2013 #75
Knowing the True Meaning of Pain 4Q2u2 Nov 2013 #76
Wonderful and Eloquent post! Thank you Recursion BlancheSplanchnik Nov 2013 #78
Thanks for this. Chiquitita Nov 2013 #80
K&R LadyHawkAZ Nov 2013 #81
Thank you for sharing your experience with us. raging moderate Nov 2013 #83
Another one here wysi Nov 2013 #84
This message was self-deleted by its author polly7 Nov 2013 #85
Recursion... Hekate Nov 2013 #86
I have been floored by the number of men I've known that have acknowledged being molested Number23 Nov 2013 #87
Well said - thank you for speaking for me jimlup Nov 2013 #89
I'm so glad you posted this. NYC_SKP Nov 2013 #90
"I don't bring this up much, because it's none of your fucking business." Android3.14 Nov 2013 #91
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kinder? what, 186 rec in a heartfelt OP. and you say what in response? kinder. uh hu seabeyond Nov 2013 #99
A rare enlightening thread Nine Nov 2013 #93
I'm very sorry that that happened to you. Thank you for witnessing for truth. yardwork Nov 2013 #94
You absolutely are my ally BainsBane Nov 2013 #96
I too am a male surviver BillyRibs Nov 2013 #98
Every time I think our species has regressed with regards to chervilant Nov 2013 #100
Not a surviver of sexual abuse but chknltl Nov 2013 #101
Maybe DU could benefit from a PTSD forum Ghost Dog Nov 2013 #113
For the sake of the stupid people, MichiganVote Nov 2013 #102
I agree, excellent post! Rosa Luxemburg Nov 2013 #106
Yeah Prophet 451 Nov 2013 #105
been there done that. ... 8 track mind Nov 2013 #107
Thank you ismnotwasm Nov 2013 #109
beautiful post. glad i did not miss this. La Lioness Priyanka Nov 2013 #110
Me too, but I'm not joining an on-line support group. Deep13 Nov 2013 #111
I was raped. So was my mother and one brother. Behind the Aegis Nov 2013 #114
I'm sorry that happened to you BainsBane Nov 2013 #115
I don't believe survivors are enemies either. Behind the Aegis Nov 2013 #117
Not to me BainsBane Nov 2013 #120
There are a few demographics where assumptions are made ismnotwasm Nov 2013 #116
You made me cry. Behind the Aegis Nov 2013 #118
.. ismnotwasm Nov 2013 #122
My father was abused by his spouse...to death. Bonobo Nov 2013 #119
Much support to you, brother steve2470 Nov 2013 #121
You're an awesome man. cherokeeprogressive Nov 2013 #125
on a related note, we men who have had mental health issues are in the same boat steve2470 Nov 2013 #126
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