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In reply to the discussion: I hate to do this thread, but it seems to be time again: I'm a male survivor of abuse [View all]calimary
(80,522 posts)Years ago, my husband was roughed up by an off-duty cop. He was driving a few miles over the speed limit on a new stretch of freeway on the outskirts of town - very little traffic on there. Pulled over by an off-duty cop in a NON-police car. Wasn't even an unmarked car! He didn't pull over because he didn't recognize the driver as ANY sort of cop. The lawyers took over on that one. And my guy had to go to abuse counseling - thank God that was available to him.
I have another longtime friend who's gay, and he got into a relationship with a partner who turned violent on him. He didn't get much help or sympathy. I have a feeling it was because he's gay - everybody just sniffed and scoffed and said it was a lovers' quarrel and pretty much dismissed him. He's never been the same since. And unlike with my husband, there were no services available to my friend - nobody cared. I'm pretty sure it was because he's gay and there wasn't much sympathy or concern. It pissed me off!
A beating is a beating. By any other name. It's still a BEATING. It's abuse. It's a violent act. It is a criminal act. It's assault. It's a sin. There is no excuse. And it doesn't make any difference if the victim is male or female or gay or straight. It's still a BEATING.
I'm so sorry you went through that, Recursion. NOBODY should.