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Wed Nov 6, 2013, 08:58 AM

32. my first experience with male abuse and the hypocrisy was my brother. decades ago.

his GF thought it cute to kick him in his crotch. he was telling me and i told him, hit her back. (i am a total pacifist and never use violence or endorse it, but i was so mad). i immediately said, you cant do that, but you can push her off you. push her to the ground. it just cannot be allowed.

that stuck with me for a long long time.

fast forward to two sons. my oldest had all the girls with crushes on him in elementary school. one particular girl would walk by him and pinch his ear. it was all for attention, not bullying, though that is just what it was. i had heard other stories. i talked to the principle, that this cannot be one sided. i talked about it in a PTA meeting, how it was not one sided. and i talked to the teachers and told them we could not teach our boys to take abuse and we could not teach our girls they were allowed. we needed to address it and not tell the boys to "man up". and i talked (and listened) to my sons about it, a lot.

i ran into the girl about that time. i told her to knock it off, that my son was not allowed to hit her, and her pinching ears was wrong, unacceptable.

we cannot allow our girls to believe there are no repercussions.

i am not for minimizing either experience. this is a very real issue i stand firmly with. i will always stand up for those that are abused.

i want it really really clear. it matters.

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