Response to MrSlayer (Reply #19)
Wed Feb 29, 2012, 12:01 AM
Honeycombe8 (18,738 posts)
41. I am worried about you. I identify with your post. I'm in danger of being laid off.
I haven't been laid off, and I may not be. I also am in a better position than most, having saved $ in the past, in fear of this sort of thing happening.
Like you, none of my usual interests interested me. I did some exercises, walked the dogs, cleaned out some drawers, etc., etc. I went through the motions but got no satisfaction from anything. I felt like I was waiting...for something, but I don't know what. Couldn't sleep well (unlike me). Couldn't eat (REALLY unlike me). I dropped down into a deep depression. Really deep. Thoughts of suicide, but since I have dependents (pets), that was out of the question.
Then suddenly the employment agency got me some interviews. Someone was interested in interviewing me? Things were looking up. It didn't solve the sense of disloyalty and betrayal, but it helped. I came out of it as quickly as it descended on me. I can't say what will happen if I don't get one of those jobs, though.
Have you been able to get any interviews? Do you have a spouse or children or someone to help you through this difficult time? Is there a possibility of getting temp or contract work in your field? One thing that did help me a little, for a short while (and this may have helped me in the end more fully, given more time) was that I made myself count my blessings, consider what I did have going for me, and remind myself all that many others do not have. My health, my savings, my dear pets that I love, my brother to help me figure things out financially, etc. Nothing is more important than health, I decided. And family, of course. My brother is the only family that I can rely on, so I'm thankful for him.
I live alone, so one thing I thought I might do is get involved in some charity work. That would help me focus on problems of OTHER people, rather than just myself. It would also remind me of all that I have that some others don't have. And it would get me more socially involved (most of my friends & social involvement have been through my current job). Have you considered that?
Do you have enough to retire on, if you supplement your income with temporary employment, so that you at least have that to count on? I suspect not...I didn't, and most people don't. I was just wondering if you could at least relieve your mind about that.
Do you have friends in your area that you can at least socialize with occasionally? I have just a few friends, but I really latched on to a dinner with several friends that was set up a couple of weeks ago. I kept thinking about that, not wanting to wait that long. I longed to be sitting around a table with a few people who cared about me. They didn't know what I was going through, so I could pretend for that night that everything was all right. That dinner is week after next.
I mean it when I say that I really feel your pain. Please post here at DU when you need to vent or get some advice or feedback. I have found that some of the posters here, besides being political, are really sharp, caring, astute people who are pretty good at giving advice & sharing experiences and suggesting solutions or paths forward. Yes, we're strangers. But that's okay. We care, nonetheless. I have done that a couple of times and received some of the best advice I've gotten from anyone, and true compassion for the situation. Some really smart people here at DU.
I wish you the best and hope to read how you are doing and how your job search is going. Are you middle aged or older? If you're younger, you have that going for you. I'm older, and I have some interviews, so there is hope.
Calgon, take me away......
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