Bumper sticker seen this morning: "I regret my abortion."

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121. My friend wasn't relieved that she had an abortion.

She's still angry and regrets that she felt forced into the situation.

She found out she was pregnant after fleeing from an abusive relationship. She had no money, no job, and was hiding from her ex. When she found out she was pregnant she went down to the local DFS, requesting any assistance and explaining the situation. The case worker informed her that if she received any assistance they would then have to inform the father. Receiving assistance during her pregnancy would have sealed her fate.

She already had an ex parte filed against him but the police department informed her that they really couldn't do anything unless he was caught in the act.

In the end, she called her mother and explained the situation. Her mother made the appointment, drove her there and back, and paid for the procedure. Within five years her ex was in prison for trying to kill his new girlfriend.

She wanted to have a baby but nearly 20 years ago she didn't feel like she could. It wasn't emotionally, it wasn't financially-it was possibly life or death. And laws were much different then. She talked about it with the birth of each of her three children. (She remarried six years later.) Last time we spoke she made the comment about how it would have been a college freshman.

She's thankful for the option. That option has allowed for three new lives to be in this world and I know she wouldn't change that. She's thankful but in no way would you ever hear her describe it as relieved.