Welcome to DU!
The truly grassroots left-of-center political community where regular people, not algorithms, drive the discussions and set the standards.
Join the community:
Create a free account
Support DU (and get rid of ads!):
Become a Star Member
Latest Breaking News
General Discussion
The DU Lounge
All Forums
Issue Forums
Culture Forums
Alliance Forums
Region Forums
Support Forums
Help & Search
General Discussion
In reply to the discussion: Woman forces stepdaughter to wear dowdy thrift store clothes as punishment for bullying [View all]cali
(114,904 posts)33. I'm not comfortable with this. Public humiliation of people is just not a a good way to go
I get that the stepmother was at an impasse but there are better ways.
Edit history
Please sign in to view edit histories.
241 replies
= new reply since forum marked as read
Highlight:
NoneDon't highlight anything
5 newestHighlight 5 most recent replies
RecommendedHighlight replies with 5 or more recommendations
Woman forces stepdaughter to wear dowdy thrift store clothes as punishment for bullying [View all]
Liberal_in_LA
May 2013
OP
Welcome to DU and please dump the caps lock as it is yelling and not good manners. Thanks
uppityperson
May 2013
#90
I guess I suffer from being a member of the professional educational community.
NYC_SKP
May 2013
#111
So you don't think it's a good lesson for people to walk in another persons shoes
snooper2
May 2013
#199
Hence, we must place the same amount of skepticism on the crux of the story itself...
LanternWaste
May 2013
#177
Yeah. I'm undecided about the whole thing but I definitely think putting this out to the media
cui bono
May 2013
#63
Love it, sometimes you have to think out of the box to get a teen's attention.
dem in texas
May 2013
#59
In a case like this, my step-daughter's mother would have encouraged the bullying -
haele
May 2013
#230
It's a little power-trip. A little feels good, more feels better, and if no one stops it...
Hekate
May 2013
#10
My question was not a contesting one; I actually wanted to know what you would do.
dogknob
May 2013
#28
Add to it that when Bullies get burned and they know who got them burned...
Lady Freedom Returns
May 2013
#31
Exactly! The punishment is apt to make the bullied girl even more a target.
Luminous Animal
May 2013
#131
I think we can look at it in another way. it reinforces the idea to be grateful for what you
robinlynne
May 2013
#89
understood. But we were dealing with a bully. Walk a mile in my shoes actually works.
robinlynne
May 2013
#222
sounds like the mother bullied her step-daughter into embaressing herself.
leftyohiolib
May 2013
#61
When I was a kid, I stole some quarters from my Dad. he held a "trial" in the back yard. All the
robinlynne
May 2013
#92
Punishment fits the crime? I suppose. Telling the story to the TV machine? Not so much. n/t
lumberjack_jeff
May 2013
#11
If there is nothing humiliating about it, then why use the clothes as a punishment?
Luminous Animal
May 2013
#136
With our kids, it was: "if you act like a jerk, you're gonna get treated like a jerk."
calimary
May 2013
#142
What does that mean? You acted like a jerk back to them? (Honest, I am confused.)
Luminous Animal
May 2013
#145
in your own words > making you work with the poor as a volunteer against your will is "bullying".
KittyWampus
May 2013
#120
if a kid is a bully, why would volunteering make poor people any more 'real' to them than the
HiPointDem
May 2013
#159
The mom said that she picked out the clothes specifically to embarrass the girl. An adult
Luminous Animal
May 2013
#147
A parent making a kid feeling bad about doing something wrong, in order to teach a life lesson.
Heywood J
May 2013
#190
I agree with you and thank you for speaking out. I am very much against bullying, but, as you
rhett o rick
May 2013
#37
As someone at the link points out, the girl learned sympathy for the bullied girl
Gormy Cuss
May 2013
#103
I'm not comfortable with this. Public humiliation of people is just not a a good way to go
cali
May 2013
#33
Several people have said this, but none have offered what these better ways are. nt
Demo_Chris
May 2013
#42
I see you accept the shallow premise of appearance. True for our culture, which is doomed.
NYC_SKP
May 2013
#229
Maybe the daughter should have had to give up her favorite clothes to the victim. n/t
eggplant
May 2013
#58
Idiot stepmother. Bullies have self-esteem issues. Way to make it worse.
Gravitycollapse
May 2013
#75
Yes. A 10 year old girl deserves to be humiliated on a grand scale to "teach her a lesson".
Luminous Animal
May 2013
#149
The mom stated that she forced the girl to wear clothes that would embarrass her.
Luminous Animal
May 2013
#155
Funny thing is, almost everybody who gets out of jail or prison says that
Downtown Hound
May 2013
#234
I think the punishment is, more likely than not, going to make the bullied girl even more
Luminous Animal
May 2013
#133
Agreed. Except we don't teach empathy. We create it with our treatment of our children
vanlassie
May 2013
#146
Kid mocks unfashionable clothes. Mom forces kid to wear unfashionable clothes so people can mock her
Luminous Animal
May 2013
#150
+1. it's funny, they're all concerned that the bully may be traumatized by experiencing what
HiPointDem
May 2013
#164
I am amused by the number of people here who are so concerned about poor little Kaylee.
Sheldon Cooper
May 2013
#179
Or maybe not -- if her parents ask her questions like: "Are you a totally different person
Nay
May 2013
#241
Watched the video. Think more than ever that the stepmom represents the worst of our culture.
NYC_SKP
May 2013
#203
I'm always uncomfortable about a strategy that involves embarrassing a child.
Chemisse
May 2013
#219
The punishment was appropriate but the step mother should not have administered it
Hamlette
May 2013
#228