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In reply to the discussion: — Homophobia: The fear that another man will treat you like you treat women. [View all]Bonobo
(29,257 posts)52. "Can I buy you a cup of coffee" = "shooting someone"
In the minds of some very angry, obsessed people.
In the rest of the world, people who are a wee bit more balanced consider it a normal part of the way people try to meet each.
"No thanks" is always an option -until the ability to read minds is gained by humans, that is.
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— Homophobia: The fear that another man will treat you like you treat women. [View all]
kpete
May 2013
OP
A serious graphic look at the issue ("passes", harassment) from another angle:
Bernardo de La Paz
May 2013
#133
That's interesting, because in my experience, I've observed that one of the most common men's
Zorra
May 2013
#35
Most every woman can rapidly and easily orchestrate a casual sexual encounter with a man 24/7,
Zorra
May 2013
#137
Not to the same extent, if at all. And if they do, it's because those women aren't
Honeycombe8
May 2013
#51
This article IS homophobia, starting with its title, and including its "point".
Occulus
May 2013
#24
Well said. The teacher in the article is a bigot pushing vicious myths. The teacher is also someone
Bluenorthwest
May 2013
#34
I knew something wasn't quite right about the OP. You made it clear, thank you.
nomorenomore08
May 2013
#38
The author, Andrew Sullivan, is a gay man. A thoughtful homosexual man who writes. nt
Bernardo de La Paz
May 2013
#124
I think there are a whole host of presuppositions in this article that are- at best- just wrong
Warren DeMontague
May 2013
#41
You make a good point. Are all come-ons threatening? Of course not, nor should they be.
nomorenomore08
May 2013
#43
Occulus did a very good job of laying out the problems from a Gay Male perspective upthread.
Warren DeMontague
May 2013
#45
No more games. It takes two to play and this has become quite tedious.
Behind the Aegis
May 2013
#104
he's also an asshole warmonger. so you could say this is the asshole warmonger gay persons
HiPointDem
May 2013
#116
But they're not talking about "trying to meet someone" or "a polite self-introduction."
nomorenomore08
May 2013
#59
If you're that concerned, you should read the second blog post ("How to Hit on Women").
nomorenomore08
May 2013
#61
What I want to know is, why do some read "some men are rapists" as "*all* men are rapists"?
nomorenomore08
May 2013
#85
Everyone "projects" in some way. Seems to be an inherent feature of the human psyche.
nomorenomore08
May 2013
#84
First of all, that post is rather vague. Second, it doesn't refer expressly to you.
nomorenomore08
May 2013
#107
I find this post out-of-line and sexist. Would you tolerate your marital status
msanthrope
May 2013
#123
The one point I will concede, is that highly homophobic men do tend to treat women poorly.
nomorenomore08
May 2013
#87
Very true. Some manage to deal reasonably well with human variation, others don't.
nomorenomore08
May 2013
#96
"As a woman, you learn to live with that from the time you are fourteen ..."
Arugula Latte
May 2013
#143
Welcome to DU. I think you missed the point of that article. It was not saying rape=homosexality, bu
uppityperson
Aug 2015
#146