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In reply to the discussion: It's a boy! Couple reveal sex of their 'gender neutral' kid after five years [View all]lumberjack_jeff
(33,224 posts)174. In what language is "ballerina" not gendered?
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It's a boy! Couple reveal sex of their 'gender neutral' kid after five years [View all]
snooper2
May 2013
OP
Why do you assume the boy was forced? The article says that he wore both "boys" and "girls" clothing
Luminous Animal
May 2013
#95
My daughter who is three and a half and her friend who just turned five were playing on Tuesday
snooper2
May 2013
#8
I agree. So if he wanted to play with GI Joe, that wasn't allowed. Only a ball or whatever.
Honeycombe8
May 2013
#140
I agree. She was leading him, not letting him make those choices on his own.
Arkansas Granny
May 2013
#10
Oh, I remember a sad incident. At craft store I was looking at colored markers when a Mom & son came
KittyWampus
May 2013
#21
So you think that not allowing a child to have a certain color is child abuse?
blueamy66
May 2013
#185
+1 That isn't gender-neutral. That's alternating-gender-stereotype. n/t
winter is coming
May 2013
#41
Hopefully she pays for mental health treatment for her son throughout his life.
cbdo2007
May 2013
#9
Watch this video of his mother coaching him on the correct answers to her questions.
pnwmom
May 2013
#116
parents "coaching" their religious views onto their kids is far more damaging.
unblock
May 2013
#145
Your approach is entirely different from that mother's, because you were child-focused.
pnwmom
May 2013
#146
When this particular gender roles transgression is concerned, encouragement = force.
redqueen
May 2013
#48
Of course, lots of seemingly insignificant stuff from people's childhoods that trigger
cbdo2007
May 2013
#80
You can stop arguing with me, I already said you won and this is completely normal behavior
cbdo2007
May 2013
#99
Being involved in the mental health world changes perspectives on these matters.
Neoma
May 2013
#104
We're both "involved in the mental health world" but each brought a different perspective...
cbdo2007
May 2013
#105
I think the explanation is that he was only allowed to play with gender neutral toys
pnwmom
May 2013
#147
Yep. Some people need to take a moment and consider why they're having over-the-top reactions.
redqueen
May 2013
#190
All narcissists are bad parents, no matter what particular agenda is driving them.
pnwmom
May 2013
#151
Yup. And there are too many parents who are narcissists, who USE their children
pnwmom
May 2013
#149
"...Beck was resolute and encouraged him to play with dolls to hide his masculinity."
Wait Wut
May 2013
#54
LOL, I see you're quite good at spinning, yourself... you sure did a good job there.
redqueen
May 2013
#72
Uh, ok? Tabloids write copy in such a way as to rouse the maximum amount of rabble.
redqueen
May 2013
#74
There's nothing gender neutral about a ballerina costume complete with tinkerbell wings.
lumberjack_jeff
May 2013
#101
I agree that they're unclear on the definition of 'neutral', I just don't see that as a good reason
redqueen
May 2013
#57
I've read a few of these stories. Never read one in which mom was hiding her daughter's sex.
lumberjack_jeff
May 2013
#103
My parents dressed me in boys' clothing, cut my hair very short, and actively discouraged femininity
MadrasT
May 2013
#159
"it was clear that girly clothes were literally costuming" YES! What an important message!
redqueen
May 2013
#191
And a significant number of parents who are "turning" their children into violinists
pnwmom
May 2013
#106
I view a religious upbringing of any kind, an extreme social experiment.
Luminous Animal
May 2013
#97
If they truly ever had to deal with an actual physical gender isuue they might know how wrong.
gordianot
May 2013
#55
I think using your kid to try to make a socio-political statement, sucks.
Warren DeMontague
May 2013
#64
My parents did pretty much the same thing to me except they did not keep my biological sex a secret
MadrasT
May 2013
#67
I think she was thinking about it all too hard. Kids will come into their own,
all american girl
May 2013
#76
It depends. If they're doing it narcissistically -- in order to make their kids perform --
pnwmom
May 2013
#124
I think the real question is: will he grow up to beat women, or be beaten by them?
Dreamer Tatum
May 2013
#131
I did find that implication somewhat troubling. Although at least they're letting him "be a boy"
nomorenomore08
May 2013
#136
They said when he went out the kid was dressed gender neutral--pants and shirts
marions ghost
May 2013
#198