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pipi_k

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175. Yes!
Mon Mar 18, 2013, 10:11 AM
Mar 2013

Mr Pipi and I had to do something similar with a couple of friends who are RW crazy and have a lot of unpalatable (to us) ideas...especially with regards to religion.

Each time the husband (nuttier in some ways than the wife) started in on the religion stuff, we would find some way to deflect the conversation to some other topic.

It took a while, but they finally got the message. We got on well with them otherwise and had many pleasant times together.

If telling someone certain topics are off-limits doesn't work, the next course of action is deflection and/or refusal to get sucked into the discussion.

That's too bad :( shenmue Mar 2013 #1
Please mend with your things up fitman Mar 2013 #16
Why Should She Try to Mend Things With Her Sister? dballance Mar 2013 #150
I agree. I am estranged from my family I have no regrets. I plan on pissing on my fathers grave Katashi_itto Mar 2013 #193
I'm sorry you are fighting with your sister over politics. nt ZombieHorde Mar 2013 #2
+1 on that. nt TheBlackAdder Mar 2013 #9
I think that's a sad thing, I can understand the arguments over weddings and stuff like that Autumn Mar 2013 #3
I hope your and the rest of your family remain close, and i hope one day your sister & you can peacebird Mar 2013 #4
I all would say... snooper2 Mar 2013 #5
This sounds like more than politics. Raine1967 Mar 2013 #6
Well, you've surely heard of Irish Alzheimer's Warpy Mar 2013 #7
Here's to Irish tempers coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #90
hello Aerows Mar 2013 #200
Such an unfortunate situation etherealtruth Mar 2013 #8
True believers never change, just adapt. Try asking why she believes that CK_John Mar 2013 #10
Life's too short to suffer stupid people. Some of the great myths of our dominant culture is that Egalitarian Thug Mar 2013 #11
Unfortunately, I must agree with you, Egalitarian Thug. Awknid Mar 2013 #92
I don't have to worry about this sister coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #103
Teabagger brother and wife same way sigmasix Mar 2013 #159
same here... chillfactor Mar 2013 #114
+1. Family is who you chose, not who you have a misfortune (sometimes) to share DNA with. idwiyo Mar 2013 #111
I hate to hear that. My family is mainly rightwingnuts. Honeycombe8 Mar 2013 #12
Avoid discussing politics with her LeftInTX Mar 2013 #13
You're justified in disowning your sister. It's high time for zero-tolerance for right-wingnuttery. ChisolmTrailDem Mar 2013 #14
Agree 100%! LeftofObama Mar 2013 #19
Thank you! coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #27
My brother was an idiot in a different way. He couldn't stay out of other peoples' houses ChisolmTrailDem Mar 2013 #34
I could never understand some of my friends who keep moaning about their various relatives idwiyo Mar 2013 #109
You are blood. Doesn't mean you can't disagree, nor does it mean you accept abuse. davsand Mar 2013 #15
I'm sorry, but "they're blood" is not an excuse for premeditated stupidity. And, with all due ChisolmTrailDem Mar 2013 #29
I agree. I lost 4 of 5 sisters because I am not a racist, bigoted asshole that watches Fux snooze. Mnemosyne Mar 2013 #84
My very closest family members are no blood relation to me at all. And that's just fine with me. eom ChisolmTrailDem Mar 2013 #85
+ 100 coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #93
Same here. I call them my framily! Mnemosyne Mar 2013 #101
When you are old and need help you won't feel comfortable asking them. dkf Mar 2013 #107
When I need help she wouldn't have been there for me anyway coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #113
They wouldn't piss on me if I was on fire, I am a "liberal". They are spoiled, entitled brats with Mnemosyne Mar 2013 #124
I'm really sorry you had to go through all that coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #129
I am 5 - 15 years older than them, it was my mother's second marriage. I am still in shock at how Mnemosyne Mar 2013 #136
Bullshit. I have friends that ask me to lend them a hand, before they would ask their family. Ikonoklast Mar 2013 #183
On a political level I totally get what you are saying. On a personal level I disagree. davsand Mar 2013 #89
blood may well be keroro gunsou Mar 2013 #172
That's a tough situation mokawanis Mar 2013 #17
public financing is NOT involuntary hfojvt Mar 2013 #18
Thanks for the info n/t coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #23
Let things cool off, but don't cut off contact Freddie Mar 2013 #20
Contact already cut off, too late coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #24
You did the right thing. Don't let anyone guilt-trip you. The idiocy must end. eom ChisolmTrailDem Mar 2013 #30
If it feels right to you, it is right. easttexaslefty Mar 2013 #82
Yes! You did the right thing. murray hill farm Mar 2013 #179
I understand completely. truebluegreen Mar 2013 #21
Family, friends that you can't choose... RedCappedBandit Mar 2013 #22
Life is too short to suffer fools gladly. avebury Mar 2013 #25
I'm sorry. That is really sad. liberal_at_heart Mar 2013 #26
It is sad. And sadly necessary. Yes, over politics because it is politics that determines ChisolmTrailDem Mar 2013 #33
I can't do that liberal_at_heart Mar 2013 #41
Luckily I don't have to deal with whether or not to disown a family member because, ChisolmTrailDem Mar 2013 #55
Your sister's opinions aside ... former9thward Mar 2013 #28
Don't put words in my mouth coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #66
Words in your mouth? former9thward Mar 2013 #72
this is where you put words in my mouth coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #121
Sorry not me. Wrong sex organs. former9thward Mar 2013 #122
Good for you. n/t Dawgs Mar 2013 #31
That's too bad.... onpatrol98 Mar 2013 #32
Good for you! Who needs family and/or friends? They're WAAAY overrated... cherokeeprogressive Mar 2013 #35
In my case it was the wingnuts who did the disowning Generic Brad Mar 2013 #40
Being called moneychanger and a baby killer aren't the same as unquestioning support of politicians. cherokeeprogressive Mar 2013 #50
First off - sorry for your loss Generic Brad Mar 2013 #91
I see your point. n/t cherokeeprogressive Mar 2013 #174
You didn't notice that this is a lifelong pattern with her sister? tavalon Mar 2013 #153
My brother was a practicing alcoholic for several years dsc Mar 2013 #36
I'm so sorry to hear that... pipi_k Mar 2013 #38
we have been trying dsc Mar 2013 #39
Glad to hear it... pipi_k Mar 2013 #53
My thoughts... pipi_k Mar 2013 #37
I'm sure at some point we'll talk coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #68
I hope pipi_k Mar 2013 #176
I hope so too coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #185
Sorry that you are having Sissyk Mar 2013 #42
I'm not sure I'll speak to her again and it doesn't bother me at all. Leslie Valley Mar 2013 #43
Very perceptive, Leslie. And holding onto anger solves nothing but eats away KittyWampus Mar 2013 #45
I think many people believe pipi_k Mar 2013 #56
It doesn't bother me that I won't see her coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #49
Holding Grudges is very VERY bad for your health. Let it go. Don't ignore the reality but LET IT GO. KittyWampus Mar 2013 #44
I will let it go but I can't talk to her coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #46
Can you just agree to not talk politics? Beaverhausen Mar 2013 #67
It's not just the politics really coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #69
No she won't stop with that hatred coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #98
Do you get along otherwise? BellaLuna Mar 2013 #47
I've tolerated her for a long time because of her children coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #54
She's beyond just the 'agree to disagree' thing then BellaLuna Mar 2013 #61
You should Facebook friend your sister's children. pnwmom Mar 2013 #162
My niece & nephew coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #163
I wonder if she's an active alcoholic? nt raccoon Mar 2013 #184
could be coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #186
I''ve never found any good coming from relationships w/toxic persons. Divernan Mar 2013 #48
For those of you with the sentiment that we shouldn't let politics get between blood relations... ChisolmTrailDem Mar 2013 #51
I'm just not that kind of person liberal_at_heart Mar 2013 #59
Well there ya go... pipi_k Mar 2013 #63
yeah, I try to avoid thinking I KNOW anything. liberal_at_heart Mar 2013 #64
There is a distinct line between what I believe and what they believe. And that line ChisolmTrailDem Mar 2013 #70
That's it right there -- well said coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #74
Once it gets that stupid, it's not about Obama anymore. It's about reality and principle. eom ChisolmTrailDem Mar 2013 #78
or racism coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #88
Take a break from her treestar Mar 2013 #52
Bush spent an entire YEAR of his 8 years on vacation. Initech Mar 2013 #57
He did. coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #134
I heard a term for it the other day - "Obama Derangement Syndrome". Initech Mar 2013 #135
LOL coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #140
there is only one way to survive this hollysmom Mar 2013 #58
Politics is a lot more important than family - you did the right thing. egduj Mar 2013 #60
To cut off family for such ultimately meaningless reasons is sad. MrSlayer Mar 2013 #62
Very good point---we fight each other instead of the real enemy. Curmudgeoness Mar 2013 #73
They ARE the real enemy. eom ChisolmTrailDem Mar 2013 #83
I don't think so....they are puppets. Curmudgeoness Mar 2013 #87
I seldom talk politics with friends and relatives. Buzz Clik Mar 2013 #65
I stopped talking to couple family members along time ago after I gave them a warning about idwiyo Mar 2013 #71
Amen to that! Fuck 'em! eom ChisolmTrailDem Mar 2013 #81
Errrrr, I don't think you'd want to do THAT to THEM. Trust me. :) idwiyo Mar 2013 #108
Life is too short for gratuitous anger, pointless aggravation and unmitigated bullshit hatrack Mar 2013 #75
We haven't really interacted but I knew I liked you =) eom ChisolmTrailDem Mar 2013 #80
I barely talk to my sister. Only when I can't avoid it pink-o Mar 2013 #76
This particular sister coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #97
Yup. I hear you. I wanted my mother to live forever. pink-o Mar 2013 #100
I like it! n/t coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #104
same here...when my mother died AND my father.... chillfactor Mar 2013 #119
I have to say that "family first" angle only works if BOTH sides agree to steer clear of politics Populist_Prole Mar 2013 #77
I'm surprised calling her a racist didn't cause Bay Boy Mar 2013 #79
Sometimes the shoe just fits too well... nomorenomore08 Mar 2013 #96
I didn't call her a racist coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #105
I understand. zentrum Mar 2013 #86
You should try to set some ground rules Marrah_G Mar 2013 #94
Family isn't the same once you lose respect for someone. hay rick Mar 2013 #95
You made the right choice. lbrtbell Mar 2013 #99
Absolutely. dogknob Mar 2013 #126
My suggestion is papa3times Mar 2013 #102
It's very sad that because of politics it comes to something like this. My extended family are repub Raine Mar 2013 #106
There it is again! And I'll say it again... It is POLITICS that drives our future! Acting as if ChisolmTrailDem Mar 2013 #194
! patrice Mar 2013 #110
Thoughts? MadHound Mar 2013 #112
Life is too short coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #117
Family is too precious to let politics tear it asunder. MadHound Mar 2013 #118
It's really done. coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #123
That is so sad, I'm sorry. MadHound Mar 2013 #125
If I saw it as my error or my loss I wouldn't have done it coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #130
Perhaps you should ask yourself why you're not close to your sister. MadHound Mar 2013 #133
My niece will be okay coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #138
Again, politics isn't important enough to come between family. WTH??? Are we supposed to allow ChisolmTrailDem Mar 2013 #195
I hope things get better between you and your sister... SummerSnow Mar 2013 #115
I hate when that happens, *yet* will draw the line every time!1 n/t UTUSN Mar 2013 #116
My thoughts are that it's stupid for any family members to distance themselves over politics. Beacool Mar 2013 #120
You might very well rue the day. She's blood. WinkyDink Mar 2013 #127
It's up to you, of course, Le Taz Hot Mar 2013 #128
answer was pretty popular with ME coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #132
Very wise in my opinion. Thanks. Nt erinlough Mar 2013 #147
A minor detail, just for accuracy BlueStreak Mar 2013 #131
Yes I'm aware of that. coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #141
I know the feeling. I just hope doors aren't permanently closed unnecessarily. BlueStreak Mar 2013 #145
The are shut tight for now coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #165
I have the same problem in my family with my younger brother Samantha Mar 2013 #137
I totally understand your feelings.. virgdem Mar 2013 #139
I lost my friend of over 20 years after Ilsa Mar 2013 #142
Thanks Ilsa coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #144
I had to do the same with my Ilsa Mar 2013 #160
The election was a tipping point in Stargazer09 Mar 2013 #189
The friend complained about Ilsa Mar 2013 #198
Hugs Stargazer09 Mar 2013 #221
Another tiny email exchange coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #143
Sounds like she has somehow gotten sucked into Fox News' alternate reality Proud Liberal Dem Mar 2013 #146
bad move Skittles Mar 2013 #148
Yes! pipi_k Mar 2013 #175
my aunt asked if I was calling her a racist and I flat-out said YES Skittles Mar 2013 #210
Fox news turned my mom, sister, brother, uncle abelenkpe Mar 2013 #149
I hope she eventually comes to her senses. Iggo Mar 2013 #151
Just from the short story and your point of view tavalon Mar 2013 #152
Don't get bookfaced. xfundy Mar 2013 #154
It must be nice to live in a family with such piddly problems! LeftyMom Mar 2013 #155
First of all, I am sorry to hear that things have escalated to the point you two aren't talking davidpdx Mar 2013 #156
I don't think she planned her wedding deliberately coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #164
Ah, I see davidpdx Mar 2013 #169
This is terrible. SamReynolds Mar 2013 #157
I feel so lucky to not have any RWers in my family, Jamaal510 Mar 2013 #158
Q: What's Irish Alzheimer's? A: When ye forget everything but the grudges. Hekate Mar 2013 #161
My sister and I stopped talking years and years ago lunatica Mar 2013 #166
You two need to forget technology and use the phone. IdaBriggs Mar 2013 #167
Another victory for the right wing. Turbineguy Mar 2013 #168
Well... sibelian Mar 2013 #170
My thoughts? LWolf Mar 2013 #171
SMH Mr Dixon Mar 2013 #173
I understand, but it's too much. Smarmie Doofus Mar 2013 #177
not a problem RedstDem Mar 2013 #178
I have never engaged in that kind of petty squabble with any member of my family slackmaster Mar 2013 #180
I had a similar situation with my sister and brother... Javaman Mar 2013 #181
You did what you had to do. Ganja Ninja Mar 2013 #182
I understand you completely. peace13 Mar 2013 #187
thanks Kim coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #191
We started meditation last October... peace13 Mar 2013 #196
much appreciated coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #197
You do what you have to.. fadedrose Mar 2013 #188
Not sure of the origin of this....native american, I think. murray hill farm Mar 2013 #190
thank you - hopefully she gets over her coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #192
I don't talk politics with my older sister. Aerows Mar 2013 #199
I feel like I need a break from my sister, period coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #201
Distance can be a good thing Aerows Mar 2013 #202
Thanks Aerows coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #203
To be frank, I think it's a damn stupid reason to cut off a family member. AngryOldDem Mar 2013 #204
I feel it's temporary and I'm taking a much needed break coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #207
Yeah, sometimes it's good and wise to just take a break. AngryOldDem Mar 2013 #227
Am I invited? H2O Man Mar 2013 #205
Of course silly coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #209
This is going to sound hard, but you should both grow up. badtoworse Mar 2013 #206
see reply 207 coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #208
I wish you luck in rebuilding a relationship badtoworse Mar 2013 #211
this sister though, is not precious to me right now coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #212
That is unfortunate. badtoworse Mar 2013 #213
I hope so too coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #214
Face Palm Time Me. Mar 2013 #215
Thanks me! coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #218
Old Friend Has A Nice Ring To It Me. Mar 2013 #222
We are old friends. Going back to 2004 coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #223
You only get one family. TroglodyteScholar Mar 2013 #216
not just politics coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #219
Why be around people who make you miserable? SunSeeker Mar 2013 #217
thanks for the validation! coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #220
Yes indeed. SunSeeker Mar 2013 #225
we got ourselves one very annoyed pig coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #228
Sounds you don't like 'er. People should have to be around other people that they lonestarnot Mar 2013 #224
I have gone through the same situation with my sister. I cannot be around her side of the family Lint Head Mar 2013 #226
I agree coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #229
Stay away from her and go your own way and stay close to sane members of your bluestate10 Mar 2013 #230
willful ignorance of the facts coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #231
From what you wrote and from what I've read of your past posts, I think... BlueJazz Mar 2013 #232
I don't know if anyone will see this since this thread is so old . . . . coeur_de_lion Mar 2013 #233
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