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In reply to the discussion: Is there a lawyer in the house? QDRO [View all]LiberalFighter
(50,343 posts)39. Warning. I know too late. But accepting what the spouse says in a divorce? Sorry
You might find a better understanding here DOL_QDROS Especially under Chapter 3 Drafting QDROs although there is other information in addition to this. Chapter 3 may lift your heart a bit also and may require careful reading to see it.
Did you do a comparison of what you were expecting to receive when he should had retired vs when he terminated his employment? Was it a big difference? Have you looked to see how Social Security will play into this? You need to find out when you can start collecting those benefits. That may help out. There are other factors to consider. If you have the house and the mortgage is paid off a big help.
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I never heard of this. Is it for a divorce settlement? Just wondering.
southernyankeebelle
Feb 2013
#3
I have a friend whose husband was about 17 yrs older than his wife. She was a good
southernyankeebelle
Feb 2013
#9
He has been dead about 5 yrs now. She is retired herself now and is as happy as a
southernyankeebelle
Feb 2013
#55
Warning. I know too late. But accepting what the spouse says in a divorce? Sorry
LiberalFighter
Feb 2013
#39
I have seen this kind of thing in divorces where defined benefit pensions are being split
ProgressiveProfessor
Feb 2013
#15
Think of it this way: How much would both of you together get if you were still married,
Xipe Totec
Feb 2013
#53