Tue Feb 26, 2013, 08:40 PM

Is there a lawyer in the house? QDRO [View all]

issues; promised one amount, now delivering half of that. Ex retired early; that's the reasoning.
So what is the point of a QDRO? I'm a tad peeved.

I thought all the trouble I went to get a QDRO would help me avoid this crap. So a deal isn't any longer a deal via the courts? And how legal is it for his former company to determine this price?

QDRO=Qualified Domestic Relations Order

He retired 5 years early after about 24 years of work for this company.

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Is there a lawyer in the house? QDRO [View all]	babylonsister	Feb 26	OP
there is an unfortunate mix of state and federal law, ergo,	ChairmanAgnostic	Feb 26	#1
My former atty lives in another state (I moved), and this was	babylonsister	Feb 26	#4
DO contact the attorney,	elleng	Feb 26	#8
Writing to the judge is a waste of time	treestar	Feb 26	#25
they will read them, but toss them away.	ChairmanAgnostic	Feb 27	#43
The idea of writing to a judge	treestar	Feb 27	#49
Sorry, b'sis, I'm not familiar with QDRO.	elleng	Feb 26	#2
Thanks, my friend! Need to talk to	babylonsister	Feb 26	#6
Yup.	elleng	Feb 26	#7
I never heard of this. Is it for a divorce settlement? Just wondering.	southernyankeebelle	Feb 26	#3
Yes-retirement benefits. nt	babylonsister	Feb 26	#5
I have a friend whose husband was about 17 yrs older than his wife. She was a good	southernyankeebelle	Feb 26	#9
The law in effect for many years requires the wife to sign off	marybourg	Feb 27	#54
He has been dead about 5 yrs now. She is retired herself now and is as happy as a	southernyankeebelle	Feb 27	#55
"All's well that end's well"	marybourg	Feb 27	#56
Date of divorce may predetermine	leftstreet	Feb 26	#10
Really?	babylonsister	Feb 26	#12
That sucks	leftstreet	Feb 26	#13
It sounds like you're talking about a pension.	M0rpheus	Feb 26	#11
Thanks-I was afraid of that.	babylonsister	Feb 26	#14
I'm sorry to be the downer here. :(	M0rpheus	Feb 26	#18
I hear you.	babylonsister	Feb 26	#19
Essentially...	M0rpheus	Feb 26	#27
Very importantl to learn how 'proportionate share' is determined,	elleng	Feb 26	#28
Warning. I know too late. But accepting what the spouse says in a divorce? Sorry	LiberalFighter	Feb 27	#39
I have seen this kind of thing in divorces where defined benefit pensions are being split	ProgressiveProfessor	Feb 26	#15
I was supposed to get a percentage	babylonsister	Feb 26	#16
That is the Shared Benefit approach which is the most common	ProgressiveProfessor	Feb 26	#20
Back in the day	OldHippieChick	Feb 26	#17
The QDRO	TomClash	Feb 26	#21
The same amt is	babylonsister	Feb 26	#24
Might I ask who the administrator is?	M0rpheus	Feb 26	#29
It's a	babylonsister	Feb 27	#33
I was thinking	TomClash	Feb 27	#32
Probably in the QDRO	treestar	Feb 26	#22
My lawyer insisted on it; she was a divorce atty.	babylonsister	Feb 26	#23
Sounds like you need to know	treestar	Feb 26	#26
I agree with treestar and another poster upthread..	llmart	Feb 26	#30
Ah.	babylonsister	Feb 27	#34
Sounds like the "Silver Bird" HR group	BlueCollar	Feb 27	#36
The possible bright side	treestar	Feb 27	#38
Nope. I was told I HAVE to take the lower amount, and	babylonsister	Feb 27	#48
How will it add up?	treestar	Feb 27	#50
I'm now	babylonsister	Feb 27	#51
So wouldn't babylonsister collect on the severance pay and lump sum too	LiberalFighter	Feb 27	#41
Was he offered an early retirement?	LiberalFighter	Feb 27	#40
He was eligible to retire b/c he had	babylonsister	Feb 27	#47
QDRO - changes to pensions - watch out!	OutNow	Feb 27	#31
I had a QDRO issue, too.	Blue_In_AK	Feb 27	#35
PM sent...n/t	BlueCollar	Feb 27	#37
Thanks so much! Wading through that.	babylonsister	Feb 27	#45
Does the QDRO specify an amount? Or a percentage? Also, did he get a payout	msanthrope	Feb 27	#42
Yes. QDRO and divorce decree have	babylonsister	Feb 27	#44
Is the monthly benefit less than than amount? on edit---	msanthrope	Feb 27	#46
so you're getting some pension for work your husband did?	Skittles	Feb 27	#52
Wow. You just discounted	babylonsister	Feb 27	#57
so sorry about your discount	Skittles	Feb 27	#59
Think of it this way: How much would both of you together get if you were still married,	Xipe Totec	Feb 27	#53
If it's no different,	babylonsister	Feb 27	#58