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Kath1

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72. Very well-said.

Sat Feb 16, 2013, 09:05 AM

Feb 2013

My daughter dated a conservative guy for a while. He was nice enough, funny and smart. I liked him, too. Then she had a dreadful experience at a family gathering at his parents' home where she was berated by one and all for being an Obama supporter and he did nothing to speak up for her. She left there feeling humiliated and betrayed. As she told me later, she should have known. Lesson learned.

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Anyone have advice for someone dating a conservative? [View all] OceanEcosystem Feb 2013 OP

Don't talk politics. A HERETIC I AM Feb 2013 #1

Use lots of lube NightWatcher Feb 2013 #2

dont talk politics. theres more important parts of a relationship loli phabay Feb 2013 #3

Don't discuss issues you KNOW you disagree about. elleng Feb 2013 #4

Yes, jump out and run in the opposite direction as you can madokie Feb 2013 #5

Yes. EastKYLiberal Feb 2013 #6

Well, that's the only advice I have. Cleita Feb 2013 #7

It would be extra difficult if both parties are interested in politics. gateley Feb 2013 #102

Then they are apolitical and don't have any really informed views Cleita Feb 2013 #115

I told a story about the owner of the company where I work gateley Feb 2013 #124

Yes, where are those guys. Sure they are married. The good ones usually are. Cleita Feb 2013 #125

Don't talk politics Blue_In_AK Feb 2013 #8

I have no idea; I couldn't do it. The Velveteen Ocelot Feb 2013 #9

My ex gf was a tea partier Puzzledtraveller Feb 2013 #10

Try to find areas of agreement duhneece Feb 2013 #11

Been there, done that. He's out of the picture now, and I am much happier. kestrel91316 Feb 2013 #12

It can work...if, Wait Wut Feb 2013 #13

don't talk politics, and yes it can work BainsBane Feb 2013 #14

I guess it's easy to do when the issues don't affect your life. RandiFan1290 Feb 2013 #15

I couldn't do it, either. Blue_In_AK Feb 2013 #18

had my fill of em living in SC...I am soooooo over dating Conservatives! VanillaRhapsody Feb 2013 #70

That's the key right there.. "when the issues don't affect your life". Cha Feb 2013 #64

Very well-said. Kath1 Feb 2013 #72

Wow, Kath! Shows how deep it goes. "lesson learned", Cha Feb 2013 #74

On a much happier note... Kath1 Feb 2013 #137

Drugs...lots and many types. Katashi_itto Feb 2013 #16

In my limited experience, they are not alarimer Feb 2013 #87

Yes we Liberals tend to be better in bed Katashi_itto Feb 2013 #89

I know you asked us not to say this, but I have to ask - yardwork Feb 2013 #17

Personality OceanEcosystem Feb 2013 #23

Perhaps he will grow into a more progressive political view daleo Feb 2013 #45

Some people were born into republican families and have difficulty becoming a democrat. bluestate10 Feb 2013 #95

please Skittles Feb 2013 #106

You have never met this person. OceanEcosystem Feb 2013 #112

I never met Saddam Hussein or Marge Schott either Skittles Feb 2013 #130

Yep. Any good qualities you can find in a conservative can be found it a liberal, Dark n Stormy Knight Feb 2013 #80

Set ground rules OldHippieChick Feb 2013 #19

Don't talk to them! lol Sissyk Feb 2013 #20

Re your iPad. Turn off auto-correct: link here. emulatorloo Feb 2013 #24

Thank You So Much!!! Sissyk Feb 2013 #28

Lol! emulatorloo Feb 2013 #50

It's OK, I had a heart so I donated it for you. SharonAnn Feb 2013 #92

Thank You! Sissyk Feb 2013 #135

No - sorry, can't help; I couldn't do it myself. n/t NRaleighLiberal Feb 2013 #21

It's the same advice I'd give to anyone who works with, customerserviceguy Feb 2013 #22

Have fun, but don't get too serious. Conservatives are not marriage material. emulatorloo Feb 2013 #25

Learn to bite your tongue then, or run....very fast. mother earth Feb 2013 #26

Expect to pay for everything. MichiganVote Feb 2013 #27

Good one! n/t GP6971 Feb 2013 #133

Sure, just become conservative yourself. MotherPetrie Feb 2013 #29

I have to agree with MotherPetrie... Tikki Feb 2013 #122

Married to one for 38 years HockeyMom Feb 2013 #30

Just live in political hell and forget it. Lint Head Feb 2013 #31

calif married to a texan. dem married to repug for 18 yrs and seabeyond Feb 2013 #32

Yeah, don't. aptal Feb 2013 #33

I know you don't want to hear this, but man4allcats Feb 2013 #34

+1000 smirkymonkey Feb 2013 #66

Interesting that you would join this site nobodyspecial Feb 2013 #35

Talk about politics. Now. Zoeisright Feb 2013 #36

Don't Mira Feb 2013 #37

follow your heart but don't vote with theirs. TeamPooka Feb 2013 #38

Last election cycle: "I could vote for Huckabee" she said on a 1st dinner date... TeamPooka Feb 2013 #39

Reconsider nt NoGOPZone Feb 2013 #40

Couldn't do it but if you find a way that works more power to you. kiranon Feb 2013 #41

Match.com? HereSince1628 Feb 2013 #42

Just posted an article about that subject in the men's group before I saw this ProudToBeBlueInRhody Feb 2013 #43

Run DUgosh Feb 2013 #44

Break up. morningfog Feb 2013 #46

Have lots of really hot sex. tblue Feb 2013 #47

My wife was married to 2 conservatives before she met me Nevernose Feb 2013 #48

I think it depends on a little on what kind of conservative they are and how passionate. wickerwoman Feb 2013 #49

+1000 erinlough Feb 2013 #75

Compartmentalize jsr Feb 2013 #51

Don't do it in the first place. MADem Feb 2013 #52

OceanE, this is it in a nutshell. Read MADem's post carefully and... agracie Feb 2013 #105

Dating a conservative is like dating someone with herpies Drew Richards Feb 2013 #53

Yes. lonestarnot Feb 2013 #54

Don't discuss politics or current events. City Lights Feb 2013 #55

welcome to DU--my advice is to ask yourself, "what in the HELL are you thinking, and with what niyad Feb 2013 #56

Good luck with that. Coyotl Feb 2013 #57

Do you like each other? Do you have fun together? Do you have some common vision struggle4progress Feb 2013 #58

Love by party lines is no Love at all Puzzledtraveller Feb 2013 #114

Have you really made the decision that its ok for you to be with someone who doesnt care about stevenleser Feb 2013 #59

I have similar thoughts. I can see the relationship if the person was born into a republican bluestate10 Feb 2013 #97

The person is conservative. Apophis Feb 2013 #60

+1 darkangel218 Feb 2013 #76

Dont turn it into world war 3 davidn3600 Feb 2013 #61

conservative or right winger? sigmasix Feb 2013 #62

It's your funeral. n/t Jack Sprat Feb 2013 #63

Question - Just how tolerant and accepting of differing views is this person? Kath1 Feb 2013 #65

Drop your partisanship Prism Feb 2013 #67

Initiate discussions, bring up global warming, social security, marriage equality... countryjake Feb 2013 #68

Find out how Carville and Matalin manage No Vested Interest Feb 2013 #69

That's what I was going to suggest. beveeheart Feb 2013 #82

Use small words n/t Spirochete Feb 2013 #71

Very SMALL words!!! n/t GP6971 Feb 2013 #134

Don't get hung up on labels. Nine Feb 2013 #73

I honestly don't think I could do it. Jackpine Radical Feb 2013 #77

My mother was a liberal and my father a republican abelenkpe Feb 2013 #78

Constantly push your liberal ideas on her until she converts to liberalism. nt SDjack Feb 2013 #79

If you didn't want to hear: ''break up with them'' then why post? YOHABLO Feb 2013 #81

and you will post these results - where? Skittles Feb 2013 #83

don't talk, handmade34 Feb 2013 #84

No MFM008 Feb 2013 #85

Depends on the type of conservative treestar Feb 2013 #86

DTMF you will have a very difficult time raising children with this person. Unless he is socially Pisces Feb 2013 #88

I'd never offer advice like "break up" DFW Feb 2013 #90

It's quite easy Steepler0t Feb 2013 #91

Why would you even consider dating a conservative? SheilaT Feb 2013 #93

Don't walk- run away! Gemini Cat Feb 2013 #94

Education, insist they go back to school pediatricmedic Feb 2013 #96

Some well educated people are conservatives per today's standard for what a conservative bluestate10 Feb 2013 #99

This message was self-deleted by its author OceanEcosystem Feb 2013 #118

lobotomy? Demonaut Feb 2013 #98

Here is what I remind myself galileoreloaded Feb 2013 #100

No point in dating him unless you would consider marrying him. Don't consider ... agracie Feb 2013 #101

Are you joking? JDPriestly Feb 2013 #103

i couldn't do it upi402 Feb 2013 #104

If you decide to date this person, in a few months you can answer your own question. Be sure... agracie Feb 2013 #107

FB friend them and be ready to send them links to Snopes.com. pnwmom Feb 2013 #108

Well, you've already rejected my advice. Deep13 Feb 2013 #109

It depends on whether and how their attitudes pervade their life LeftishBrit Feb 2013 #110

Well said. My bfriend hates obama and so we don't discuss politics. However, lindysalsagal Feb 2013 #119

So many reasons to avoid a Conservative. Notafraidtoo Feb 2013 #111

Social conservative or fiscal conservative or both? TheManInTheMac Feb 2013 #113

Sex is not worth it. n/t L0oniX Feb 2013 #116

Ask yourself if they make your life better Angry Dragon Feb 2013 #117

Don't. LWolf Feb 2013 #120

One of the biggest mistakes I've made... bobclark86 Feb 2013 #121

You may not want to hear it but the truth hurts. William769 Feb 2013 #123

I suppose it depends on what you mean by conservative Marrah_G Feb 2013 #126

I would never do what you are doing. Dawson Leery Feb 2013 #127

I would not date one. riverbendviewgal Feb 2013 #128

I guess it depends on how conservative... Drunken Irishman Feb 2013 #129

If you are female, never give your cookies to someone who won't defend the bakery Love Bug Feb 2013 #131

^^this^^ Freddie Feb 2013 #132

I could not possibly do it. ThomThom Feb 2013 #136

Seek professional help in dealing with your self-esteem issues thetruthhurtsforsome Feb 2013 #138