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Response to DonRedwood (Original post)

Fri Feb 8, 2013, 06:45 PM

17. Not sure if I'm qualified to respond -

- as, thankfully, I've never lost a child and pray to God I never do. I think I'd go insane with the grief.

I have, however, lost close friends. Young friends. One to cancer. One to AIDS. I was there at the very end for both and neither was a pretty death. Both left big holes in my heart. I've also lost my best friend ever - my father. But, we're expected to lose our parents. Not so much with friends, especially when young. I lost my one friend to cancer four months before I lost my father. 09/11 was somewhere in the middle of their deaths. That year sucked.

Let me say this: If it were me, I'd want the pictures. It's been a bunch of years since your friend died and it's been a bunch of years since my friends died. In the beginning, it was hard to look at pictures, it was hard to think of them, it was hard to even be with other mutual friends as talk would always come around to "Remember when we all went . . . " or "Jim would have loved this . . . ". Somehow, conversation always ended up about them before the night - and the wine - was done. It hurt then but I think it was actually therapeutic.

But there are now a lot of years between the pain and I find I smile when I see pictures of them. Especially pictures when they were healthy and we were doing stuff together. I smiled when I put ornaments on my Christmas tree that the one friend gave me. And I'll smile when spring comes as the other friend gave me tons and tons of plants that are still here. I always think of him when I'm dividing them.

I like thinking of them. They're not forgotten, they're still here with me. And they still make me smile.

I'd want the pictures. But, hey, maybe that's just me.

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