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In reply to the discussion: Florida father with assault weapon forces wife to watch as he kills two sons [View all]KitSileya
(4,035 posts)I'm just fed up of the typical response to these types of event. Making the perpetrator into a monster, or excusing him by claiming insanity, is a negating of the very real problem this culture (this patriarchal culture) has of men looking at women and children as property. As feminists have been saying for decades, patriarchy hurt men as well as women, and it often corrupts those with underlying issues, as well as denying them adequate coping mechanisms. The mindset of "Men aren't supposed to cry. Men aren't supposed to talk about their feelings. Women cry. Women talk about their feelings. Therefore women are weaker, and worth less than men" is still alive and well and can be found in most cultures. There's a reason why the third leading cause of death for pregnant women is murder by their significant others.
And I know that some might read what I just wrote and say that I'm claiming that the cause is culture, not the men themselves, but we don't excuse people from committing heinous crimes because their culture dictates it (honor killings or FMG) or because they were ordered to (Nuremberg defense.) Men need to change their culture - we feminists can't do everything ourselves. I can't see that any liberal man would want to leave things the way they are right now.