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DebJ

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73. It took 2 years for my Mom to get SSDI after she was crushed in an auto accident
Tue Jan 29, 2013, 11:26 AM
Jan 2013

at the age of 60. The accident was in 1986; she got her first SSDI check in 1988.

She was forced into a wheelchair for the rest of her life when some drunk (in his 30s but driving his Dad's
car I am guessing because he couldn't get his OWN car insurance; so many are repeat offenders)
did a 180 degree turn on 355 in Montgomery County, Maryland, and drove at 55mph right under
her truck, through the drive shaft.

Of course the driver and his passenger were fine...they were airlifted to Baltimore shock trauma and
released one hour later. Their car was littered with beer cans. No tests for alcohol levels were done.

My mother, just before her 60th birthday, had to be cut out of her vehicle. Her left eye socket was
crushed (and she later suffered cancer in that eye). Her jaw was crushed and had to be rebuilt.
The dashboard smashed into her body and her legs. A two inch piece of bone just disappeared from
one leg; likely pulverized to dust from the impact. Every major bone in her body had a compound
fracture. She had majory surgery every week for 12 weeks,
and her blood was completely transfused 11 times, leaving her now with severe immune issues and
healing of any injury takes forever (a bee sting took 2 years to heal). She was in a coma for a long time.
We all were visting her daily for many weeks, and even though she spoke to us, she doesn't remember the
visits.

The passenger in the other car sued my MOTHER, and just a few weeks after leaving shock trauma where
she had been for months, she had to be wheeled into the courtroom and face the accuser....case was tossed
out, but the stress on my very ill mother was enormous.

Suffering from compulsive responsibility, my mother actually attempted to return to her clerical job for
a few weeks, but it was way too much.

She has suffered repeatedly for the last almost 30 years because of the ramifications of this accident.
Among the suffering, my Dad was forced to retire early, cutting out hundreds of dollars a month of
retirement benefits he WOULD have had, so a loss of income for the rest of their lives...so far almost
30 years....for every single month for forever, hundreds of dollars of lost income.

IT TOOK SOCIAL SECURITY TWO YEARS TO APPROVE HER DISABILITY.
Even though on top of the injuries, she already suffers from some genetic disorders, causing
heart and bone problems (like a collapsing spine).





A friend of mine is an SSDI lawyer Recursion Jan 2013 #1
This is just complete bullshit Glitterati Jan 2013 #6
That's a lot of hostility for agreeing with me Recursion Jan 2013 #8
Not agreeing with you for one second! Glitterati Jan 2013 #9
Breathe Recursion Jan 2013 #12
Again, calling bullshit on you Glitterati Jan 2013 #15
Then why do people die waiting for it? (nt) Recursion Jan 2013 #19
Ummmmm, because they're SICK? Glitterati Jan 2013 #21
Look, so far I've agreed with everything you said Recursion Jan 2013 #27
Yeah, I bet you are Glitterati Jan 2013 #31
I think your anger is misdirected rbixby Jan 2013 #88
OK Glitterati Jan 2013 #90
+1 "Your (Glitteri) anger is misdirected" kickysnana Jan 2013 #105
Awwww, thank you Glitterati Jan 2013 #106
+2 "Your (Glitteri) anger is misdirected" Hekate Jan 2013 #116
More bullshit Glitterati Jan 2013 #14
Can you slow down and read what I'm saying? Recursion Jan 2013 #17
Because that's NOT what I'm saying Glitterati Jan 2013 #20
Two posts up you're saying "people die waiting for SS" Recursion Jan 2013 #24
Oh, I see Glitterati Jan 2013 #29
As I said in that first post you attacked without reading, disability scammers are mythical Recursion Jan 2013 #40
Trust me, honey, I read every word Glitterati Jan 2013 #45
Well, if I had known my friend back then I would have asked her Recursion Jan 2013 #49
It took me a two years to be approved for disability for MS Mojorabbit Jan 2013 #109
"Trust me", you are being exceptionally hostile for no reason Hekate Jan 2013 #118
I did take a break Glitterati Jan 2013 #126
That is not what you wrote! You wrote one can "find"--as in, FAKE--by "wearing WinkyDink Jan 2013 #119
This message was self-deleted by its author Glitterati Jan 2013 #125
Actually, I believe that SS dotymed Jan 2013 #79
As was explained to us Glitterati Jan 2013 #81
They did this to me too. Mojorabbit Jan 2013 #110
Your lawyer appears to be incredibly calloused to the needs of those who can no longer work.... OldDem2012 Jan 2013 #39
Which part of "this rarely happens" set you off, I wonder? Recursion Jan 2013 #42
You wrote your post....you live with it. nt. OldDem2012 Jan 2013 #43
You wrote your post....you live with it. AlbertCat Jan 2013 #51
Thanks for your insight. Your concern is duly noted and filed. nt. OldDem2012 Jan 2013 #53
Good. AlbertCat Jan 2013 #54
Ah, yes...the old "alleviate hysteria" flame.... OldDem2012 Jan 2013 #94
It's really funny Glitterati Jan 2013 #95
called out the army for defense. AlbertCat Jan 2013 #100
ROFL, yeah OK Glitterati Jan 2013 #101
Who to support? Hmmmm..... AlbertCat Jan 2013 #98
Thank you! Gidney N Cloyd Jan 2013 #55
In retrospect, my post was badly written Recursion Jan 2013 #59
In retrospect, my post was badly written AlbertCat Jan 2013 #65
I understood your post. Kencorburn Jan 2013 #68
Hell, it's no wonder we can't change the world. dotymed Jan 2013 #87
Friends and lawyers are non sequitur in my opinion having dealt with lawyers most of my plethoro Jan 2013 #56
Again, please get your facts straight Glitterati Jan 2013 #64
no, thats not what plethoro said. Kencorburn Jan 2013 #74
Yet again, generalizations that are not true Glitterati Jan 2013 #77
........ Kencorburn Jan 2013 #84
That proves nothing Glitterati Jan 2013 #86
I have no point, Kencorburn Jan 2013 #91
But it doesn't expedite the process Glitterati Jan 2013 #93
I didn't say that they actually expedite Kencorburn Jan 2013 #96
Sadly Glitterati Jan 2013 #97
The funny part is, Kencorburn Jan 2013 #102
Aha! Someone gave you a case file, huh? Glitterati Jan 2013 #104
you don't have to, Kencorburn Jan 2013 #108
I am not suggesting anything. I am telling you point-blank that obtaining plethoro Jan 2013 #76
Again, generalizations that are not true Glitterati Jan 2013 #78
Sorry if some of us are skeptical. duffyduff Jan 2013 #114
Why do you call "agreeing with me" "skeptical"? Recursion Jan 2013 #121
lack of reading comprehension, perhaps? there's like 3 people going off on you unhinged... dionysus Jan 2013 #124
I used to work for Social Security. randome Jan 2013 #2
The argument seems to be made that you can "game" the system if you have the right attorneys duffyduff Jan 2013 #115
Tell that to my friend who only gets $789 a month Arcanetrance Jan 2013 #3
disability takes a long time to be approved madrchsod Jan 2013 #4
Disability is NEVER approved the first time meow2u3 Jan 2013 #62
Never say never Glitterati Jan 2013 #67
I stand corrected. Disability is seldom approved the first time meow2u3 Jan 2013 #71
ROFL, red as you Glitterati Jan 2013 #75
According to Oklahoma tax law, Wednesdays Jan 2013 #89
Same here pipi_k Jan 2013 #72
This message was self-deleted by its author otohara Jan 2013 #122
Post removed Post removed Jan 2013 #5
Bullshit, bullshit, bullshit, bullshit Glitterati Jan 2013 #7
BULLSHIT????????? sorefeet Jan 2013 #16
Yes, BULLSHIT Glitterati Jan 2013 #18
3 months? DUgosh Jan 2013 #47
Post removed Post removed Jan 2013 #10
you're not very believable. nt xchrom Jan 2013 #13
Post removed Post removed Jan 2013 #22
Yeah, you do that Glitterati Jan 2013 #28
You're Frank Gallagher, aren't you? Z_I_Peevey Jan 2013 #46
It is way too easy if you know what you are doing and have patience. Soundman Jan 2013 #66
It is NOT easy. Under any circumstance Glitterati Jan 2013 #70
You are partially right. Kencorburn Jan 2013 #80
Well..........unless.... Glitterati Jan 2013 #82
And it has to be recent, too. Yours truly can't qualify for SSDI because of it. duffyduff Jan 2013 #117
What I am saying is a fact. Soundman Jan 2013 #83
There wasn't a single provable fact in your post Glitterati Jan 2013 #85
Well I suppose I could name names. Soundman Jan 2013 #92
Well aren't you special.. easttexaslefty Jan 2013 #127
He's really working hard on that "Welfare Queen" story isn't he? Glitterati Jan 2013 #23
y'know, this one time, I saw a black lady get out of a Cadillac and buy junk food with food stamps! KG Jan 2013 #25
i know a guy - who knew this other guy - who knew this guy xchrom Jan 2013 #32
Uh uh.......you forgot Glitterati Jan 2013 #33
And in another thread... MindPilot Jan 2013 #35
And liquor and a birthday cake, too Hekate Jan 2013 #120
Have you considered moving? You seem to have somehow located in a nest of thieves and vipers Fumesucker Jan 2013 #26
You just happen to know all these people scamming SSDI MindPilot Jan 2013 #30
Explain why its so quick and easy for scammers and why it takes so long and is so difficult ..... marble falls Jan 2013 #34
Lol you sure do know a lot of scammers! Union Scribe Jan 2013 #37
This has reached nightmarish proportions in the UK LeftishBrit Jan 2013 #11
I'm thinking for the most part, the only people who have a chance 2pooped2pop Jan 2013 #36
Even your story liberalmike27 Jan 2013 #57
I said I didn't know if he was faking or not 2pooped2pop Jan 2013 #60
"The economy is struggling due to neoconservative policies . . . gollygee Jan 2013 #38
Let's separate the issues, please Glitterati Jan 2013 #41
Ah, could be gollygee Jan 2013 #48
Yeah, I think so Glitterati Jan 2013 #50
There has to be an "other" loyalsister Jan 2013 #44
This is a wonderful catch littlemissmartypants Jan 2013 #52
My local AM radio morning knuckleheads mentioned this yesterday morning. sadbear Jan 2013 #58
Yes, it's the new meme Glitterati Jan 2013 #61
The equivalent started two and a half years ago in the UK LeftishBrit Jan 2013 #99
Actually, I think it's more Glitterati Jan 2013 #103
Isn't am morning radio libodem Jan 2013 #63
Mine aren't that bad, but they do tend to pander to the area's lowest common denominator. sadbear Jan 2013 #69
I used to listen to Coast to Coast at night libodem Jan 2013 #113
It took 2 years for my Mom to get SSDI after she was crushed in an auto accident DebJ Jan 2013 #73
As usual, California was a bit ahead of its time KamaAina Jan 2013 #107
If republicans hadn't cut jobs that use to B Calm Jan 2013 #111
One of my best friends is a Disability King. GeorgeGist Jan 2013 #112
Why Do You Call Him otohara Jan 2013 #123
It's Good To Be King otohara Jan 2013 #130
Thankfully, my son's SSDI was relatively easy to get. It took a few months for the paperwork Common Sense Party Jan 2013 #128
I had a friend with severe physical and mental disabities. s-cubed Jan 2013 #129
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