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southernyankeebelle

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61. Has your son been violent or aggressive? Remind him of Adam Lanza's mother and what

Reply to Are_grits_groceries (Original post)

Sat Jan 19, 2013, 02:37 PM

Jan 2013

she failed to do. If he has this need to have a gun just make sure it is locked up and hide it from your son. By the way my husband was in the military 22 yrs and retired and he only likes soccer. He likes cooking shows and the history channel. He also has more in common with women then guys. There are allot of the out there. He said not all men have this need to be Mr Macho. He said he knows he is a man. He also said if guys have a problem with that is there problem not his. He is right. You'll have a long marriage because he understands you. I've been married for 34 yrs.

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A father wants a gun even though his son is on psych meds. Any advice? [View all] Are_grits_groceries Jan 2013 OP

As long as the weapon is kept securely locked up, it wouldn't be a problem slackmaster Jan 2013 #1

I agree Travis_0004 Jan 2013 #2

Are you kidding me? easttexaslefty Jan 2013 #96

He's a kid who has shown Are_grits_groceries Jan 2013 #3

I certainly agree that there are potential pitfalls, however... slackmaster Jan 2013 #4

You need to stop talking easttexaslefty Jan 2013 #97

You have no idea what I know and what I don't know slackmaster Jan 2013 #103

Its pretty damn obvious you DON'T easttexaslefty Jan 2013 #109

honoring a request to be civil is not hard, and makes this board work better for everyone. Voice for Peace Jan 2013 #112

I'm betting your kid is no psycho killer. backscatter712 Jan 2013 #16

Yeah. You could do all that. tblue Jan 2013 #27

Yes, that would be preferable. n/t backscatter712 Jan 2013 #29

Thank you. Denninmi Jan 2013 #6

Adam's mom thought it would be good for her son as well elfin Jan 2013 #10

I don't think you can extrapolate from one situation to another. Denninmi Jan 2013 #32

Oh come on, people. easttexaslefty Jan 2013 #98

Nope - I disagree. GoneOffShore Jan 2013 #7

How will he figgure out how to get into the safe? Travis_0004 Jan 2013 #11

Breaking into a safe or a locked box just takes the application of time & effort. baldguy Jan 2013 #22

Tons of "how to" material available on the net Kelvin Mace Jan 2013 #63

If you read the article you'll see that the father has already said: GoneOffShore Jan 2013 #75

Kids are smart. Damned smart. tblue Jan 2013 #30

Get two safes: one for the gun, another for the ammunition. Keep them in widely-separated places... JHB Jan 2013 #15

Get one for the dad too. tblue Jan 2013 #31

absolutely. barbtries Jan 2013 #95

The gun was ostensibly for self protection Fumesucker Jan 2013 #113

There are more details about his condition at the link. This boy is also extremely bright pnwmom Jan 2013 #23

It's also possible, perhaps likely, that the boy has no inclination to violence slackmaster Jan 2013 #25

That's my concern about how this story's framed. backscatter712 Jan 2013 #39

Did you read about him trying to jump out of the car? Are_grits_groceries Jan 2013 #44

He's an impulsive, hyperactive kid who's been bullied and has tried to jump from a moving car. pnwmom Jan 2013 #54

But he shouldn't be demonized either. backscatter712 Jan 2013 #57

Who's demonizing him? pnwmom Jan 2013 #87

Of course it doesn't. easttexaslefty Jan 2013 #99

Did you have access to guns when you had ADHD, which involves pnwmom Jan 2013 #53

In any house with kids, a gun stored insecurely is too dangerous Yo_Mama Jan 2013 #59

Are you saying people that have... Matt_R Jan 2013 #88

No, I am saying that unsecured guns in households with kids Yo_Mama Jan 2013 #101

Depends on how you define "kid." Pete Cortez Jan 2013 #106

But they can pose a danger to themselves Kelvin Mace Jan 2013 #62

"Securely locked up, it wouldn't be a problem".... No Vested Interest Jan 2013 #68

Gotta wonder if Nancy Lanza... 99Forever Jan 2013 #93

I suspect that Nancy Lanza didn't do a very good job of securing her firearms slackmaster Jan 2013 #104

Please feel free to ask her about it. 99Forever Jan 2013 #107

Buy a gun safe. Use it. Buzz Clik Jan 2013 #5

This boy might be bright enough to defeat the lock pnwmom Jan 2013 #55

Basically, you're saying that obtaining a gun is dead wrong. Buzz Clik Jan 2013 #58

For a parent of the boy described in the OP, part of being responsible pnwmom Jan 2013 #64

I guess so. Buzz Clik Jan 2013 #72

I have a relative, too, who has made me think about this situation. pnwmom Jan 2013 #86

LOL Zoeisright Jan 2013 #79

LOL! Buzz Clik Jan 2013 #80

Oh yes they can. N\t easttexaslefty Jan 2013 #100

Oh, yeah? n/t Buzz Clik Jan 2013 #102

Yeah. easttexaslefty Jan 2013 #110

That is why you get a safe, not a lock box. ManiacJoe Jan 2013 #66

Tell him to take up Tennis instead rightsideout Jan 2013 #8

There are a bunch of things kept in a HappyMe Jan 2013 #9

I take psych meds. Satisfied. Are_grits_groceries Jan 2013 #38

For one thing, the boy's parents HappyMe Jan 2013 #42

It isn't easy to diagnose some conditions. Are_grits_groceries Jan 2013 #48

The article sounded a bit flimsy HappyMe Jan 2013 #50

This is a man who has odd priorities. rug Jan 2013 #12

Agree completely! n/t etherealtruth Jan 2013 #14

I totally agree laundry_queen Jan 2013 #17

That is a sensible, compassionate, insightful reply. Fire Walk With Me Jan 2013 #18

The child is obviously a threat to society and must be regulated by the state. Fire Walk With Me Jan 2013 #13

Lunatics are only a problem under CERTAIN phases of the moon, know your almanac! HereSince1628 Jan 2013 #28

It is time to stare those who grab power through fear-mongering directly in the eye Fire Walk With Me Jan 2013 #40

I am not saying that. Are_grits_groceries Jan 2013 #51

This anectdote is of no general interest if it isn't generalizing something HereSince1628 Jan 2013 #56

How so? nt Are_grits_groceries Jan 2013 #70

F.A.I.L., patently so. HereSince1628 Jan 2013 #73

I asked you a specific question. Are_grits_groceries Jan 2013 #74

You're pulling my leg all the way to my shoulder, right? Look at the title of the article HereSince1628 Jan 2013 #76

Read the article and Are_grits_groceries Jan 2013 #84

This is how society moves toward consensus that is stigmatizing HereSince1628 Jan 2013 #85

I did not post Are_grits_groceries Jan 2013 #91

No one EVER thinks what they are doing adds to the problem HereSince1628 Jan 2013 #92

Of course, a perfect solution to the problem of the mentally ill. Denninmi Jan 2013 #34

+10000 diphthong Jan 2013 #36

When a women in my family say "No guns in my house!" there will be no guns in the house. hunter Jan 2013 #19

I hope the couples worked that one out before they were married slackmaster Jan 2013 #20

If your husband insists on bringing a gun into your home, avebury Jan 2013 #21

Does he NEED it or does he merely WANT it? Generic Brad Jan 2013 #24

I agree. Lars39 Jan 2013 #37

Keep it locked unless it is under your direct control. geckosfeet Jan 2013 #26

Set fire to his house. It's the only way to be sure. randome Jan 2013 #33

The guy couldn't even hide a gun permit application Lars39 Jan 2013 #35

Why should he hide the permit from his wife? ManiacJoe Jan 2013 #65

More pertinent question: why did he *not discuss* wanting to buy a gun with his wife? Lars39 Jan 2013 #69

I think the mom who wrote the article said it best when she said... DogPawsBiscuitsNGrav Jan 2013 #41

That reads like fiction to me, and for the kid's sake I hope it is petronius Jan 2013 #43

The last thing they need in the house is a gun. We had a friend keep our hunting guns when our appleannie1 Jan 2013 #45

Depression runs in my family. As a middle schooler, my son had an episode. s-cubed Jan 2013 #46

this isn't about guns Enrique Jan 2013 #47

People assume a much stronger correlation between mental illness and gun violence than justified. Bonn1997 Jan 2013 #49

people have to assume because there is no reasearch allowed farminator3000 Jan 2013 #82

That's bad policy but you still have to assume the null hypothesis in the absence of research Bonn1997 Jan 2013 #83

there's some good stuff here farminator3000 Jan 2013 #89

When it comes to mass shooters SUICIDAL DEPRESSION IS A CORRELATION. KittyWampus Jan 2013 #111

Safe with a biometric lock JohnnyBoots Jan 2013 #52

that would be even better with this farminator3000 Jan 2013 #71

I am not a gun owner or lover but...... peace13 Jan 2013 #60

You expressed my point of view LeftInTX Jan 2013 #115

Has your son been violent or aggressive? Remind him of Adam Lanza's mother and what southernyankeebelle Jan 2013 #61

she should keep arguing politely- she'll win eventually.unless they really are in danger,but i doubt farminator3000 Jan 2013 #67

Update your will. Zoeisright Jan 2013 #77

The wife doesn't want it in the house. That's enough. gulliver Jan 2013 #78

Making a decision about bringing a gun into the Smilo Jan 2013 #81

My advice: Report the father to a mental health professional dickthegrouch Jan 2013 #90

Glad you don't believe it. Pete Cortez Jan 2013 #108

It's the idiot father who's going to destroy that family dickthegrouch Jan 2013 #116

i like her response. barbtries Jan 2013 #94

Before we even get to the issue of firearms... Pete Cortez Jan 2013 #105

Check the 'Medications' the child is taking... TheBlackAdder Jan 2013 #114