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110. we don't ever let our kinfolks get harmed

Wed Jan 16, 2013, 11:56 AM

Jan 2013

if anyone knows about it.

does it get tricky?

yup.

but fuck the consequences, blood is blood. and if you ain't kin, you ain't shit.

at least in my world.

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I was kicked out my aunts house today.. [View all] SummerSnow Jan 2013 OP

What did she say? Marrah_G Jan 2013 #1

she said he protects her. SummerSnow Jan 2013 #11

Unless there is some real abuse thre isnt much you can do Marrah_G Jan 2013 #31

he doesnt care SummerSnow Jan 2013 #85

Does the son not care leftynyc Jan 2013 #96

not his father. but her son is just into his own life hardly visits her. SummerSnow Jan 2013 #116

Protects here from who and what? leftynyc Jan 2013 #95

She never noticed that he was turning the ringer off.. SummerSnow Jan 2013 #100

Well, now she knows leftynyc Jan 2013 #103

my mom.my mom is deceased. no other siblings SummerSnow Jan 2013 #117

WTF brush Jan 2013 #87

Anger is the translation littlemissmartypants Jan 2013 #2

This is all very weird... Bay Boy Jan 2013 #3

when he is in the storage room he takes something out his pocket and stuffs it in the closet somewhe SummerSnow Jan 2013 #12

Trophy from a crime? gkhouston Jan 2013 #21

Reminds me of a Criminal Minds episode. Ilsa Jan 2013 #157

ok. NCTraveler Jan 2013 #72

Very sorry to hear this. Her 'anger' at you is surely frustration about her life. elleng Jan 2013 #4

She's in some trouble whether she knows it or not. Make sure she knows she can turn to you if Squinch Jan 2013 #5

+1000. NT riderinthestorm Jan 2013 #18

Sounds like child porn or online gambling MichiganVote Jan 2013 #6

they have no computer or any modern conviences.she wasnt like this before. SummerSnow Jan 2013 #14

Well he's hiding something that's for sure. MichiganVote Jan 2013 #20

she has no computer. he's got one some okieinpain Jan 2013 #26

he's a control freak...and having an affair? smackd Jan 2013 #7

i think its both as well. SummerSnow Jan 2013 #19

Ho-lee-shit...so many red flags...she needs to GET.OUT.NOW. Nt pkdu Jan 2013 #8

+1,000,000,000. Whatever she can take with her, she should leave with on gkhouston Jan 2013 #15

Keep an eye on her as best you can. amandabeech Jan 2013 #9

Her life is in danger, that's why Hekate Jan 2013 #10

Sounds like he's doing illegal shit as well. She needs to get out! NOW! nt riderinthestorm Jan 2013 #17

+1 burnsei sensei Jan 2013 #101

She spends three hours standing in the window every night waiting for him to return? Fumesucker Jan 2013 #13

i asked her why she does this since he has a key.. SummerSnow Jan 2013 #16

Is that it? Didn't you keep asking and explaining. You need to be more loquacious. Auntie Bush Jan 2013 #39

If she has to stand in the window she's not looking through his things in the house Matariki Jan 2013 #63

+1 KurtNYC Jan 2013 #106

How would he know if she isn't ann--- Jan 2013 #152

I'd call a women's shelter for advice on how to be supportive in this type of situation. aikoaiko Jan 2013 #22

I agree annm4peace Jan 2013 #52

Exactly!!! Help needs to come from some sources such as this, more RKP5637 Jan 2013 #129

I agree. Expert advice is needed. This is a dangerous situation. yardwork Jan 2013 #140

if it's your blood kin datasuspect Jan 2013 #23

you better have witnesses with you okieinpain Jan 2013 #29

where i come from we don't call the law datasuspect Jan 2013 #30

well this is going to requiem TCB for okieinpain Jan 2013 #34

Which will be pointless if the aunt isn't willing to go. gkhouston Jan 2013 #35

we don't ever let our kinfolks get harmed datasuspect Jan 2013 #110

Your aunt needs help, make sure to let her know she has your support Bjorn Against Jan 2013 #24

He is either having an affair or engaged in some really illegal shit. - n/t lapfog_1 Jan 2013 #25

Contact her sibling - your parent immediately and let them tell her to get out malaise Jan 2013 #27

that's some seriously creepy serial killer guy behavior tjwash Jan 2013 #28

That's what I was thinking. He's either a serial killer or a bigamist. n/t Ganja Ninja Jan 2013 #93

Follow him and see where he goes. rightsideout Jan 2013 #32

This Lex Jan 2013 #38

I'm worried that talking about this here could be dangerous for her. nt patrice Jan 2013 #33

You think this situation is unique? Sadly, no. n/t gkhouston Jan 2013 #37

And not much can be done, until something "happens"! :-(((( patrice Jan 2013 #41

What are the credit card purchases? FYI--she needs a divorce lawyer and a crisis shelter. nt msanthrope Jan 2013 #36

credit card purchases are kitchen appliances SummerSnow Jan 2013 #80

What state is the aunt in? edited to add, this is a very serious situation. msanthrope Jan 2013 #115

Battered Woman Syndrome Protalker Jan 2013 #40

Involuntary custody is a CRIME Generic Other Jan 2013 #42

Considering his control issues, I'm surprised he lets her see... WorseBeforeBetter Jan 2013 #43

Why would he leave that laying around for her to see? UnrepentantLiberal Jan 2013 #68

she told me the items on the credit card are not .. SummerSnow Jan 2013 #71

So, what have you decided to do? WorseBeforeBetter Jan 2013 #121

Can you help? Control-Z Jan 2013 #44

I never lived with her.when i got kicked out i was visiting. SummerSnow Jan 2013 #74

how old is your aunt? is she of an age where you can call an elder abuse hotline? niyad Jan 2013 #45

yes, HOW OLD is she? grasswire Jan 2013 #46

she is 76 her husband is 71. SummerSnow Jan 2013 #75

You can call your local elderly services Marrah_G Jan 2013 #83

I will call dept for the aging today. SummerSnow Jan 2013 #92

This sounds like an excellent approach to me. It will get you started talking to RKP5637 Jan 2013 #133

Brilliant question. This may be the solution! pnwmom Jan 2013 #143

Seriously, hire a PI to follow this guy....... Gato Moteado Jan 2013 #47

A PI doesn't cost as much as people think Lex Jan 2013 #109

Heck, I bet we could pass the hat here... Bay Boy Jan 2013 #169

does your family have resources to hire a private investigator? grasswire Jan 2013 #48

4 + 5 screams hard drugs to me Recursion Jan 2013 #49

I would do a stake out B Calm Jan 2013 #50

MYOB Lil Missy Jan 2013 #51

I agree...shes going ti defend him and make excuses like she always do SummerSnow Jan 2013 #81

I am sorry, but when one sees a situation like this, one does whatever one can. the attitude of niyad Jan 2013 #112

The woman in question is 76, and the law protects the elderly from abuse pnwmom Jan 2013 #144

Really? JustJoe Jan 2013 #53

Good point. UnrepentantLiberal Jan 2013 #69

This. nt. NCTraveler Jan 2013 #73

Reminiscent of the thread KatyMan Jan 2013 #77

This message was self-deleted by its author RKP5637 Jan 2013 #131

I never lived with them...He was letting me in cause SummerSnow Jan 2013 #84

Peace to you and yours. JustJoe Jan 2013 #142

Yep..... Gin Jan 2013 #90

um, that's just.... Catherine Vincent Jan 2013 #54

I probably would have already had evidence on this guy... Kalidurga Jan 2013 #55

I know I'd be spending my 3 hour window time 2pooped2pop Jan 2013 #94

Sounds like an Uncle and Aunt of mine 45 years ago. defacto7 Jan 2013 #56

She kicked you out? jberryhill Jan 2013 #57

i was visiting ..i tried to get her to come over to my house but SummerSnow Jan 2013 #76

If it's not too personal to say, leftynyc Jan 2013 #98

my mom and her were sisters.my mom is deceased. it was just the 2 of them SummerSnow Jan 2013 #118

Do you have brothers and/or sisters leftynyc Jan 2013 #132

i have 4 siblings... SummerSnow Jan 2013 #135

While my instinct leftynyc Jan 2013 #136

Cases like this, he has probably threatened a 3rd person also, son or dog okaawhatever Jan 2013 #58

Your aunt is likely not in a safe situation. Whether or not she knows it. PLease, silvershadow Jan 2013 #59

THAT is all super creepy. Matariki Jan 2013 #60

Serious emotional abuse going on ecstatic Jan 2013 #61

Buy her a cell phone that she can hide from him Matariki Jan 2013 #62

she says she has a cellphone ..when i asked ... SummerSnow Jan 2013 #82

Maybe you or your family could buy her a prepaid cell phone Matariki Jan 2013 #149

Suggest you tell everyone in the family about this behavior. mykpart Jan 2013 #64

Any fumes around the house? beevul Jan 2013 #65

no fumes thank goodness. SummerSnow Jan 2013 #79

this is so heartbreaking... that poor woman renate Jan 2013 #66

Disturbing. This guy sounds dangerous. I suggest... Demo_Chris Jan 2013 #67

I'm not buying this. UnrepentantLiberal Jan 2013 #70

buying? nothing to buy...i have seen this for a while SummerSnow Jan 2013 #78

OK, sorry. UnrepentantLiberal Jan 2013 #99

Nobody asked you to buy anything... Earth_First Jan 2013 #86

OK, but there's no real need to post that. MineralMan Jan 2013 #88

Sorry, no refunds jberryhill Jan 2013 #89

We all of us advertise our character in ways we often don't intend... LanternWaste Jan 2013 #154

Maybe he is looking for a mixed animal in the woods... AngryAmish Jan 2013 #91

This longtime DUer appreciated that flashback of brevity in this thread. alphafemale Jan 2013 #161

:) KatyMan Jan 2013 #168

Sounds like classic control freak behavior. 99Forever Jan 2013 #97

Get her a cheap $10 a month cell phone onlyadream Jan 2013 #102

doesn't seem like she would accept it though Marrah_G Jan 2013 #107

IF she could hide it onlyadream Jan 2013 #163

This is a poor place for this. A relative, a counselor, etc. nolabear Jan 2013 #104

I think this was the place for it Marrah_G Jan 2013 #108

No, actually, it isn't. Someone above had the smart idea of asking her pnwmom Jan 2013 #145

I don't know if you could afford it, but have avebury Jan 2013 #105

I was really concerned until you mentioned their ages, 76 and 71. denverbill Jan 2013 #111

if she were having memory issues, wouldn't you think that a proper course of action would be niyad Jan 2013 #113

He could be scared she'll be taken from him. ceile Jan 2013 #119

They are in their 70's and he obviously has some issues. denverbill Jan 2013 #122

It's not hard at all to believe that the man would all of a sudden start something like this. I Nay Jan 2013 #128

How many of those elderly folks became serial killers or drug dealers? denverbill Jan 2013 #134

Oh, not any that I saw. People in other posts who mention that are going overboard, IMHO. Nay Jan 2013 #139

I had a teaching colleague whose husband had retired from the same college Lydia Leftcoast Jan 2013 #155

she has no memory issues.his actions are SummerSnow Jan 2013 #120

Have you called Adult Protective Services yet? n/t leftstreet Jan 2013 #123

I like this idea. It needs to be investigated. nt Ilsa Jan 2013 #160

Well, I'm not saying there's no call for concern. denverbill Jan 2013 #125

It could also be that he has a type of dementia and has become paranoid in his old age. haele Jan 2013 #137

Hmm, I was kind of thinking along those lines, but hadn't made the connection to that sort of danger denverbill Jan 2013 #138

Thank you. In my posts above, I did forget to mention that these situations NEVER improve. Nay Jan 2013 #141

Good advice! nt pnwmom Jan 2013 #147

A 71 year old could be a control freak. pnwmom Jan 2013 #146

for those who dismissed this awful situation--it is pretty clear that none of you have ever been niyad Jan 2013 #114

thank you SummerSnow Jan 2013 #124

I'm actually glad to hear about their ages renate Jan 2013 #126

You might not be able to call the cops but you CAN call social services pnwmom Jan 2013 #148

Those are all thousand-watt red flags for abuse phantom power Jan 2013 #127

heroin? d_r Jan 2013 #130

I'm curious - are there some misconceptions going on in this thread? Matariki Jan 2013 #150

she is not locked in.she can leave out if she wanted to. SummerSnow Jan 2013 #164

My first thought was ann--- Jan 2013 #151

As others have said, he is an extreme control freak life long demo Jan 2013 #153

Sounds like your uncle is a serial killer. Drunken Irishman Jan 2013 #156

Can you get someone to follow him to see Ilsa Jan 2013 #158

Souds like domestic abuse to me.. and-justice-for-all Jan 2013 #159

I find that it is generally best to assume grownups are acting of their own agency. lumberjack_jeff Jan 2013 #162

What is a local DV ann--- Jan 2013 #166

DV=domestic violence lumberjack_jeff Jan 2013 #167

this sounds like some serious Bluebeard shit to me 0rganism Jan 2013 #165