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davsand

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32. Seems like we women need to bear this in mind as well.

Mon Jan 14, 2013, 02:22 PM

Jan 2013

I have ZERO qualms about beating the shit outta any man that lays hands on me without my approval. While I realize that a lot of people have this idea that women are at some kind of disadvantage when it comes to personal defense, it ain't always so. I am not a brawler/bare knuckles person. I am, however, somebody that made the decision to resist along with the accompanying preparations a long time ago. I am willing to fight and I'm sure that I can make it hurt if somebody takes a notion to mess with me when I don't want it.

Sadly, I have to say that the best strategy is prevention. Avoid getting into that situation in the first place. That's a horrible comment on our society and the culture of rape that we live with, but it is the reality we face right now. Thing is, I have to wonder, if some of these guys got worried they might get the shit kicked outta them by the intended victim would they be quite so willing to rape? Can't say for sure, but a lot of our current attitudes don't seem to be working, maybe we women need to re-think our views.

I've worked to teach my daughter personal defense. It isn't just about how to break a hold or throw a punch, it isn't just about where to hit somebody to maximize the damage and pain. It is about the mindset that you DO have a say, and you DO have the ability to react. It is also about giving her a visible role model of what it means to own your own body. THAT attitude is what I think is missing for far too many of us.

YMMV.

Laura

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10 tips to stop rape [View all] HarveyDarkey Jan 2013 OP

k and r niyad Jan 2013 #1

Forgot #11 flvegan Jan 2013 #2

#11 is a very important addition, and thank you. niyad Jan 2013 #3

Wouldn't be necessary if all men heeded # 10 HarveyDarkey Jan 2013 #7

My brother did that twice... Kalidurga Jan 2013 #4

Your brother has my respect and thanks. flvegan Jan 2013 #5

Mine too even though I hate violence. Kalidurga Jan 2013 #9

I have heard it called "Raising his consciousness in a manner he can understand". n/t whathehell Jan 2013 #11

Oh well in that case Kalidurga Jan 2013 #12

Exactly. After all, we each have whathehell Jan 2013 #33

Excellent! peacebird Jan 2013 #27

Anytime, Peacebird, whathehell Jan 2013 #34

your brother has my respect and thanks as well. niyad Jan 2013 #6

I know a guy that lived by that rule in the late '80's alittlelark Jan 2013 #13

Seems like we women need to bear this in mind as well. davsand Jan 2013 #32

I don't mean to nitpick, but #2 and #10 seem kind of redundant. Bucky Jan 2013 #8

#3 & 10, #4 & 10, #5 & 10 etc. progressoid Jan 2013 #10

Bad taste? Spider Jerusalem Jan 2013 #16

For those who are still confused: nyquil_man Jan 2013 #14

K&R burrowowl Jan 2013 #15

This was posted recently, and it creates interesting discussion. Socal31 Jan 2013 #17

In a perfect world, we would all be scratching our heads and saying, "What's rape?" nt nyquil_man Jan 2013 #18

In a perfect world, #10 is the only tip that should apply. HarveyDarkey Jan 2013 #19

I'm female... Why Syzygy Jan 2013 #22

This ^^^ attitude need to be stopped also. In_The_Wind Jan 2013 #26

# 11. Stay the hell out of Steubenville, Ohio. Divernan Jan 2013 #20

K&R. Well said. Overseas Jan 2013 #21

Needed posting again, thanks intaglio Jan 2013 #23

K&R ornotna Jan 2013 #24

~ K ~ In_The_Wind Jan 2013 #25

Here you go… MrScorpio Jan 2013 #28

Targeting the PERPETRATORS of crime with this kind of campaign is a GREAT idea. Nye Bevan Jan 2013 #29

I think the idea is to direct attention thucythucy Jan 2013 #36

Problem is, graphics like this won't *actually* deter the *actual* rapists. yodermon Jan 2013 #30

It might not Why Syzygy Jan 2013 #31

Thank you for posting this. thucythucy Jan 2013 #35