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kick samsingh Jan 2013 #1
"be annoyed with men suggesting that you should try and look more pleasant." WTF.. now, seabeyond Jan 2013 #2
sea JustAnotherGen Jan 2013 #5
Laugh, and the world laughs with you; Xipe Totec Jan 2013 #3
That's a lovely poem Gormy Cuss Jan 2013 #71
That's what the poem tells you to do - smile Xipe Totec Jan 2013 #82
No, it gives one a reason to smile. Gormy Cuss Jan 2013 #84
Ok. We seem to be perceiving different realities Xipe Totec Jan 2013 #87
First I have always loved this poem,,,, KarenS Jan 2013 #88
She is pointing out the paradox Xipe Totec Jan 2013 #103
Funny how people can read the same thing and KarenS Jan 2013 #110
That's the magic of poetry; Xipe Totec Jan 2013 #135
That's the magic of DU. n/t jtuck004 Jan 2013 #237
So the poem says: If you want to have people close, fake your feelings. pnwmom Jan 2013 #219
Yes, that is what the poem says. Bitter, isn't it? Xipe Totec Jan 2013 #223
Why the hell would a woman need some random guy on the street any closer? Matariki Jan 2013 #300
It's fine for a poem to do that, but not another person. pnwmom Jan 2013 #218
Thank you...You're spot on. You don't hear women demanding men to smile, except me whathehell Jan 2013 #228
It's rude tooeyeten Jan 2013 #241
Love Has Brought Me Around Xipe Totec Jan 2013 #341
Telling a woman to smile is so patronizing, almost like encouraging a dog to sit. Chemisse Jan 2013 #4
Yes, yes and yes Happyhippychick Jan 2013 #7
I've had college-age guys say this to me in my 30s. Brickbat Jan 2013 #8
Oh! So much for my blissful ignorance. Chemisse Jan 2013 #12
Heh, the "WTF" was directed at the college-age guys, not you! Brickbat Jan 2013 #13
Oh I know! LOL. Chemisse Jan 2013 #19
Good god, college-age guys are still doing this?? No wonder women don't feel like smiling, ever. Nay Jan 2013 #99
Not just old men CitizenPatriot Jan 2013 #28
for you... lol, seabeyond Jan 2013 #31
HAHAHA! thank you! CitizenPatriot Jan 2013 #35
i found a whole site of them. now, i am going to them for whatever the post requires. seabeyond Jan 2013 #36
that's a man worth knowing! n/t CitizenPatriot Jan 2013 #44
A whole site! Aren't you gonna share the link with us, seabeyond? nt tblue37 Jan 2013 #205
i really saw it... seabeyond Jan 2013 #210
Thanks for the link! Cool site! nt tblue37 Jan 2013 #213
"Chicken Soup for Your 'Nads" by Bob Dole? Buns_of_Fire Jan 2013 #224
She needs to learn how to transmit the FIX to his genitals. LiberalFighter Jan 2013 #94
"when men stopped hitting on me, I'd be sorry" gkhouston Jan 2013 #34
I figured that might be the truth CitizenPatriot Jan 2013 #41
Trust me, you will *love* being able to walk down a street, use mass transit, or shop gkhouston Jan 2013 #45
Ain't that the truth. I love the non-attention age brings me. I'm not so happy about the Nay Jan 2013 #101
LOL, true. And when you say "no", people realize you mean it the first time. gkhouston Jan 2013 #123
So true, so true tavalon Jan 2013 #171
Yep, going to be great for you tavalon Jan 2013 #170
So true union_maid Jan 2013 #50
I *have* reached that stage and it's .... strange. BlancheSplanchnik Jan 2013 #54
Yeah same with me. It's hard to get used to, a difficult adjustment Raine Jan 2013 #158
Your money shot is in the fourth paragraph tavalon Jan 2013 #174
Good looks can be a curse as well as a blessing, as I'm sure you've realized. Flatulo Jan 2013 #199
I hit that mark over 10 years ago arikara Jan 2013 #139
Amen a *thousand* times. nt Nay Jan 2013 #159
I *thought* I'd hit that mark long ago, but every now and then I get gkhouston Jan 2013 #172
It was never done by fabulously handsome "winners"--it was always someone spooky3 Jan 2013 #202
I'm with you! tavalon Jan 2013 #168
I'm already there and it's liberating beyond words lunatica Jan 2013 #280
I was quite the pretty young thing and I hated these salvos tavalon Jan 2013 #167
I have to comment on this: Le Taz Hot Jan 2013 #332
Holy shit....now suggesting someone smile is offensive. zeemike Jan 2013 #105
1st world problems Major Nikon Jan 2013 #126
You don't get it Lydia Leftcoast Jan 2013 #145
Oh I get it alright. zeemike Jan 2013 #152
Yeah, try getting it all the time tavalon Jan 2013 #175
You are now telling people how to feel in response to being told by strangers Squinch Jan 2013 #235
No one can tell someone how to feel zeemike Jan 2013 #250
True. No one can tell someone how to feel. So why do some people feel they need to? Squinch Jan 2013 #252
you have said as clearly as can be. if still not understood, it is purposeful. also, all the posters seabeyond Jan 2013 #267
I actually think we have much more of a women's issue today than we Squinch Jan 2013 #271
backlash. i agree. and i think seabeyond Jan 2013 #284
And so women don't have a facial preference and have no power over men. zeemike Jan 2013 #276
Has a strange woman, in whom you have no interest, ever approached you on the street solely to tell Squinch Jan 2013 #279
No but one did in a restaurant. zeemike Jan 2013 #282
One person approached you in a restaurant, long ago. In my youth, anytime I was walking Squinch Jan 2013 #285
Well long ago was in my youth. zeemike Jan 2013 #298
OK. SO we've gone around this from every angle. Squinch Jan 2013 #304
Well your compleat dismissil has been heard. zeemike Jan 2013 #306
that was a comment from a man who spent all day with you observing you "mope" for hours bettyellen Jan 2013 #318
I've had strangers tell me to smile FrodosPet Jan 2013 #333
Actually that is pretty much how I comport myself at all times. Flatulo Jan 2013 #310
You do then understand what a cynical way that is to live. zeemike Jan 2013 #313
You seem to believe that most women are always interested in engaging in a mating Flatulo Jan 2013 #314
I assume nothing of the sort. zeemike Jan 2013 #315
Well, I don't know else to tell you, Mike. You've heard it from a number of women here, Flatulo Jan 2013 #317
Well then why not error on the side of caution zeemike Jan 2013 #334
You're not being censored. You can say whatever you want to (or at) whomever you want. Flatulo Jan 2013 #336
Well you are not being censored ether. zeemike Jan 2013 #337
the point would be, there are articles, blogs and the number of time on du we have had this seabeyond Jan 2013 #339
Just one other thought: would you ever tell your boss to smile and stop frowning? Why is that? Squinch Jan 2013 #247
Well yes I would. zeemike Jan 2013 #248
I think you might want to KNOW that your boss could understand before you told him or her to Squinch Jan 2013 #254
Well I tell you the truth I would not want to work for someone as petty and vindictive as that zeemike Jan 2013 #274
What do you have to be so upset about? You should smile instead of getting so mad. Squinch Jan 2013 #277
Well anger is never attractive...and I am not trying to attract. zeemike Jan 2013 #281
The women hearing those words are not trying to attract either. Nor do they owe explanations to Squinch Jan 2013 #283
And the posts here represent all womankind zeemike Jan 2013 #307
You're clueles FightForMichigan Jan 2013 #289
So you are projecting the tension you feel on to everyone. zeemike Jan 2013 #297
Yes, perfectly tension-free FightForMichigan Jan 2013 #325
I think the women who've been replying to this thread may be misunderstanding what a man Flatulo Jan 2013 #311
Yes, you are EXACTLY right. nt Raine Jan 2013 #164
Well, I KNEW some here would fail to comprehend basic moral issues. alp227 Jan 2013 #246
I see women doing it more than men Major Nikon Jan 2013 #113
That sounds interesting. Quantess Jan 2013 #144
I have exactly what I said Major Nikon Jan 2013 #147
this same argument came up a while ago. i asked all the men and boys in my life. none of them has seabeyond Jan 2013 #151
I've been told to do so by other women, yep. Neoma Jan 2013 #157
SMIIIILE, HONEY! Quantess Jan 2013 #173
Relatives that loves to reinforce patriarchy for their men. Neoma Jan 2013 #183
I've never seen or even heard of a woman doing this to a man. EVER. kestrel91316 Jan 2013 #263
I've already said I've never done it and thought it was stupid Major Nikon Jan 2013 #291
They do it to little boys or family members, not strangers on the street. bettyellen Jan 2013 #278
Whatever you say Major Nikon Jan 2013 #292
Neoma is not a man. Ha ha. And any other guy who said they've heard it forgot we were talking about bettyellen Jan 2013 #308
That's kind of the point Major Nikon Jan 2013 #309
that people love telling women how to look and act, but spare men this bullshit? bettyellen Jan 2013 #316
No Major Nikon Jan 2013 #319
that women secretly do this to men all the time, and never admit it? and guys lie too, pretending bettyellen Jan 2013 #321
No Major Nikon Jan 2013 #322
you claim to see women do this all the time- if it was to adult male strangers, would be equivalent bettyellen Jan 2013 #323
You obviously have no idea what my point was Major Nikon Jan 2013 #324
oh please, if you had one, you'd be proudly defending it. but you posted total nonsense about women bettyellen Jan 2013 #326
Whatever you say Major Nikon Jan 2013 #328
yep, BULLSHIT. Tks for the confirmation. bettyellen Jan 2013 #330
I've been given the you need to smile more lecture my whole life mythology Jan 2013 #134
total strangers of both sexes walking down the street stop to lecture you frequently? bettyellen Jan 2013 #320
And the proof is that no straight guy would ask another guy to do that. n/t pnwmom Jan 2013 #220
Could you just imagine it? Squinch Jan 2013 #273
Maybe if I were watching South Park. pnwmom Jan 2013 #286
I keep thinking of the old westerns where the outgunned man has to "smile when he says that." Squinch Jan 2013 #287
There ya go! n/t pnwmom Jan 2013 #290
Ding Ding Ding rosesaylavee Jan 2013 #233
All about him tooeyeten Jan 2013 #243
THIS ^^^^ - I have had older male clients pull this with me while I am in the middle of examining kestrel91316 Jan 2013 #260
that is the thing. it is not even because a woman may be bothered about a damn thing. could be in seabeyond Jan 2013 #268
Nope, it's not just really old men. redqueen Jan 2013 #264
Yes, it's the Victorian ideal of the useless and decorative woman Warpy Jan 2013 #302
It IS annoying. Quantess Jan 2013 #6
Hee! Brickbat Jan 2013 #9
. Squinch Jan 2013 #293
I'd never tell someone to smile, man or woman. MineralMan Jan 2013 #10
EXACTLY! narnian60 Jan 2013 #17
Thank you, Mineral Man tavalon Jan 2013 #176
People do all sorts of inappropriate things mythology Jan 2013 #185
Love this JustAnotherGen Jan 2013 #11
Simple exercise ... Why Syzygy Jan 2013 #131
Dehumanizing tavalon Jan 2013 #177
Men still do that? They did in the sixties when I was in my twenties. Cleita Jan 2013 #14
The only man I ever heard say something like that whistler162 Jan 2013 #97
Yes, they do. REP Jan 2013 #161
My dad used to do that to me, than again he is a dentist... AsahinaKimi Jan 2013 #242
Smart guy get some free advertising! whistler162 Jan 2013 #245
Men have to learn that women aren't their little performing puppies MrScorpio Jan 2013 #15
I remember hating that as a kid Recursion Jan 2013 #16
It never has occurred to me ... 1StrongBlackMan Jan 2013 #18
That's not what we're talking about, here. Quantess Jan 2013 #20
In fact, AverageJoe90 Jan 2013 #221
That's the perfect thing to say, if anything. bettyellen Jan 2013 #25
Just curious - why is a stranger striking up a conversation less offensive than a stranger Flatulo Jan 2013 #66
Not necessarily--maybe the person is lonely and needs someone to talk to Lydia Leftcoast Jan 2013 #80
Ah, I get it. It's the condescension that's offensive. Thanks. Flatulo Jan 2013 #81
You get it. That's a great way to put it. Thanks. tavalon Jan 2013 #180
It's the condescension and the fact that "you should smile" has nothing to do with what is going on Squinch Jan 2013 #294
A stranger striking up a conversation can be welcome! Quantess Jan 2013 #86
If someone looks stressed out, it may take very little to help them out eridani Jan 2013 #109
Exactly! Quantess Jan 2013 #124
Usually, it was more, "you need to smile, honey." God, I hated that. tavalon Jan 2013 #181
Of course not! That random strangers have the right to criticize your emotional state-- eridani Jan 2013 #225
A supportive little comment is always welcome- an bettyellen Jan 2013 #141
This message was self-deleted by its author Dash87 Jan 2013 #312
I agree completely! n/t AverageJoe90 Jan 2013 #222
Well, that's it exactly. And that's why women hate being told to smile by random men. They Nay Jan 2013 #125
That is appropriate and humanizing, instead of dehumanizing tavalon Jan 2013 #179
you are also validating rather than denying their reality. spooky3 Jan 2013 #208
it's such a weird thing. that used to happen to me when i was younger, total strangers telling HiPointDem Jan 2013 #21
Really, you didn't understand the motivation? Quantess Jan 2013 #23
but so often it is the man that is a couple decades or more, older. and as the woman ages.... seabeyond Jan 2013 #30
Sometimes people are just trying to be kind, though. polly7 Jan 2013 #52
It's just IRRITATING and ANNOYING. Quantess Jan 2013 #72
Well, different experiences for different folks. polly7 Jan 2013 #83
Of course it all depends on how it was presented. Quantess Jan 2013 #96
in my memory, at least, i didn't notice any attempt to pick me up...maybe i was oblivious. i HiPointDem Jan 2013 #91
Nope. They wouldn't go tell random men to "smile". Quantess Jan 2013 #119
Thoughtless sexism tavalon Jan 2013 #182
And poopyheads are notorious for dampening any impulse to smile. Because they're poopyheads. Squinch Jan 2013 #295
I know! Tell me about it! tavalon Jan 2013 #331
I'm a little surprised that so many think this is uncommon. yewberry Jan 2013 #22
Yeah, it's amazing, isn't it? Ilsa Jan 2013 #107
That might have something to do with it. When I used to work in NYC a day didn't pass when it Squinch Jan 2013 #296
people who go around smiling marions ghost Jan 2013 #24
LOL, that's the truth. nt laundry_queen Jan 2013 #74
i had a friend like that once shanti Jan 2013 #77
Guess she knew how to work it LOL marions ghost Jan 2013 #95
To be able to hold an inner smile is a gift bhikkhu Jan 2013 #249
Inner smile is good yes marions ghost Jan 2013 #256
I think I'll take smiles on a one by one basis demwing Jan 2013 #26
I just had a guy do this to me at a gas station about a week ago. MoonchildCA Jan 2013 #27
right on to both points but LOVE the second one. hadnt thought of that but yes, i have had that too seabeyond Jan 2013 #32
Wow! I must be one ugggly babe! I don't remember anyone (other than my mother) marybourg Jan 2013 #37
Men are just looking for an excuse robbob Jan 2013 #59
OMG that is so true! liberal_at_heart Jan 2013 #329
"You should smile more." Wait Wut Jan 2013 #29
You gave him a teachable moment. If he got past his embarrassment, maybe he learned something. tavalon Jan 2013 #184
I got a great smile from a woman in the supermarket the other day. MineralMan Jan 2013 #33
ahhhhhh. that is the sweetest. that was fun MM. nt seabeyond Jan 2013 #38
I also get smiles by making kids sitting in shopping carts laugh. MineralMan Jan 2013 #49
i have a blast with people out in public and it has nothing to do with emotion on demand. seabeyond Jan 2013 #51
LOL, that is great! tavalon Jan 2013 #186
I get what yall are saying, but if a lady noticed me bumming and asked me to put a smile on Ed Suspicious Jan 2013 #39
your last sentence seabeyond Jan 2013 #40
read *my* other post! ;) BlancheSplanchnik Jan 2013 #57
Oh, Ed, that is a little sad. Below is a hug for you. But you have to realize that any woman Nay Jan 2013 #118
Conversation is welcome! I'm actually friendly in real life. Quantess Jan 2013 #166
OMFG - Yes! union_maid Jan 2013 #42
I can't imagine ever saying such a thing to anyone, much less a complete stranger. Flatulo Jan 2013 #43
I hear ya! KansDem Jan 2013 #55
It's kind of sad that we've become so insulated from each other. I would not even let my Flatulo Jan 2013 #60
My Dad used to do that. Jokerman Jan 2013 #46
That has always annoyed me! Thanks. n/t Duval Jan 2013 #47
Kicked and Recommended distantearlywarning Jan 2013 #48
+1000! It has ALWAYS been a way for men to insist that young women are to be decorative Nay Jan 2013 #98
The best way to get anyone to smile is to give a smile. A genuine smile, and a kind 1monster Jan 2013 #53
You're much braver than I am. I've never initiated conversation with a female stranger. Flatulo Jan 2013 #63
"It really is a beauty contest when you get right down to it" Lydia Leftcoast Jan 2013 #85
That may all be true for you, but it's been my experience that most women will respond Flatulo Jan 2013 #112
The key words are "when you were in your twenties" and "clubbing" Lydia Leftcoast Jan 2013 #115
Yes, clubbing was really dreadful for me. Ironically, I did meet my wife in a neighborhood Flatulo Jan 2013 #121
And that is how the good one's hook up. tavalon Jan 2013 #192
Yes, she's a keeper. We have a wonderful son who is gentle, caring, unselfish and compassionate. Flatulo Jan 2013 #198
You got a good one. I'm glad tavalon Jan 2013 #191
I once married a pretty boy tavalon Jan 2013 #189
I'm female and I regularly toss off a bon mot and a smile to utter stangers. Sometimes 1monster Jan 2013 #92
That's different from commanding someone to smile Lydia Leftcoast Jan 2013 #146
It's a beauty contest in high school tavalon Jan 2013 #188
Smart guys rock! Manifestor_of_Light Jan 2013 #209
I've been a geek hag all my life as well eridani Jan 2013 #226
You'd be surprised. Many women find a friendly word much more attractive than a handsome face. kestrel91316 Jan 2013 #275
You get it. Gormy Cuss Jan 2013 #67
exactly. nicely said. thanks. PeaceNikki Jan 2013 #120
Exactly tavalon Jan 2013 #187
yeah, I get that, it's a cheap shot pisser toby jo Jan 2013 #56
I loathe that. wildeyed Jan 2013 #58
Yep. I hate that more than ANYTHING. That and "cheer up!" Omg, I hate that SO MUCH. Butterbean Jan 2013 #137
My preferred response to "cheer up" is "Die!" Iggo Jan 2013 #150
I like that. REP Jan 2013 #162
Happened to me.. Science Geek Jan 2013 #61
I don't tell other people what to do. Warren DeMontague Jan 2013 #62
Annoying, yes. But not the most dangerous thing to say to me. aquart Jan 2013 #64
"Smile!" is the code reminder for "Adapt!" "Suck it up!" "Do what I say!" ancianita Jan 2013 #65
and "your job is to be pretty and pleasing to me if I look at you." Lex Jan 2013 #70
Yup. ancianita Jan 2013 #73
and "I'm a male, decorate my space!" Nay Jan 2013 #128
Yep. (nt) Posteritatis Jan 2013 #127
And its variation, said to a strange woman who is upset and crying Lydia Leftcoast Jan 2013 #148
One of the best/worst stories I've read about this phenomenon, KitSileya Jan 2013 #232
I never started. Iggo Jan 2013 #68
I'm 57 years old now, and I still understand less about females than George Costanza. Flatulo Jan 2013 #69
Surprisingly, we're actually people Patiod Jan 2013 #129
i was a waitress. i would smile at the old man and play along, seabeyond Jan 2013 #154
First, they're "women" and not "female biological specimens" REP Jan 2013 #163
Aaaand there's exhibit A. I managed to offend you with that comment, which is why I never Flatulo Jan 2013 #190
Actually, female is both a noun and an adjective. Flatulo Jan 2013 #230
Even better is when they add, "sweatheart" to the "just smile"... glowing Jan 2013 #75
k&r intaglio Jan 2013 #76
don't have to stop, never started watch the sky Jan 2013 #78
slightly OT - as a man I've had people tell me to smile. KG Jan 2013 #79
I've never told ANYONE to smile! Larrymoe Curlyshemp Jan 2013 #89
Yeah, it's rude. So many people don't realize that, though. tavalon Jan 2013 #193
Wow, that's a lot of drama over a smile LittleBlue Jan 2013 #90
The drama's not over a smile. Iggo Jan 2013 #153
The drama is over the rude, sexist behavior, actually. tavalon Jan 2013 #194
The first time some random person tells you to smile, you smile gollygee Jan 2013 #93
just say "huh?" marions ghost Jan 2013 #102
I'm a guy,women always tell me that women would like me more if I smiled more. athenasatanjesus Jan 2013 #100
If brought up in conversation, it is different, though. Quantess Jan 2013 #136
And, I assume he knew the women with whom he was having conversations. spooky3 Jan 2013 #204
I've heard it. It took every last bit of patience Ilsa Jan 2013 #104
What kind of obnoxious prick tells anyone to smile? DireStrike Jan 2013 #106
In my experience it's the same people who tell someone to have a blessed day Major Nikon Jan 2013 #111
I never started Major Nikon Jan 2013 #108
Gads! I hate this SO much! Thank you for posting this. Silver Gaia Jan 2013 #114
Is it always a pick-up line? gollygee Jan 2013 #116
I've seen it used both ways. Silver Gaia Jan 2013 #214
Saying something witty and amusing is better than telling someone to smile. (nt) Nye Bevan Jan 2013 #117
Ehrenreich on when being "positive" is actually negative eridani Jan 2013 #122
I am ordering that book now. MadrasT Jan 2013 #130
+1 redqueen Jan 2013 #261
I fully support anyone's right to be miserable if that is what they want. Zorra Jan 2013 #212
"Buck up, li'l Chief." DirkGently Jan 2013 #132
yes. little boys get it. BUT, do grown men. can you imagine a grown man being told to smile, seabeyond Jan 2013 #133
Grown women do NOT do this to grown men. bettyellen Jan 2013 #142
i have never seen it. nt seabeyond Jan 2013 #155
What? NO. Quantess Jan 2013 #178
I don't think I've EVER told a woman to smile. Ken Burch Jan 2013 #138
Holy cow, this is a pickup line??? Duer 157099 Jan 2013 #140
Can you even imagine a man saying this to another man he didn't know? Nine Jan 2013 #143
It also raises status and power issues. spooky3 Jan 2013 #206
I went through a period in my life where I was severly depressed. Men were always telling me to smirkymonkey Jan 2013 #149
I can't count the number of times when I was in college walking from one class to another that some Raine Jan 2013 #156
OMFG YES! Thank you for posting this REP Jan 2013 #160
THAT's what I meant watch the sky Jan 2013 #299
I live in the Northwest where Scandinavian blood runs thick tavalon Jan 2013 #165
Actually, I used to get it in gay bars on occasion. Kurovski Jan 2013 #196
LOL! spooky3 Jan 2013 #207
Since women usually laugh at me when they see me, I don't have this problem. n/t cherokeeprogressive Jan 2013 #169
LOL Kurovski Jan 2013 #195
You'd be wrong. It's my bald head, my pot belly, and for those who've seen it... cherokeeprogressive Jan 2013 #197
Well, some people aren't even schmarties, so there's that. Kurovski Jan 2013 #203
Telling a total stranger to "smile" is effing rude, period. duffyduff Jan 2013 #200
When someone says that to me, I want to punch them in the face. HeeBGBz Jan 2013 #201
I just did. It would make a very funny scene in a movie. Kurovski Jan 2013 #211
I can totally see how it would feel really annoying and patronizing. GaYellowDawg Jan 2013 #215
"You could be sexually appealing to men like me if you smiled more" dooner Jan 2013 #216
I'll remember that tap dance thing. Jamastiene Jan 2013 #217
There are different kinds of smiles: ...... meti57b Jan 2013 #227
Yes, men are uncomfortable with unsmiling women. It's like the old "grinning and shuffling" whathehell Jan 2013 #229
I totally agree with the article Shankapotomus Jan 2013 #231
I don't see how women put up with all the constant, thinly veiled aggression. retread Jan 2013 #234
I solve this problem very simply. eggplant Jan 2013 #236
I'm wracking my brain thinking when was the last time that a stranger asked me to smile. Beacool Jan 2013 #238
Agreed tooeyeten Jan 2013 #239
I used to get that all the time. It puts one in a lose-lose situation. Arugula Latte Jan 2013 #240
That gets on my nerves rainbow4321 Jan 2013 #244
It must exist, or the OP wouldn't exist. But who the hell targets women and insists they smile? Buzz Clik Jan 2013 #251
If you are a guy marions ghost Jan 2013 #262
I have seen grandfatherly types say this to someone they are trying to help. Buzz Clik Jan 2013 #265
"as younger men get off that whole Alpha Male thing"? And this would be where? Not in the news I'm WinkyDink Jan 2013 #272
The smarter ones marions ghost Jan 2013 #288
LOL. Smiling is everyone's responsibility. :-) grahamhgreen Jan 2013 #253
Covert sexism aside, I'll never understand why anyone would ask this of anyone. D23MIURG23 Jan 2013 #255
Thank u Thorn83 Jan 2013 #257
he really seems to have thought thru making that comment. not that women should appear pleasant so seabeyond Jan 2013 #270
Geez....can we lighten up? mudstump Jan 2013 #258
LOL, how this is even controversial? redqueen Jan 2013 #259
Being told to smile... awoke_in_2003 Jan 2013 #266
This is beyond stupid. First of all, "You can't complain about men not approaching you"??? Who does WinkyDink Jan 2013 #269
Jeezus - did you actually read beyond the first paragraph? Matariki Jan 2013 #301
Oh, I'm ever so grateful for the epiphany so described. WinkyDink Jan 2013 #335
When I was a young teen, my father often told me to "smile" ... He even gave me $$$ if ... agracie Jan 2013 #303
I've had it happen to me twice in my life, and both times I smiled Evoman Jan 2013 #305
I found it very difficult to get past that first paragraph. Prometheus Bound Jan 2013 #327
Stupid Girls. Zorra Jan 2013 #338
stupid girl. my 19 yr old niece played stupid not long ago. i say, wait... seabeyond Jan 2013 #340
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