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There's a lot of pushback when you point out and challenge examples of rape culture... [View all]

I'm sure many of you know exactly what I'm talking about. It's still important to do, though, no matter how many people want you to shut up. You will be mocked, you will be insulted, you will be smeared... but none of that matters. Ending rape culture matters.

The more people that speak up, the more it gives others the courage to speak up. So always, speak up. Whether it's jokes, comics, movies, songs, art - always speak up. We can't keep allowing dangerous, harmful ideas to go unchallenged. I don't think I need to explain why.

We are seeing a lot in the news that should motivate all of us to stop being complacent, and allowing the status quo to go unchallenged. Enough shrugging it off. Enough pretending it doesn't matter.


This blog post explains how insidious rape culture can be. It's long, but it's very well worth reading.

Long, but so well worth reading.


just shut up.

http://gyzym.tumblr.com/post/39004853136/just-shut-up

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But consuming media critically is a skill, and in an age where media is more prevalent than ever before, itís a skill worth having. Itís a skill worth having because you are going to continue to be exposed to media, and it is going to continue to attempt to manipulate you. Itís a skill worth having because it makes it less difficult to see people talking shit about things you like, not more. Itís a skill worth having because some of the shit being taught en masse by media is horrible scary damaging shit, and maybe you donít think youíve learned that horrible scary damaging shit, and maybe you donít think youíre susceptible to that horrible scary damaging shit, and honestly? Maybe you havenít. Maybe youíre not. I donít know you. But I know that a classroom full of average southern Ohio state school students went silent in horror at the full realization of what Beauty and the Beast teaches kids too young to know better. I know that as someone who has spent years being taught to analyze media, as someone who has actively worked to develop the skill of understanding what a given film is attempting to wring from me, I still want to see Hugh Grant kiss Martine McCutcheon. I know that the real trick to the continued, pervasive prevalence of shit like rape culture is that itís everywhere all the time, slipped in under the radar and riding on the fact that itís the status quo, hidden in plain goddamn sight.

We can argue for media that doesnít push the horrible shit we need to unlearn as a society to get to a healthier place, or we can point out the flaws in our preexisting media, or we can do both. But ďJust shut up,Ē isnít an option. ďJust shut up,Ē canít be an option, because we canít keep playing the ďNobody told me because nobody told them,Ē card. Nothing will ever get better that way. Nothing will ever improve if we keep not telling people this shit. And yes, itís easier not to watch things critically. Yes, itís easier not to engage with this stuff. Yes, as always, ďNot learning things,Ē is the easier option. And if you donít want to learn things (or unlearn them, as the case may be), thatís your right. Thatís your call, and nobody can stop you from making it. Itís entirely possible to like and even love problematic media while consuming it critically, while acknowledging its flaws, but if thatís not something you wish to figure out then thatís that, and there ainít shit anybody can do about it. But for the love of god, stop arguing that people should be quiet, should stop pointing this stuff out, should stop engaging with something in a way you donít want them to. For one thing, youíre wasting your breathóagain, itís the age of the internet. People are going to use their platforms as they please. But for another thing, thereís a huge difference between saying, ďI donít feel like dealing with this problem,Ē and saying, ďI donít feel like dealing with this problem and therefore no one else should either.Ē One of them is a personal choice, and the other is embarrassingly irresponsible. Iíll leave it up to you to work out where the chips fall on that one.


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