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ChairmanAgnostic

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28. Not sure what you mean, but

Reply to DanM (Reply #13)

Mon Dec 17, 2012, 01:26 PM

Dec 2012

since the divorce, he was pretty much absent. As in not exercising visitation, no calls, no school visits, nothing.

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I call BS: Connecticut shooter's father in "disbelief". [View all] DanM Dec 2012 OP

No parent wants to think their kid is capable of this kind of horror... cynatnite Dec 2012 #1

Good point about denial. People in denial about their kids' mental issues are . . . DanM Dec 2012 #9

actually, given the limited contact he had with his kid, ChairmanAgnostic Dec 2012 #2

Oh, another Dad-of-the-Year candidate, huh? n/t DanM Dec 2012 #13

Not sure what you mean, but ChairmanAgnostic Dec 2012 #28

How wonderful you know the father's thoughts. If only you could have seen the shooter's as well. Brickbat Dec 2012 #3

I have kids. Any parent, deep down . . . DanM Dec 2012 #11

But ... quiche Dec 2012 #24

Great! Another "Family-of-the-Year"! I see your point about . . . DanM Dec 2012 #34

What was the parent to be responsible for? quiche Dec 2012 #54

Literal vs. figurative Nevernose Dec 2012 #4

For chrissake. Sheldon Cooper Dec 2012 #5

I have kids. Any parent . . . DanM Dec 2012 #20

"Any parent" jberryhill Dec 2012 #30

Ridiculous. Sheldon Cooper Dec 2012 #47

How can you possibly know that? Major Nikon Dec 2012 #6

I'm a parent, and parents, if they truly are parents, know if their kid could be a potential threat. DanM Dec 2012 #23

I don't think it's so simple Major Nikon Dec 2012 #36

You are arguing little more than a simple tautological argument. LanternWaste Dec 2012 #58

There may have been circumstances regarding the divorce we don't know about. randome Dec 2012 #7

Precisely quiche Dec 2012 #14

That was not much of a stockpile ProgressiveProfessor Dec 2012 #45

So far, we've heard about 7 guns quiche Dec 2012 #55

It is really not that many ProgressiveProfessor Dec 2012 #69

Partly agree quiche Dec 2012 #8

Welcome to DU and I hope you enjoy the site. hrmjustin Dec 2012 #10

Thanks ... quiche Dec 2012 #19

One of the first stages of grief is disbelief so this doesn't surprise me as he arthritisR_US Dec 2012 #12

Ok, that makes sense sort of about what he said. Good point. n/t DanM Dec 2012 #26

I would be, too. No parent could imagine their child capable of such horrific carnage of children. Arugula Latte Dec 2012 #15

I think that fits "denial" as someone pointed out above. . . . DanM Dec 2012 #29

why are "they" refering to him as a SUSPECTED shooter, seems clear that he was leftyohiolib Dec 2012 #16

I hate to say it, but Daddy Lanza has probably hired a few "spin control" experts. reformist2 Dec 2012 #17

The father's life is ruined BeyondGeography Dec 2012 #18

+1 GObamaGO Dec 2012 #50

Yes, but that wouldn't be the DU Way. Bake Dec 2012 #60

Take your anger out where it ought to be aimed - gun nuts who allow all these WAR weapons Stinky The Clown Dec 2012 #21

good grief, denial after a trauma is an extremely common part of human nature. unblock Dec 2012 #22

Good point that someone else made above also. n/t DanM Dec 2012 #32

Do you have to have a personal reference when you apply for a gun registration? Tikki Dec 2012 #25

But ... quiche Dec 2012 #33

Couldn't the same rules apply to mom...and a provision to list all.. Tikki Dec 2012 #43

The mother would ... quiche Dec 2012 #44

Sigh! Yet another in an endless stream of blame the parent threads. - n/t coalition_unwilling Dec 2012 #27

agreed. Most important, the kid was an adult. Are the parents responsible for their adult kids? still_one Dec 2012 #37

Didn't you hear? sharp_stick Dec 2012 #40

Bottom line ... quiche Dec 2012 #31

They were divorced. The kid was an adult. So are parents responsible for their adult children? still_one Dec 2012 #35

The mother was surely responsible quiche Dec 2012 #52

Do you have any adult kids? still_one Dec 2012 #38

That monster was his flesh & blood he'd better The_Casual_Observer Dec 2012 #39

Father had little contact? Did not know his son started taking drugs that make you want hurt people? No Compromise Dec 2012 #41

Its not clear how much contact they had ProgressiveProfessor Dec 2012 #46

is this more mis-information? IcyPeas Dec 2012 #48

Have you a source for that? muriel_volestrangler Dec 2012 #49

would you trust our corporate media to expose the truth No Compromise Dec 2012 #57

More than a newbie who latches onto "Big Pharma" stories muriel_volestrangler Dec 2012 #64

It's one thing to think your troubled kid might be self-destructive... regnaD kciN Dec 2012 #42

The mother told a babysitter of Adam Lanza...'do not turn your back on him, not even for a minute'.. Tikki Dec 2012 #51

I agree HockeyMom Dec 2012 #56

Without a doubt, this is one of the dumbest things I've ever read on DU. zappaman Dec 2012 #53

+1 tallahasseedem Dec 2012 #59

+1 adirondacker Dec 2012 #63

you know this because....? HiPointDem Dec 2012 #61

The mother was very hostile towards the father FarCenter Dec 2012 #62

Too much alimony quiche Dec 2012 #65

Alimony is designed to preserve the standard of living of both parties as when the were married FarCenter Dec 2012 #66

I am surprised the Family Court gave custody to the gun nut mom Doctor_J Dec 2012 #67

Did the father want it? etherealtruth Dec 2012 #68

WHATEVER!! SkyDaddy7 Dec 2012 #70

I literally have no idea wtf OP is talking about. nt RedCappedBandit Dec 2012 #71