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83. But sometimes maybe they are better behaved BECAUSE they are favored! nt

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should parents of bullies be held liable? [View all] srican69 Dec 2012 OP

Sorta Kinda Agree But, bakpakr Dec 2012 #1

I agree with you .. its has to be a combination ... I think instituting a searchable srican69 Dec 2012 #10

Fact is her mom needs to be applying those punishments jeff47 Dec 2012 #22

Heck, if she isn't, she's essentially abusing her kid. KitSileya Dec 2012 #65

Many of my antagonists were kids of good teachers. HughBeaumont Dec 2012 #2

That does not absolve them of the responsibility of straightening their kids out srican69 Dec 2012 #11

Yes, but you legally own your dog. You don't own your kids. white_wolf Dec 2012 #31

disagree .... I might not own my kids ... but I am responsible for their actions. NT srican69 Dec 2012 #34

To an extent, but I don't think you can punish parents for their kid's actions. white_wolf Dec 2012 #37

I'm pretty sure that parents are responsible blueamy66 Dec 2012 #96

Parents of bullies should *also* be held liable. (nt) Posteritatis Dec 2012 #3

I agree. In_The_Wind Dec 2012 #6

My son was bullied and my daughter was sexually harassed in elementary school AngryOldDem Dec 2012 #4

some parents of bullies are supportive of their kids and are totally blind to their srican69 Dec 2012 #9

Zero tolerance for being bullied, I always called it strategery blunder Dec 2012 #14

Depends how old the kid is eridani Dec 2012 #5

my neice is 9 the bully is around the same age srican69 Dec 2012 #8

Yes, Bullying is a learned behavior n/t JesterCS Dec 2012 #7

Sometimes it's learned at school. Mariana Dec 2012 #13

True, however... JesterCS Dec 2012 #62

I was bullied, too. Mariana Dec 2012 #64

ITA about the police! nt raccoon Dec 2012 #78

"Trai n up a child..." Children are basically taught bullying either directly or indirectly. nt kelliekat44 Dec 2012 #38

I wonder if it would be prudent that if school does nothing about bullying. MassedPole Dec 2012 #12

Yes, behind most bullies are negligent or clueless parents. Odin2005 Dec 2012 #15

Behind a lot more of them are abusive parents jberryhill Dec 2012 #54

That, too. Odin2005 Dec 2012 #63

Yes, absolutely. slackmaster Dec 2012 #16

they should be required to do SOMETHING renate Dec 2012 #17

Should parents of murderers be put to death, too? Should parents of bank robbers . . . . . Stinky The Clown Dec 2012 #18

Juvenile bank robbers who are still living under their parents' roof, sure. slackmaster Dec 2012 #19

Lousy analogies ....a better one is that of a dog owner .. if my dog bites anyone - you might want srican69 Dec 2012 #26

Yes. Bullies Don't Like Being Bullied TForbster Dec 2012 #20

Yes they should...and be required to take parenting classes. Beyond that, there's always Juvenile libdem4life Dec 2012 #21

This message was self-deleted by its author Lone_Star_Dem Dec 2012 #23

I think the parents of both parties Capt. Obvious Dec 2012 #24

That is an extremely naive strategy .. srican69 Dec 2012 #25

What did the school bus driver do? He should have stopped the bus and made those children get southernyankeebelle Dec 2012 #27

seriously ? and what if a car runs over the kid? srican69 Dec 2012 #28

The bus driver on my grandkids bus tell the kids not to talk loud and by god they don't. He southernyankeebelle Dec 2012 #35

I don't recommend this. scratcho Dec 2012 #29

I am so with you on this .... srican69 Dec 2012 #30

NO. GaYellowDawg Dec 2012 #32

I often wonder how siblings raised in one family can turn out so different. southernyankeebelle Dec 2012 #39

I'm sorry, southernyankeebelle, but you and your siblings were right to cry your "eyes out" pnwmom Dec 2012 #73

Well believe it or not they really were great parents. We did things as a family. If my southernyankeebelle Dec 2012 #81

I'm glad to hear this, southernyankeebell. pnwmom Dec 2012 #84

I understand your point of view. None of my siblings were born in an orphanage. But I will tell southernyankeebelle Dec 2012 #89

Because siblings raised in one family can be treated so differently by parents. raccoon Dec 2012 #79

True but it still is something to see. I don't think my parents tried to have favorites but I guess southernyankeebelle Dec 2012 #82

But sometimes maybe they are better behaved BECAUSE they are favored! nt raccoon Dec 2012 #83

That is true am sure. southernyankeebelle Dec 2012 #88

The exception doesn't disprove the rule loyalsister Dec 2012 #40

Bullying is certainly learned behavior. Mariana Dec 2012 #52

Automatically assuming vs questioning a likely scenario loyalsister Dec 2012 #53

The parents need to be told, of course. Mariana Dec 2012 #55

Whether or not it originates at home, the parent's job is to stop it. (nt) jeff47 Dec 2012 #68

How do you know it's the exception? GaYellowDawg Dec 2012 #95

Correlation is not cause loyalsister Dec 2012 #98

No, it's not. GaYellowDawg Dec 2012 #99

"Children aren't automatons that entirely emulate their parents" loyalsister Dec 2012 #100

+1 nt abelenkpe Dec 2012 #51

Parents should be held liable for the actions of minor children. Mel Content Dec 2012 #33

No. Sometimes good people who do all the right things still end up with Sheldon Cooper Dec 2012 #36

No. People with poor parenting skills would then bully their kids pnwmom Dec 2012 #41

I also think------ scratcho Dec 2012 #43

I agree with you except for the blank slate part. pnwmom Dec 2012 #49

Good post. scratcho Dec 2012 #60

Even if the parents didn't cause the bullying, it's the parents job to fix it. jeff47 Dec 2012 #69

Are parents gods? Can they magically control everything their children do pnwmom Dec 2012 #72

If the kid needs therapy, it's their job to get it. jeff47 Dec 2012 #74

That doesn't mean that we should be legally responsible for actions pnwmom Dec 2012 #75

Again, being the parent means we are responsible, even when it's not fair. (nt) jeff47 Dec 2012 #77

Not in my state, it doesn't. Not legally. nt pnwmom Dec 2012 #85

And that would kinda be the point of this entire thread - to change that. (nt) jeff47 Dec 2012 #86

Fortunately, in my state that won't ever happen. pnwmom Dec 2012 #92

Maybe not criminally, but maybe civilly... blueamy66 Dec 2012 #97

owners are generally responsible for their DOGS' behavior. unblock Dec 2012 #42

I love your argument ... are you a lawyer? srican69 Dec 2012 #44

lol! no, but i am multi-tasking, reviewing a contract on my other screen! unblock Dec 2012 #45

You can keep a dog in your fenced yard all the time if it bites gollygee Dec 2012 #87

No.. randomtagger Dec 2012 #46

see #42 srican69 Dec 2012 #47

As the various replies here have shown, bullying SheilaT Dec 2012 #48

do you think a kid is less likely to be bullied in a private school? srican69 Dec 2012 #56

My son was no longer bullied in the private school. SheilaT Dec 2012 #93

IMO it would depend on if they have been informed that their child is a bully. If they did nothing jwirr Dec 2012 #50

I agree. Fine the parents then let the parents handle their little brats. BlueJazz Dec 2012 #57

I haven't read the thread but your story breaks my heart. former-republican Dec 2012 #58

I dont hold it against them ... kids will be kids ..that is why srican69 Dec 2012 #59

"you need parents" former-republican Dec 2012 #61

Good idea. But, lonestarnot Dec 2012 #66

Only if called out on their kid(s) unchanged behavior that cost someone. flvegan Dec 2012 #67

Now that "bullying" is damn near anything that offends anyone, no. lightcameron Dec 2012 #70

Criminal bullying, like assaults and robberies Mariana Dec 2012 #71

Instead of trying to figure out who to punish Live and Learn Dec 2012 #76

No. nt Comrade_McKenzie Dec 2012 #80

one of my mother's favorite proclomations is "That's not how i raised you to be!" Mel Content Dec 2012 #90

ouch!!!! srican69 Dec 2012 #91

Well, that's kinda horseshit if you ask me. GaYellowDawg Dec 2012 #94

i didn't ask. Mel Content Dec 2012 #102

Yes Rider3 Dec 2012 #101

Most bullies are bullied themselves DainBramaged Dec 2012 #103