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Sun Dec 2, 2012, 09:46 PM

Here's why I haven't posted a god-damned thing about rape this week: [View all]

It's because I don't know a god-damned thing about rape.

I have never been raped. Ever. Moreover, in the fifty-five years of my life, there has never been a single, solitary moment in which the possibility that I could be raped has ever troubled me, or even occurred to me.

That blissful and carefree existence stands in horribly stark contrast to the life experience of those who have been raped, and those who live their life under the ever-present threat of rape (that would be all women, everywhere, for starters).

Those are the people who know. Not me. And I can never, ever presume to school them on this topic.

When a DU stalwart posted this photo last Wednesday, I would never have guessed that it would ignite a firestorm of controversy that would rage day after day:


http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1002&pid=1898292

Oh sure, I had my opinion about it - my uninformed opinion. I thought to myself, "Gee, I'm not so sure rapists can be dissuaded from rape by a seminar that explains to them that they shouldn't do it". I also thought to myself that maybe it's not such a bad thing to provide young women, new to a college campus, with advice on defending themselves.

I kept my thoughts to myself, though - because, when I look at the woman in the photo, I'm certain that she knows much more about rape than I do. She's got to - because I know nothing.

So I kept quiet, and I listened, and I learned a bit, maybe. And I will listen more, and I will learn more. And I will not try to speak over this woman - or anyone, anywhere, who has either known rape or known what life is like under the threat of rape.

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