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In reply to the discussion: Meet the Predators (men need to learn how to recognize and fight rape culture) [View all]mercuryblues
(14,491 posts)very revealing about how some men fail to realize the domino effect of how words affect behavior. They most likely can connect the dots from the line that Obama is going to take all your guns faslehood to the high gun sales. But they refuse to connect the dots as to how misogynic language and jokes help create an environment for a rapist to feel comfortable in.
The pedophiles in the Catholic Church and the Boy Scouts would never have been so successful, if the organizations did not create an environment for them to feel comfortable enough to to violate children. Yes this is an extreme example.
Some men do get it, and instinctively or through learning do draw the line. Thank you for that. And thank you for sharing how you came to that realization. Thank you for not degrading the victims view of how they perceive some actions because you personally didn't see it ever happen.
I chose to share my story, because it was a fit for the OP. How the one guy had me against a wall and his friends were laughing as if it was funny. From a young age this kid had a support system for his vile actions. What if his friends had instead pulled him away and let him know what he was doing was not cool, would he ever had ended up in prison for rape? How many women did he rape before he finally got caught. Unfortunately these are questions that I will never know the answer to.
Redqueen, I agree just telling some men not to rape won't work. After reading thread after thread in the past few days and the GOP politics through the summer, it seems some men have to learn the definition of rape. I hope the men who do get it, do not get upset that we have to teach to the lowest common denominator.
There is a culture (and by culture I don't mean man-culture or men as a whole culture) that surrounds and in essence protects these men from a young age. Their education has to start young, way before they hit college and study results like this become the norm.
It has to be pointed out to them that by being demeaning to a woman with sexual slurs dehumanizes all women. That is what the predator among them feeds off from to justify their own actions.
Will it work with every boy, no. I suspect it would work with enough to start making a difference.