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In reply to the discussion: No, I will not feel gender guilt [View all]gollygee
(22,336 posts)That's an important issue.
We are speaking to a huge group of people, and it was kicked off by people using sexist language, and ended up morphing into discussions about rape. And then, as happens at DU, threads seem to multiply and we end up with a trillion threads about whatever the current Topic of the Week is.
But it isn't meant to be personal to any person in particular, except maybe the one or two people who posted rape apologist threads. But you weren't one of them. Most men don't rape, and beyond that most men would stand up if they saw a woman in danger of rape, and we do recognize that. We of course aren't worried about those people so when we talk about the things we are worried about, that isn't the focus of the discussion. Although it was brought up over and over again that we are well aware that it is a minority of men.
If people (men and women) didn't keep posting that rape jokes or sexist jokes and language aren't a big deal, there probably wouldn't have ended up being so many threads, because every time someone says that, it is going to prompt someone to post a new thread. And obviously the men who feel it's a personal attack against them also post new threads when they see something that bothers them. That's how the threads multiply. They don't multiply because people feel the need to tell you (either you being DU men in general or you specifically) that rape is wrong over and over again. They're just responding to something they read, as the OP of this thread was a response to something the OP read.