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Showing Original Post only (View all)My hubby & I made approx same salary for 17 years [View all]
I was laid off Oct 11.
I have applied for over 60 jobs since, and there is one good chance 90 minutes from here. I have told him I would take it if offered, as the salary is what I made before.
Tonight he was ranting about expenses, even though we have refinanced the house (dropping the payment from 2k to 500), and cancelled cable. All bills can now be covered on his salary.
Tonight he broughtt up expenses and I said we havebdone all we can, let's wait til January when hiring should pick up to discuss it. He was furious.
He said there's the door.
It was bad. Did he only love me as long as I earned pretty much what he did? 18 years....
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People can say awful things they don't mean, when they are under duress. He loves you.
WinkyDink
Nov 2012
#4
I have no answers to your specific problems but hope that after 18 yrs its not solely about the $$
riderinthestorm
Nov 2012
#8
We have not had a huge arguement like this for over a decade. We love & appreciate each other.
peacebird
Nov 2012
#27
Yes, it's difficult to determine without knowing the details or the people involved.
Beacool
Nov 2012
#38
During a crisis, sometimes you find out how strong your relationship is. I hope things work out.
Michigan Alum
Nov 2012
#40
You know the man better than we do. Is this remotely expected from him? He could be under some
bluestate10
Nov 2012
#58