Should we have a discussion about adultery?

[Warpy]

25. I think the problem might be marriage, itself

If we look at the facts and figures, adultery involving both sexes is normal behavior, yet we treat it as aberrant and abhorrent because of all the baggage surrounding monogamous marriage, most of it coming from patriarchy.

A really viable alternative is the "walking marriage," wherein families are matrilineal and matrilocal and pair bonds are formed for as long as they last, the man's residence being with his female relatives and the "walking" part of the marriage meaning he walks home every day to do whatever his family is involved in.

While many of the pair bonds last for a lifetime, there is no exchange of property and no blending of family.

It is impractical here because men don't want to give up that much power and entitlement. So we'll keep doing the fictitious monogamy while jeopardizing our homes and children, instead.

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