"My Rapist Doesn't Know He's A Rapist"

[TorchTheWitch]

36. I have no idea why you think she was raped by her ex-boyfriend

All she says about her ex-boyfriend is that he - like her friends - blamed her for her rape. No doubt that's how he became her ex-boyfriend. And likely for all the reasons she cited in her story... she drank too much, she flirted, she wore a short skirt, etc. What is unfortunately too common is that the men in women's lives that have suffered being raped not only blame them for being raped but also look at them as "damaged goods" and get angry at HER that SHE "allowed" HIS "property" to be "ruined". Seems clear that her then-boyfriend did just that with how he reacted about her being raped - not just blaming her for it but being angry at HER for "allowing" his "property" to be "ruined" as if her rape was something evil that SHE did to HIM.

The point she was making is that not only doesn't her rapist believe he is a rapist but that neither did her boyfriend or her friends and all because of what society taught them to believe about rape - that it was HER fault and that she even instigated it happening because she drank too much, flirted and wore a short skirt.

I just can't for the life of me imagine from what she wrote on her sign why in the world you believe that it was her then-boyfriend that was her rapist.