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Medical bills have been the largest single cause of bankrupcies.

I sympathize with your plight.

That's why I'm so in favor of the ACA, and feel for those in states where Republican governors and legislatures have refused to implement additions to Medicaid.

Although I have Medicare and supplement, my daughter has gotten financial relief from exorbitant insurance costs through the ACA.
Son, until this year, had only catastrophic medical insurance.
He had gall bladder trouble - ER, overnight stay, expensive tests- in Dec, and had to swallow the huge deductible.
However, based on that he got silver plan insurance beginning last January, and, when gall bladder struck again, in Feb., he was better prepared re insurance to cover the cost of the surgery, tests, etc., he incurred.

Unfortunately, once stricken, as you have been, you can only start where you are.
Many on DU are in your shoes.
That's not reason, however, to warn those who are spending large on personal technology and other entertainment, and perhaps those who have had huge problems will agree.

Posted by No Vested Interest | Thu Sep 18, 2014, 08:15 PM (0 replies)

Cheapskate? I prefer to say frugal. nt

Posted by No Vested Interest | Thu Sep 18, 2014, 05:19 PM (0 replies)

It sounds as though you are well-grounded in the legal process

that you will be initiating.

Try to keep letting her know that you are doing this out of love for her.

I am not too many years behind your mother, and I will tell you that even a most competent older adult does lose some emotional strength and will take the easy way out with some family members.
As you say, this grandson must have her bamboozled in some fashion.

Good luck in your efforts.
Posted by No Vested Interest | Wed Sep 17, 2014, 01:06 AM (1 replies)

If you must get a conservatorship, and perhaps you must,

attempt to have it as a temporary thing, rather than permanent.

During that time, get her into a housing situation - either a good independent living facility or a condo or apartment large enough to have security, etc. Hopefully. enough time will elapse where he will be forced to be on his own or at least break the tie she has with him - perhaps a year will be enough to do this.

The reason I say temporary is that recently a friend of mine, a retired attorney, has been declared incompetent at the behest of her sister and the sister's children. The situation is so tragic in that they have deprived this woman of her sense of self-worth, as well as freedom to lead her life as best as she is able. (She just turned 80, and is, in fact, losing some of her mental acuity, but the cure - declared incompetency - is cruel.

Your attention to this matter is to be applauded.
Posted by No Vested Interest | Tue Sep 16, 2014, 07:58 PM (1 replies)

Any parent with several children will tell you that

the children came into the world with distinct personalities.

Personality traits can be modified, and hopefully will, but some of it will always be present in that child, later adult.
It's a parent's job to mold each child into a kind, productive, responsible family member, and eventually, member of society.

Because of the different personalities within the family, there will inevitably be differences, even clashes as each personality works its way through childhood to adulthood.
The child's natural personality often clashes or works against the parent's personality, and, unfortunately, all adults are not wise enough or flexible enough to work through the differences to cope with the clashes in the best way.

Gender and birth order are often at play in the final result of how the family dynamics work, and it is a continuous task of parents to d monitor, direct and oversee the family in its growth.

A mighty task, indeed.
Posted by No Vested Interest | Tue Sep 16, 2014, 01:38 PM (0 replies)

I agree that facebook can be useful for keeping in touch

with out-of-town family and friends.
I'm grateful for photos of young and younger generations, about whom I'd know nothing of their everyday lives and celebrations and illnesses.
Yes, some of it's silly, but I can move right by that.
I make it a point to not post controversial stuff, and try to overlook their political stuff that's not my cup of tea. (so to speak.)
Posted by No Vested Interest | Tue Sep 16, 2014, 02:39 AM (0 replies)

Tipping chambermaids is not customary in the US. In Europe, maybe, but

not in the US.

I've seen cards in rooms - My name is Zelda (example).
Trouble is, Zelda may not be tidying your room every day - she may be off, and Rosa may be there. When you leave a tip rather than giving it directly to the individual, you can't be sure the person you want to get the tip will indeed get it.

Secondly, I don't carry much cash, and what I do have I want to be with me going out into the world. In restaurants, I use a credit card & add on the tip, same thing at the hairdresser, etc.

Many travelers have experience with cruises, where tips are now charged per diem, usually $11 or $12/day charged to your bill. That covers all staff - waiters for 3 meals/day, room maids, bartenders, and all others. If you break that down per staff member, it's not very much, and likely many travelers take their tipping cues from that experience.
Posted by No Vested Interest | Tue Sep 16, 2014, 02:19 AM (0 replies)

I've never regretted a dollar we spent on the education of

our four children. In fact, I've never counted - or added up- the amount, but wouldn't be surprised if the total was more than I could have imagined.

Two were National Merit Scholars, with scholarships to good colleges, one private, one public.
The other two children didn't have those academic talents, but still benefitted from the training as well as the education they received in their parochial and private schools.

This is not to say that I don't respect public schools. My first two went to kindergarten and first grade in our good, local public schools.
Having our religion integrated into their daily was important to spouse and me, and I do believe the kids appreciate the schooling they were provided.

I do vote for local public school levies because I want our urban public schools to be able to offer strong education to all our children.
Posted by No Vested Interest | Sun Sep 14, 2014, 08:13 PM (0 replies)

Sad to say, this would only make the local news in the US.

Family homicide is not uncommon.
Posted by No Vested Interest | Fri Sep 12, 2014, 11:54 PM (0 replies)

Whoever said Democrats/ Progressives were perfect?

I'm sure you'll find the same faults among Progressives that you find among the human race in general.
Maybe some faults more in one area and less in others.

I've long observed that there are those here filled with anger.
They may believe it's righteous anger, but that's not always obvious or even correct.
Posted by No Vested Interest | Fri Sep 12, 2014, 01:38 PM (0 replies)
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