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I truly wish I had cause to not believe what I'm about to say, but the reason why some boys ...

... go out for sports is because they think they are proving their manhood by participating in them. In fact, masculinity is often defined solely in terms of physical strength and athletic prowess. Alas, machismo is alive and well (I dare say thriving). Since the popular culture is saturated with sports, nonathletic boys are often considered to be "unmanly" and "feminized" and are likely to be bullied simply for having no interest in them.

To add injury to insult, the traditional approach to mandatory boys' P.E. historically has been exclusively centered around sports, but often without any instruction in the sports themselves! In none of my P.E. classes was there even any mention of exercise programs, not even bodybuilding. Nonathletic boys were often penalized for not already knowing something they would never be taught by their coaches. There's no denying that some of the worst physical bullying has taken place in junior high and high school gyms. To me the very idea of forcing nonathletic boys to participate in sports is boneheaded and counterproductive, not to mention cruel.

I'm not denigrating participation in sports. If a boy will feel better about himself by participating in a sport, by all means he should do so; and I say more power to him. But I would tell those who want to impose the institutionalized bullying of "sports only" P.E. on nonathletic boys (instead of supporting genuine fitness programs that actually work) to please leave those kids alone.

If I sound bitter, so be it. This was my personal experience, as well as that of other nonathletic guys I've talked to over the decades. I respect athletes for what they do as athletes; but neither will I place all of them on pedestals, regardless of the way they treat others away from the game. I grew up with a now former university football player who was an arrogant bully; but even though he was a contemptible jerk, his social standing did not suffer at all. Many of the local fans seemed to believe that any kid who excelled at a sport could not possibly be anything less than noble.

And now I'll make a positive statement. High levels of physical fitness can be achieved without participating in sports. In fact, the most efficient way to get into shape is by getting on an exercise program. Several years ago I took up bodybuilding at a local health club. I even hired a personal trainer and continue to do so today. I love working out! I love the feeling of being completely exhausted when I drive back home. I was scrawny when I was a kid, but I've achieved muscular development that has amazed me in the last several years. All the personal trainers have liked me because they know I work hard. The mandatory P.E. of my youth had done absolutely nothing for me, except to teach me to fear coaches and athlete classmates.

I'm both amazed and puzzled as to why I didn't join a health club when I was young. I'd urge nonathletic guys who need to exercise, especially those who had negative P.E. experiences, to consider joining a health club. Health clubs aren't the exclusive property of athletes. My own health club experience has even been psychologically therapeutic.
Posted by radicalliberal | Fri Aug 24, 2012, 03:11 AM (0 replies)

For all practical purposes, I'm still a newbie here at DU; and since I'm apolitical, ...

... I guess I should also be considered an outsider (with all the attendant suspicions).

Take a look at this photo ...

It was taken sometime during the first half of the last century. The 100th anniversary of his birth occurred just last month. Surely, he must have passed away by now. There is controversy over the time when he likely died.

Look at this man. What is your initial impression of him? He looks like he probably was a sensitive guy, I guess (if it could be said that sensitive guys can be recognized by their physical appearance). Well, he wasn't all that good-looking. Kind of drab in appearance. (Probably didn't score with the ladies.) He also looks rather scrawny. See how the sleeve of his jacket sags. In fact, his half-sister once said he "detested competitive team sports." Something must be wrong with guys who aren't interested in sports. Just a sissy, a wimp. So, he wasn't a real man. Probably just worked as a bank teller somewhere.

But wait, there's more ... It turns out that he was one of the greatest heroes of World War II -- even though, as a citizen of a neutral country, he wasn't a soldier. This scrawny Swede was Raoul Wallenberg, businessman turned civilian diplomat who saved the lives of tens of thousands of Hungarian Jews from the Nazi SS and the Hungarian Arrow Cross fascists. He definitely was a sensitive man. He also had great courage, as his compassion drove him to repeatedly risk his life to save others who had had no hope.

Regarding sensitive men whom I know personally, a close friend of mine played football in high school and still looks like a "jock." Great build. But he is a tender-hearted, empathetic guy who is easily moved to tears by the sufferings of others.

I'm amazed by what we men do to each other -- subjecting guys to one negative stereotype or another, putting other guys into confining boxes and whatnot ...
Posted by radicalliberal | Thu Aug 9, 2012, 11:11 PM (2 replies)
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