Back in August, I
posted a rather disheartening exchange I had with a brother-in-law on Facebook (to which I received many thoughtful and helpful replies, thanks!). Near the end of the thread, I also posted
my response. A week or so passed, and then I got this response from him:
Mark,
You have the right to post what you please but when it comes to family I hope you use better judgement.
I do believe that you are over the top on many subjects and what you may say may have some truths but some body is giving you what they want you to know and as you know somewhere there is the real truth some where in the middle .
Don't be afraid to look at both side before jumping to a conclusion.
I was, frankly, rather pissed at the condescension in his response, but I let it go, not being eager to cause a rift in the family. But it had really gotten under my skin, and has been bothering me ever since. Finally, today, I posted a status update. I referred to him anonymously, rather than as a family member, and I posted it as a status update rather than just a private message because, frankly, what he said in his response to me above is the kind of thing I often see conservatives saying. So I thought it merited a public response. Here is what I said:
Not long ago, someone I know well, a conservative, chided me that my political opinions are based upon believing "what people want you to believe." Right. I mean, it's not as if I read voraciously, and daily, from sources across the political spectrum, or seek out journalists who have a solid reputation for independent reporting or anything like that, nor is it like I have spent the last 30 years living in the nation's largest city and working in international law firms with lawyers who have been major power brokers in both parties. Yep, I've been shielded alright. Of course, I _must_ be the naive, deluded one who is taken in by political spin.
Mind you, I don't for a minute believe that any of the above qualifies me as any sort of expert. I'm just another voter trying to sort through a mountain of conflicting information, trying to determine what is or is not true, just like anybody else. Indeed, people would rightly resent it if I claimed any special insight on politics based merely on the circumstantial happenstances of my life. But goddamn it, I am a 51-year-old man with a reasonably respectable intellect and decent education who has seen his share of life's ups and downs, and I heartily resent being told that my political opinions are any less founded than those of any other adult, merely because someone disagrees with them. I do believe I am qualified to speak from my own experience, just as every other adult is. I would never discount a person's opinion merely because I disagreed with it. At a minimum, I would recognize that it is, at least in part, a product of that person's experience. I might take issue with a lack of evidence supporting a viewpoint, or if I think there is reason to question alleged evidence presented in support of something. If so, I would give you the respect, as a fellow human being, of laying out my objections honestly. What I would not do is take refuge behind some unverifiable and unfalsifiable assertion that you are the mere dupe of some vast conspiracy of folks trying to tell you what to believe. That is a cheap, and grossly condescending, shot. No, I would respect you enough to lay responsibility for your own ideas, and for choosing to lend credibility to the sources you choose to lend credibility to, squarely at _your_ feet, because I believe you, like me, are an adult who bears the civic responsibility for informing himself on the issues we face as a nation. So, please, do me the same respect -- unless, that is, you want me to remind you of exactly how provincial your outlook really is.
This person concluded his lecture by telling me not to "be afraid to look at the other side." Well folks, I _have_ looked at the other side, and have done so for many, many years. (I slogged through every creepy, self-indulgent page of both volumes of Nixon's Memoirs at the age of 16, and haven't stopped reading politics since!) I can probably summarize the GOP platform better than many Republicans. With all due respect, Republicans, i submit it is many of YOU who haven't sufficiently looked at what your party has become, or who and what your candidate really is.
Just sayin'.