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The Top 8 Ways To Be 'Traditionally Married,' According To The Bible

Faith is a very important part in many people's lives, and some people are very adamant about the government keeping "traditional marriage" alive. However, I don't think "traditional marriage" means what they think it means. Maybe instead of "traditional marriage" we can focus on two loving people being committed to one another?



http://www.upworthy.com/the-top-8-ways-to-be-traditionally-married-according-to-the-bible?c=ufb1



It's so much more complex...

There was a thread this evening (it has since been locked, thank goodness) with a poll on how many people were BOTHERED by the SI image. Of course, it linked back to the photo, just in case you missed it the first time. The poll was broken down by gender, because, you know, that MATTERS. Anyway, I wrote the following post to try and explain that I was never bothered by the image per se. The problem for me was so much more complex. The thread got locked while I was writing, and I worked hard to articulate this, so I've decided to make it an OP. I hope you can forgive one more of these threads; because I really want this one to be an olive branch.

When I come to DU, I might quibble with a fellow DU'er on whether or not Hillary would make a better candidate than Warren. Or I might disagree with someone's interpretation of the 2nd Amendment. Or maybe I'll peruse n2docs latest comic postings. But, what I least expect is an in-your-face T&A thread. The picture itself seemed out of place here. It was shocking because of the location, not the content.

Please understand, to be a woman in our society means to live with perfect bodily images all around us. From early on this happens. Young girls resort to bulemia and anorexia in misguided attempts to be "thin enough". We grow up comparing ourselves constantly to the ideal, one that even Cindy Crawford admits she cannot achieve -- as she once stated, "Sometimes I wake up in the morning, look in the mirror, and wish I could be Cindy Crawford." She knows as well as anyone how the images are all smoke and mirrors. Actually lots of photoshop, but you know what I mean - IT'S NOT REAL! So we can never BE IT. Compound that with the current war on women that is happening all across this country. Do I need to provide you with the statistics of how much less we earn, or on the glass ceiling, or how women's reproductive rights are under attack, how our bodies are unnecessarily probed?

And then we come here and see THAT! It was juvenile, no question. But more than that, it was insensitive. Juxtaposed to that image was a map of how abortion clinics are closing all across the country. There was a post detailing a woman's rape, and another one reporting some asinine chauvinist statement by a FEMALE republican. The SI post was disgusting because of WHERE it was not WHAT it was.

I was proud of myself. I ignored the SI post. But eventually, on some other stupid thread, I was drawn in. Why? Because I could no longer sit idly by and watch women being ridiculed. I had reached my own personal tipping point on the matter. Suddenly we were FEMINISTS, as if that were a bad thing. Suddenly, we were BOTHERED about an image of beautiful women - Heh, what's wrong with us? Can't we take a joke? Why are we so overly sensitive? No. No. No.

For the first time, after 10 years at DU, I had a comment hidden by jury in one of those squabbles. And rightfully so. The point I was trying to make was valid, but I was wrong in how I was saying it. I felt so ashamed.

I want to try to do better now: It's not the IMAGE -- It's the CUMULATION!

So, let's be clear -- I love a gorgeous body. I love being attractive. And Manny, I love the Beatles. But what I don't love is insensitivity, and the pretense of innocence where baiting is concerned. You are not ignorant. You know damn well what you are doing. And it is not helping women. Not one iota.

Walk a mile in our shoes. The spiked ones. They're the sexiest. Do it for a day. I dare ya.

The gender wars in GD have gone too far.

I am so dismayed by the lack of compassion pertaining to womens' issues here on DU -- the underhanded baiting, the overt and covert bullying as evidenced by threads like this:

http://www.democraticunderground.com/10024518482

The chauvinism is masked in humor and sarcasm. But they are hurtful and serve no purpose other than inflame. And yet, it has 85 recs, and survived a jury 6-0. What has happened here on DU?

The ugliness is also justified by comments like "Well, she's a woman and she thinks it's okay!" As if chauvinism is a male-only club, which it certainly isn't.

When did the Sports Illustrated swimsuit issue cover become a political thing?

Juries are not banning these threads. Some DU'ers applaud the discussions as though they are somehow a good thing. The only solution I can see is a separate forum for anything that is gender based. If it has gratuitous sexy images for no apparent reason other than to titillate or provoke, then send it to the gender war forum. If a gender is inserted into the title, yet is not pertinent to the OP, send it to the gender forum. If gender warring takes over the comments, send it to the gender forum.

Please refer to my thread here (which also fell into more gender warring. Unfortunately.):

http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1002&pid=4516254

Just please, please, PLEASE do something. This would not be allowed for one second if it were race-baiting or threads underhandedly attacking the LGBT community. So why is it allowed with women?

People are getting hurt. It's bullying. And it diminishes DU.

Thank you for your time and consideration in this matter.



Can we PLEASE have a "gender forum" where all gender-based threads can go die?

Rules could look something like this:

**** If a gender is called out in the OP, but has no pertinence to the topic, it belongs in the gender forum.

**** If the OP is gratuitously sexy for no reason other than to be sexy, it belongs in the gender forum.

Threads about real political topics where gender is a factor, including rape, abortion, LGBT threads, etc., would not belong in the gender forum. Political satire can also be excluded. But the gratuitous stuff...get rid of it.

Any other rules?

I'm just so sick of the gender wars going on right now in GD. It diminishes DU. I honestly think some kind of rules need to be established.

Am I alone in this wish?


How Vladimir Putin protects Russia's children



http://www.dailykos.com/story/2014/02/06/1275105/-Cartoon-How-Vladimir-Putin-protects-Russia-s-children

Hoboken mayor reveals new documents

Wed Jan 29, 2014 at 05:48 PM PST
Hoboken mayor reveals new documents
by Ismay

On CNN, she showed a letter sent to Christie dated February 23, she wrote:

"Just as shore towns are not being asked for development in exchange for protecting them from future storms, the solution to Hoboken's flooding challenges cannot be dependent on future development."

Watch it yourself here:

This letter shows she was being pressured for a long time... If she wanted Sandy aid, she needed to help the governor's pet project.

Christie's career is finished. As yoda says "At an end your rule is, and not short enough it was".

http://www.dailykos.com/story/2014/01/29/1273584/-Hoboken-mayor-reveals-new-documents

Shark Attack - An Alarming Statistic ***dial-up warning: huge graphic***

Christie's office subpoenaed!!

Fri Jan 17, 2014 at 06:06 PM PST
Christie's office subpoenaed!!
by FisherOfRolando

Just now on the Rachel Maddow Show.

"The Office Of The Governor" also the office of his re-election campaign.

6:26 PM PT: State Rep Wisniewski said that this includes anything written by the Governor. The people subpoenaed have to turn in their cell phones.

http://www.dailykos.com/story/2014/01/17/1270585/-Christie-s-office-subpoenaed#20140117182604

Lukovich nails it again...

George Takei: Meanwhile in most of North America...

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