I want to extend a special greeting to all adoptees and fostered individuals. And to all our birth parents and other relatives who spend the years we are away from them wondering, worrying about us always praying we will some day return home. We thank you for those prayers for it those prayers that has kept us here and brought us home. Our voices have been silent for many years. Now the time has come to tell this side of the story.http://wearecominghome.com/ComingHome.php
I have found my way home thanks to a wonderful search angel. I have found my mother...and two sisters!!!!!!
Blessed be the children and women of relinquishment, we will find each other eventually!!!!
This piece from The American Prospect discusses the US avoidance of the international community's actions to protect the poor, women, and children.
The U.S. government appears to be unique among Hague contracting states and most of the international adoption community in rejecting the use of the term “trafficking” to refer to illicit adoptions.... This can be especially confusing when reading the text of the … Although the text explicitly refers to the prevention of child trafficking as one of its primary objects (Article 1b) … the U.S. government rejects the idea that child-buying for adoption is trafficking.
This position is not shared by many of our foreign counterparts. For example, in many african countries… fraudulent intercountry adoptions are officially referred to as trafficking. In December 2010, Ethiopian officials accused a Minnesota-based of child trafficking for placing children without a birth parent’s consent.
You can see now why the United States doesn’t define the case studies mentioned above as trafficking. Those children may be transported—but not into slavery. Children taken fraudulently into adoption are merely transported from truth to lies. While there’s always a loss at adoption’s beginning—a child loses her first family—the new family is formed with love and generosity, not intent to exploit. Yes, those children’s birthfamilies are exploited when their offspring are taken for someone else’s gain. You could say that they were trafficked into loss. But those foreign families' exploitation—their transportation into grief—is not the concern of the US government.
The United States should join the rest of the world in defining trafficking. When a child is bought, defrauded, coerced, or abducted away from its birth family to be sold into adoption, call it trafficking. And deal with it accordingly.
E.J. Graff writes on social-justice and human-rights issues, particularly discrimination and violence against women and children; marriage and family policy; and lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender lives. She is a resident scholar at the Brandeis Women's Studies Research Center and the author of What Is Marriage For? The Strange Social History of Our Most Intimate Institution (Beacon Press, 1999, 2004).
In October 2010 I met a little boy for the first time in an "orphanage" in Kampala. He had been there for just under a month and he was the saddest baby I had ever met. I prayed when I got home that God would do a miracle and that they would find his parents, because I just felt that he was missing somebody very, very special.
When I returned to the "orphanage" a week later - he was still there. I was so shocked that his family hadn't come to pick him up, because I was convinced there had been a huge mistake and that they were bound to have found him! I had lots to learn.
Many people think that "orphanages" are full of orphans (double orphans with no other known family), or that they were pit latrine babies (thrown in make shift toliets) or that they had been abused and removed from their families by the authorities. I didn't know that children could end up in "orphanages" because of mistakes, poor processes and lack of record keeping or because of miscarriages of justice.